I don't want to but i have to???...best answer gets 10points?

Question

my dad made my brother and me do Judo , but i really don't like doing it..im just not that type of person, i prefer playing the piano... but if i tell me dad, he'll just get disappointed in me..how can i tell him that i dont want to go judo without him getting disppointed in me...

Answer 1

just tell him what you really wanted and though he may be disappointed at first, but he will eventually get to accept that his offsprings has different taste and likes in life, no two individual even twins would have same likes and dislikes.

Answer 2

give it time...you will appreciate being able to throw a guy around that won't take no for an answer

Answer 3

Dad, I'm sorry, but I don't think judo is right for me.

Answer 4

You don't like Judo? How dare you?

Just tell him what you told us. Any good father would understand.

Answer 5

Maybe he thinks you like it. If you haven't told him, he could be saying things to support your decision.  Just tell him that you think judo isn't your thing, although you can see the self defense benefits.  Tell him you do like the piano alot.

Answer 6

"Dad I'm a pacifist."

Answer 7

Sounds familiar to me. All my Kids took some form of martial arts for a while. I insisted they stick it out for a few months to see if it would be their "cup of tea" . It turned out that it wasn't. I was a little disappointed yet satisfied that they at least learned a little self defense and one of them used it to fend off two bullies that had him cornered. My daughter plays piano and guitar. She minored in music education at The University of Delaware. She plays keyboard at church and regularly fills in with for a guitar player with a rock group. She still practices the self defenses she learned in Her martial arts classes. Your Dad may want to feel you can handel a bad situation. Dads that have daughters live in a constant state of worry these days. I think you need to talk these things through with your Dad. Perhaps you can reach a compromise.  

Answer 8

That's a hard one. It's even harder to answer because I don't know what kind of guy your dad is. I'll do my best.

I am sure your dad knows you well. If this is the case then he should understand if you tell him you that you don't enjoy it. I would take him aside and tell him how you feel. Be really honest about your feelings, even about worrying that you'll disappoint him. It might help for him to know that. Honesty  always works best.

Another thing is that playing piano is really great. He would probably be just as proud of you for taking piano lessons. I hope for you that if you share your love for the piano with him then he would understand and not be disappointed. The important thing is that you gave judo a try.

Good luck!  

Answer 9

Honesty is the way to go.  Tell him you would rather play piano.  If he insists that you take Judo lessons, try to work out a compromise.  If you do Judo for 3 months and still don't like it maybe he'll let you switch to piano lessons.  It may be that he wants you to engage in some sort of athletic activity for your health - maybe you can find something else you like.

Good Luck.

Answer 10

Talk to him. I don't mean talk at him and argue that you don't want to do it. I mean talk and listen. Find out why he wants you to do it, and try to see if he has a valid point in it. Then, explain your feelings. Come to an understanding, and explain that you don't want to disappoint him, but you're just not comfortable with it.

I actually play the piano myself. I believe in balancing my time in the dojo with time doing something creative. Maybe doing something somewhat destructive will be good for you, I don't know. But it's important that you enjoy what you do or else you'll never have the focus to do it.

This is frankly one of those steps to adulthood. Everyone has to tell their parents at some point that they don't want to do what they're being told to do. Many times, it's a case of having to do what you don't want to anyhow, but if it's just to take up time, then there's likely another way.

Good luck, and don't get discouraged. Life has a way of only throwing at you just as much as you can take.

Answer 11

1) Give it a chance

2) Realize it has a self defense application which is a useful life skill and treat it like school

3) exercise is important, if not judo find another sport you might like.

4) just tell your dad you don't like it and don't think it is for you but that gicen points 2 and 3 you will give it a few more weeks to see if you change your mind. This at least lets him get used to the idea before you quit.

Answer 12

Your piano lessons are going to be really useful if you get attacked some day!

Just kidding.

I agree with Tao, you have to be honest.  That being said, did you make some sort of commitment to your dad when you signed up?  If so, then you need to honor that commitment for at least a year.

James

Answer 13

As a young lady you will likely, and unfortunately, find yourself in a position at some point in your life where a boy is going to try to pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.  It may be a stranger, but more likely a boyfriend.  At that point you're going to wish you could put him on his back and run away and really thank your dad for the judo lessons.

Answer 14

Be honest but be tactful. Since you know he might be disappointed, tell him him that you have something to tell him but you are afraid he might be disappointed because you don't want him to feel like that.

Then you tell him that you don't want to and what you want to do.  

Answer 15

"Dad i like oter boys"

Toughen up Nancy