I don't understand why guys ignore me?

Question

My friend Nicole is really easy to get along with and ALL the guys want to talk to her and be friends with her. Everytime we meet a new guy or there's a new guy at work she'll always go up to him and talk to him as if they'd known each other for years. By the next day, they're best friends.

I don't understand, when i talk to them they seem shy and uneasy, scared even, as if i'm going to bite their heads off! I wouldn't say i'm mean, i'm a nice person, although i don't believe in lying, or changing myself to impress others and i don't go out of my way to befriend people who i'm not interested in. I have guy friends but they're all the guys who other, so-called "cool guys" pick on. I'd just like to know, do i come off as arrogant? Or is it even possible for guys to be friends with girls without expecting "something" in return?

Answer 1

They probs think your too good for them mentally i.e. overtly intelligent and such so yeah you may come off as arrogant and intimidating as well as not as "easy" and easy going as they'd like due to their perception of you as a goody two shoes...

not nec. a bad thing as it means the guys who do talk to you are more likely to be of intelligence and have some values :)

Answer 2

hmm very tough to answer this one... without knowing you or more about you at least..  Everyone is different, my suggestion is not worry about ALL the guys your friend is Friends with or how they act towards you, but focus on yourself and your Friends... It is possible for guys to be friends with girls without expecting something in return, however I would say at some point whether they expect something or not they have thought it about it!

Answer 3

That's the thing.If one comes on friendly it could be taken the wrong way..

Answer 4

I don't know you so I can't say if you come off as being arrogant or intimidating. How men react to you, however, is definitely in relation to something you are doing and I don't suggest you change unless YOU want to change. I just suggest you start to monitor your own behavior towards other people and make a mental note of what you are doing or saying that may be different from other people and see if that makes a difference.