I don't understand why I have a hard time being happy?

Question

Sometimes I feel like I'm just too quiet or too boring for anyone to like me. I've always had this very 'mature' attitude about things for as long as I can remember (since beginning of highschool?). I would go to few parties but I did amazing in high school. It's hard for me to be really lighthearted about situations. I keep thinking, why should I be super happy, if I'm yet to reach my life goal (want to be a doctor). If I'm not thinking that, I'm think about some other school projects which consume me. I get really intense with things and it hard for me to concentrate on anything else.

I admire people who can just let it loose, but I just can't do that. I feel like I'm always self-loathing (e.g. there is a guy that got into med school. I didn't this year, I'm going to grad school. I keep thinking, people like that will obviously think I'm not smart enough and just not bother with me)

Sometimes I'm ok, and other days it really bothers me... Help?

Answer 1

Your brain is trying to make you immortal and pull you away from things in the world that don't serve that purpose.  You might think you don't want to think about that, and that you'd rather be a doctor, but it doesn't matter.  Your concentration abilities will continue to fail and you'll eventually have no choice but to drop out of school due to lack of focus.  You will begin to feel bodily changes telling you you're becoming immortal, too.

Answer 2

First, learn to accept or like yourself the way you are. Your lack  of confidence seems to be your biggest problem. Then you'll see that people will begin to like you as well :)

Answer 3

Here's the thing, you don't have to be great on paper to be great!  You certainly have talents that are amazing, everybody does.  The thing to do really is focus on that, that's not to say give up on everything else, no no no.  But to be successful you first must feel successful.  You can best do this by focusing on what you are good at.  Once you have that feeling in you, then take it to area's of life that you find more of a challenge.  Make sense?  If you approach a difficult task felling like a failure you just won't have enough motivation to succeed.

I have a website that goes into much more detail, you might find it useful.

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

Best of luck with this.