I don't want to be bridesmaid?

Question

oh jeez 2 weeks to go and i so don't want to be bridesmaid i feel sick! i'm the only bridesmaid, i don't really know the bride (she's my fellas mates bird!) and i'm sure i've only been asked cos he's best man. don't wanna go on hen do either. won't know anyone. its my own wedding in 10 weeks got enough on my plate. i'm not having bridesmaids as i'm not particularly close to any girls all my mates are lads and certainly not having a hen do myself. aaaghhhh! how do i get through this? it's too late to pull out. wasn't even really asked to do it either, she just told me i was her bridesmaid, what could i say???

Answer 1

Are you from an Austin Power's movie? Does anyone still say "lads" and "hens" and "birds"?

Answer 2

Please don't pull out on this bride now. Although you feel like you don't know the bride; perhaps you should have told her that when she asked you to take part in her wedding. This will crush her to pieces. Just hang in there & do the very best you can. I know it's tough especially since you're getting married soon; do everything you can to stay on task & more importantly get some rest...

Answer 3

Sorry you're stuck now, so grin and bear it. Go in with a positive attitude, relax and try to enjoy yourself.

Answer 4

just do it.maybe shes like you,dont have any friends that are female just guy friends.in most states you need 2 witnesses,so just be a good person and do it

Answer 5

you need to grin and bare it.

You could have said "Gee friend, I didn't know i was a bridesmaid but I don't have the finances as my honey is the best man in the wedding.

your not supposed to rant on Y!A

Answer 6

It's to late to pull out now, if i was the bride i'd be very stressed and nervous and my bridesmaid pulling out would be the final straw, so unfortunately you'll have to grin and bear it. Have you not got a female friend or sister you can take on the hen night with you? at least then you'll have someone to hang around with. As for the wedding don't worry to much you've got your fella there with you so just stick by him and warn him not to leave you on the day cos you'll feel daft. Good luck with this and your own wedding

Answer 7

Dont say nothing now...you should have said something the first time you were "forced to be bridesmaid"...not 2 weeks before the wedding.  As a bride, I rather hear a NO than knowing that someone dont want to do it and is.  It seems like you have a voice...why not use it in the appropriate time.

congratulations to you and hope no one wants to back out on your wedding at the last moment.

Answer 8

Not to be harsh, but that was something you should of thought of before accepting. It would be horrible to drop out two weeks before the wedding, so stick with it. You could have said, "No." Such a little word that so many have trouble with.

Answer 9

just suck it up, put a smile on your face, it'll be over in a couple of hours.

Answer 10

I would have told her no to begin with but since you haven't, just grin and go with it. Good luck.

Answer 11

Even though you "weren't really asked to do it" you have participated in some way shape and form and now you need to deal with it.

Have fun, go to the hen party, who knows you may end up getting a few more new friends!

FYI my wedding was June 20, 2008 and my brothers wedding (that my newlywed husband and I were in their wedding party and they were in our wedding party) was on July 5, 2008.  We all handled it quite well.

Answer 12

You can't back out on her now! Would you want one of your bridesmaids to drop out on you 2 weeks before your wedding!? No.... So do the best you can. You should call her and ask if she needs help with anything. Have fun!

Answer 13

just relax u might enjoy it you never know

Answer 14

You are stuck now just just be mature and do it.  You can't back at at this late stage.  You should have never agreed to do it in the first place.  Don't use your own wedding as an excuse for not wanting to do it.  It is just one day so just but on a smile and do it.

Answer 15

Try saying that yes you are honoured to be asked to be a brides maid. But kindly explain that you really just don't have enough time to do that. Since you are getting married . Congrats on that by the way.