I don't want stupid kids- would you?

Question

I was talking to a co-worker last night and I mentioned I didn't want stupid kids(i have 4) and I will try everything in my power for them to be smart. was that wrong to say? am i concidered a bad mom just because i don't want dumb kids?

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your children and pushing them (within reason) to succeed, however, if one of your children does turn out "stupid" I would hope you would accept them as they are and not make them feel bad about it.

Answer 2

Wow. You are a bad mom. I personally think you should love your child the same way.

Edit:

It's CONSIDERED.

Not concidered.

Answer 3

I won't mind, because I will never think of my child as stupid - no matter what. And I will love them all the same no matter how clever they are, or aren't.

You don't sound too clever yourself.

Answer 4

I think you're using the wrong choice of words to explain your feelings. I think anyone would be taken back by that comment.

Answer 5

You said it in a really bad, ignorant, and rude way. What I hope you mean is 'I want my kids to reach their full potential' right?

Answer 6

No, I think that's fine. LOL. I don't want dumb kids either. I mean, kids are hard enough to deal with anyway, but if they're dumb...

Anyway, I think it's good to encourage them in anyway you can and be supportive of their learning. That way they can live up to their potential. And if it happens that they aren't super-smart (which, most people aren't geniouses anyway), then you love them anyway, which is really the key to being a good mom, in my opinion.

Have a nice day! : ]

Answer 7

no its not wrong to want smart kids, but its wrong to love them based on how smart they are.

Answer 8

Not that its bad...its just, you should love your kids no matter what. Of course you can make them try harder with everything they do, but there your kids and aren't dumb. Would you like it if your mom called you a dumb child? Or if one of your friends agreed with you that your kids are dumb, you would get mad that someone called your kids dumb, but u wouldn't care if you did.

Answer 9

if you re stupid then your kids will be stupid you sound stupid to me and a bad mother poor kids...

Answer 10

You can't really control whether your child isn't that smart If he is stupid, then you should love him just the same.

Answer 11

Yes, it was wrong.

Yes.

A real mom would love her kids no matter what.  It wouldn't matter to her if they were smart or not.  They will know it too.

Answer 12

nope that doesn't make you a bad mom obliviously your trying to make them have a better future

Answer 13

I do not blame you. Personally I don't know how much smart and dumb exist because there are other factors like study habits that work into the equation. So though it does exist to have a knack at certain topics I don't know how wrong it is to wish for them to simply be attentive.

Answer 14

i think it is important to encourage our children to be the best they can be, and be proud and grateful for what they are capable of even if that falls below what is considered normal (what you would call stupid)

i think it may have been a bit insensitive, and no your not a bad mom.

Answer 15

um well the way you said it is kinda bad but your good in your thinking lol

Answer 16

I guess it sounds bad the way you put it, but I think I agree with what you're trying to say.  You want the best for your kids, and in your books that means they need to be 'smart.'  Just be careful though, there's a whole lotta ways you could define smart, and sometimes its not something you can work on.

You mean well, it just came out the wrong way.

Answer 17

There are no "stupid" kids. Yes that was a very "stupid" thing to say and it shows your own ignorance as well. I would not say you are a bad mom but you are certainly not the brightest bulb on the tree either.

Answer 18

It just doesn't sound nice..... But if that's how you feel then no one can condemn you for it. It's not always a child's fault why they are not as bright as another child, but i wouldn't call a child dumb. Certain situations and circumstances may hinder a child from absorbing info. But they can also overcome that obstacle. My little brother always had trouble in school when he was younger. Now he has a 3.5 gpa at UCF majoring in Political Science.

Answer 19

Wow, you're really shallow! That's awful to say, everyone does or says stupid things even children! They're not always going to think and do smart things, and as their mother you're suppose to appreciate them no matter what! I have a brother whom is disabled, and in my eyes he's not stupid at all. He's very smart, all children are smart and have potential, some of them just don't show it right away! Shame on you for even bringing that up to your co-worker!

Answer 20

My mom always told me when I was growing up that it wasn't about how well I did, it is about how much effort I put into what I am doing.  For example, I had a hard time learning to read and do math at first but she saw how hard I was trying to learn and the fact that I wasn't one of the top students in the class didn't matter because I was trying my best.  I am always going to tell my children the same thing because it makes them feel better about it.  I think you should love your children no matter what, and of course no one wants their child to be "stupid" but not everyone is a genius.  

Answer 21

You're worried about having a dumb child, yet you can't even spell!

Answer 22

You should love your kids whether they're super-geniuses or not the brightest crayons in the box. Children are a gift, you need to treat them like it.

Answer 23

I think that would make you a bad mom. A kid can't help how smart they are. I'd love my kids the same no matter what.