I don't wanna have a baby at 15!!!?

Question

i'm not pregnant but i was just thinking, i don't wanna be a teen mother. i'm not a virgin and i haven't had s*x since may (that was the first time). since school is coming back i feel i will be tempted/ pressured to have s*x again (i was pressured into it the first time) so what can i do so that i will be less tempted?

Answer 1

1. You are too young to have s*x! 2. Think about the consequences. 3. Find something to replace your temptation. For example, a sport, or a game. Talking to someone in real life about this might be better than yahoo answers.

Answer 2

Don't hang out with people that will or have pressured you.  Make sure you take along a friend to any outings you go on that will watch out for you.  Make it apparent to a guy that you are not interested in s*x at this time; but that you can still hang out and have fun ~ just don't do it alone until you can trust yourself!

I am so glad to see that there are still youth out there that want to be safe ans responsible.  That means you care about yourself and your future!

Good Luck!

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Answer 3

keep a few condoms always ALWAYS with you and say a bo

ig no to s*x without condom and honey let him keep the condom on all the time while you are doing it coz you can get pregnant from a pre ejacuation .. take care of your self coz no one else will . !  

Answer 4

Say "no" or failling that at least use protection. Condoms not only reduce your risk of pregnancy but reduce the risk of you contracting any number of STD's such as AIDS and Hepatitis.

s*x is supposed to be sacred. Don't give it up so easily!  Look beyond the short term benefits/gratification and see the long term risks. Is it really worth it?

Are you sure that what you call temptation is not just you being manipulated? If you were pressured last time take a long, hard look at why you bowed to that pressure. What was the trade off?

You seem to have little self-respect. But you do have one very important thing that gives you great power: CHOICE. Ultimately it was and will be your choice to engage in sexual activity - choose wisely.

Please talk to someone close to you about this. If not your parents then someone you trust. It sounds like there is a lot more going on here than meets the eye.

Answer 5

Make lots of friends. Hold your self accountable. Spend lots of time in groups of friends not alone. Never go to a party that is not chaperoned by an adult. Only go on group or double dates.

s*x is great... but it's worth the wait.

Your education is most important. You only have High School for 4 years. You have a lifetime to worry about s*x.

Answer 6

well first u need to talk to ur parents and get on some type of birth control so in u dont have that misake happen!!!! and second off u are u not no one else do whats in ur mind not what others tell u who cares if they dont think u r cool because u aint having s*x at least u know ur safe and wont become a teen mother  

Answer 7

Masturbation can help keep your sexual urges in check.

Try not to be alone with a guy and definitely don't mix boys with alcohol or drugs. That's just trouble when you're trying not to sleep with someone.

If you do go to parties, etc, make sure you go with another girl who will look out for you and keep you in check.

Just in case? Always carry a condom and maybe some spermicide. If you just can't resist temptation, at least make him wrap it up.  

Answer 8

You should be prepared in case you can't resist temptation.  Either get birth control for yourself or carry condoms (you should be using condoms even with another form of birth control to protect you from STD's).  If you really want to abstain from s*x (at least until you are in a relationship), then make the DECISION not to have s*x.  As you mature, you'll learn that your life is composed of a series of decisions.  Making the right ones will give you the best chance at a full, happy, and productive life.

Good luck.

Answer 9

If guys are presuring you, they are not your friends and are only making you out to be a w***e. If you want to have s*x, date the guy first, learn some self control!!! If you cant control yourself, get on birth control and for God sakes use a condom!

Answer 10

Don't put yourself into that type of situation. Your parents, and the guy's, should never allow you to close the bedroom door when you're in there. I wasn't allowed to even bring a boy in my room until I was 17. Even then, my parents were in my face the whole time.

You have to remember that you don't want to have s*x (at least by how you sound now). You have you stand up for what you believe in. You have a long road of that ahead of you, so now's the time to practice. Plus, guys are at the point where they're just using some girls to get some. It's not worth risking giving up your whole life over a kid this early. As my mom used to always say, guys are only out to scratch their ****s. They don't care about anything else.

Answer 11

Have a reality check: Watch a real childbirth film, that way every time you think of having s*x, you'll remember exactly what to expect when you're giving birth. It's enough to scare anyone into abstinence.  

Answer 12

Don't date and if you do date, tell the guy that you don't want to have s*x because you don't want to make any mistakes that might mess up your life. And if he still wants to have s*x with you, tell him to **** off because he's a selfish b*****d and he's not worth it.

Answer 13

All you have to do is make a firm, conscious decision not to have s*x.  It's really that simple. You're 15. You're getting your primary education.  Then comes higher education.  And then a beautiful career.  Don't you want the best for your children?  It's all up to you.  You have to look at the big picture and not get caught up in the here and now.

Answer 14

SELF RESPECT. Nobody can pressure you to do anything you dont actually want to do. If you dont want to be a teen mother, then dont have s*x as a teen. its that simple. If someone tries to pressure you to have s*x, just think about the sound of a baby crying and I think you will do alright.  

Answer 15

just swallow or take it in the as#

Answer 16

YOU! are in charge of your body.  Unless you were raped, you were not *pressured* into anything.  So when he whips out that thing  ... ask him if he wants to be a daddy.  And, if he does, he needs to find someone who wants to be a mama.  You still got a lot of living to do before the babies start coming!

Answer 17

well just remember any boy who tries to pressure into doing something you are not ready to do , needs to get lost, their are plenty of good young men who are going to respect you. treat yourself like a "princess" and any guy that comes into the picture make sure he knows you are to be treated like a lady and nothing less, this way you get rid of the losers and mr. right can come along. congrats to you for making a very responsible desicion. hope this helps

Answer 18

Hang out with different friends.  Make sure that you're never placed in a situation like that again, where you are likely to be pressured.

Talk to your friends.  Let them know about your desires, maybe they can help you and stand up for you.

Good luck.

Answer 19

I just don't understand how you could be pressured into doing anything? Are you that weak, or you just don' care.  But at least you have realized a fear. Think harder or search and read online what all those teen mothers have to go through for the rest of their life.  You can't be that easy/gullible? Must work on your individualism and self esteem.

Answer 20

Don't allow people to pressure you into things that you don't want to unless you are ready to deal with the consequences. If you don't feel like you're able to resist the peer pressure or find that one person that means a lot to you then I highly suggest that you get on birth control and use a condom since the pill doesn't protect against STD's.

If you aren't sure then go and talk to your parents or another adult that you feel comfortable with. I bet they would understand and help you out.

Answer 21

So keep that thought in your mind when a guy asks you to have s*x.  You're not ready to be a mom.  Even with protection.. there are failure rates.

Maybe for support you can look into a "purity" ring or something.  Even if you're not a virgin.. its never to late to turn a new leaf and make a pact to yourself to wait for s*x.  You might have a friend who is also wanting to make that pledge.. you can support each other on your decision to take care of your bodies and wait for s*x.

Answer 22

Just remember that if you are pressured into it, they are likely to be taking advantage of you. Have some self respect; even if they don't. I'm not sure where you live, but if you are in the UK rememeber that you have to be 16 or over !!  

Answer 23

well don't have s*x.  know what you want and don't allow someone to pressure you.  If they start pressuring tell them no and stop seeing them.  

Or if you want to have s*x which would be the only reason to have s*x then make sure the guy wears a condom, and think about usinga female contraceptive as well.

Oh and just to make sure you don't do anything stupid "double protection" means that both you and the boy use protection, it does not mean the boy uses more than 1 condom.  Using more than 1 condom at a time can lead to the condoms breaking.

Answer 24

Don't get me wrong, but it's fairly simple.

If you don't want to have a baby, use protection, or double protection or just don't have s*x. It's that simple.

If you want to have s*x, go do whatever you want, but please, for your own good and his, use protection!

Answer 25

Say no. Seriously if you really don't want to then don't do it. No guy is worth just putting yourself out there if you feel pressured into doing it. So tell the guy no. If he gets upset or angry, oh well. If your friends are pressuring you into having s*x by talking about it or something similar like that, just tell them that you really don't want to be having s*x at your age because of the consequences that it can have. You'll feel better about yourself if you do what you really beleive in.

Answer 26

well 1st you should always respect your body and should never let anyone preassure you into something you dont want to do! i cant really help you because it is your body and you make these choices not your parents not your bf if you got one but you! hpe this helped....and theres something called a condom!!!....so if you dont want to be pregnant at 15 then have protected s*x or go on the pill or injection.....

Answer 27

Just dont have s*x.Thats a surefire way not to get pregnant, plus people wont think your a slag.

If a guy pressures you, ask him how much he would want to have s*x with a big pregnant girl or whether he wants to be a teen dad or not. Tell them your not willing to take the risk, and just go away from them so your not tempted.

Answer 28

Don't get yourself in that situation . Another thing, Don't let anyone pressure you to do ANYTHING that you don't want to do. Guys will come and go but when it comes down to it, if you get pregnant you will be the one to suffer not the guy.

Answer 29

You are a mature young lady.  If people try to bully you just stand up for yourself.  Say 'No thanks i don't do that sort of thing'

Stay with your girlfriends, or if you haven't got many close mates join an after school club where you can meet people interested in things rather than s*x.

You really don't have to respond in this way. An oversexualized teen is sometimes the result of a person who has been sexually mistreated as a child.  Talk to you school councellor about this behaviour and ask their advice.  

You are strong and mature, you can say No.  

Answer 30

Take control of your life and do not give up control to anyone else.  Make up your mind that you are not going to do it.  Most importantly, make friends with girls who will support you and avoid girls who are going to pressure you to do it to fit in.  Don't date a boy who doesn't respect you.  If he respects you, he will respect your decision.  It will be hard but you can be in control of your life.

Answer 31

Just don't have s*x, simple as. All you have to do is push the guy away and say no. All it takes is some self-control.

If you insist on having s*x, then get on the pill and always use a condom.

:)