I don't want to go to the doctors... Help?

Question

Okay so I know I'm overweight, as compared to the normal 13 year old boys. Well, I'm really mature-looking for guys my age, and have passed for going into college. Anyway, I weigh 155 pounds (don't make fun of me, I get enough from the doctor) and they're gonna tell me I'm fat and should lose weight or like put me on a diet. The other thing is, I eat cereal, a sandwich and yogurt, and a normal dinner for an entire day. I also bike a ton, but you never get a chance to tell them that. I just don't know how to act or what to do. It's not like I just can say "I'm not going to the doctors" or something, because my parents would think I did drugs or something. I'm just confused and sad and angry at myself for nothing in particular. Can someone help, tell me how I should take the situation, or give some words of wisdom for me? Thank you all so much, any (polite and mature) answers are gladly accepted.

Answer 1

don't worry about it that much get into sports and you will lose the weight. eat less chips and other things that you know is bad for you. i was 13 years old and 200 lbs now i look better than i ever have. also try not too drink any soda, and juice.

Answer 2

That's rude that doctors treated you that way. They shouldn't and it's unfair. Even though they are trying to give you advice so that you stay healthy, they're supposed to support you also. It doesn't seem like you're overeating and biking is great exercise. You might what to change what you eat. I suggest more balanced meals. Everyone's calorie intake is slightly different, so you can use a calorie calculator for a guide, but it may not be exact.

http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie...

Also, you should check your BMI to see what weight is ideal for your height.

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

-Drink plenty of water

-Avoid trans/saturated fats and lots of added sugars

-Check calories

-Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full

-Stop eating 2 hours before you go to bed, unless you are hungry

-Eat 6 small meals instead of 3 larger meals

As long as you stay motivated, you should see results. You should talk to your parents and see if you can see a nutritionist.

Answer 3

You can be overweight and still be healthy. Being healthy matters the most.

BMI, Weight, numbers, etc are just guides.

Exercise often, eat healthy, and you will be good.

Read the article. It is helpful.  

Answer 4

ok, well i am not overweight but i know what u mean by being"overweight" and tht is ok, u r u, and nobody else, do u sleep in alot? often sleeping in to much or sleeping to much makes u store fat, like if u have lunch and take a nap ur food will be stored into fat, do u know what i mean? maybe dnt sleep as much, and dnt eat snacks maybe one after school, but thts it eat small amounts of food, eat enough so tht ur full but not stuffed, just enough so ur comfortable. limit soda amounts, and juices, drink as much water as possible maybe a glass or two of milk a day. just send me an email for more help, i can help u alot, my mom is a personal trainer, i have done Ironman the triathalon and so has my mom, quite a few times. so we know all about the diets and food portans and so on....... so just email me and i will help u: ] remember u r u and nobody else, God made u how u r, and u r perfect in his eyes

and just be as honest as possible with ur mom and dad, and tell them u r uncomfortable with ur weight and  would like to wait and loose some pounds before the next doctors visit, because they make u feel bad, they will understand. and if the next time u go to the doctors say please dnt critisise me in my weight i understand im big im working on it. thnk u. and i9f they still bring it up, just pretend u dnt care- and dnt take it personally, and just blow it off. : ] i rly hope this helps

Answer 5

Just be honest with your parents.  

Answer 6

Hi Rag, I feel for ya. First off, maybe it is  Wise to take your parents decision and do the best thing you can do for yourself ! First thing is you must be honest with yourself; ask yourself "do i overeat, do i eat the wrong time of day, or do i eat sensibly, do i excercise enough for my caloric intake. Do you make the right food choices? or eat sweets? You may have a problem burning off those calories. I would say the best thing you can do for Yourself is to get yourself checked out (and be honest with yourself first), then you can talk to the Dr. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.. just make sure you sound that way when You talk to the Dr. so he/she can give you the appropriate tests and answer any questions you may have... By the way, just how often do you sit in front of the computor? How 'bout that TV or DVD etc....? ask yourself that. I'm sure you'll do the right thing. Good luck.. and Goooo

Answer 7

Some boys and girls reach their adults height early and mature faster than their peers and it is normal so stop beating up on yourself.  It is not you, it is the outside world so when you hear "you are big for your age" it really means you have nearly reached your adult body and height.  Please go to the doctor just for a check up to make sure nothing is wrong like hormonal imbalances.  And do not think about dieting but learning about food.  Some foods are really bad for us humans and some foods add to your our quality of life.  I think once you learn about caloric intakes and that how many calories make you gain a pound your curiosity will allow you to adjust your food intake and learn new eating habits.  You exercise and that is good.  A lot of seemingly "chubby" young people grow up to be healthy and those that are dieting and starving themselves blow up and become obese.  

Answer 8

no diet needed guys are supposed do be stick skinny 12 years old little leagues are 160 and some are 180 have very hi self confidence.

Answer 9

Ok, what do you drink? That makes a BIG deal, if you drink something with no calories you will be prone to loose more weight, and its not really what you eat it's how much, and if its high in calories, fat, and carbohydrates. I myself totally cut out sugar and lost almost 30 pounds, down to 191 now YAY! I did weigh 210, oh, and don't eat unless your hungry, and stay away from fast food, and things that you can't pronounce.

AND DRINK LOTS OF WATER!

Answer 10

If what you claim you eat IS all you eat, then I do not see how you could be fat! Some boys retain weight at the onset of puberty, this may be what you are experiencing. If it is, it wont be too long until you trim back down. Until then I would suggest that you remain active. Continue with your "tons of biking", but add in some sit ups and push ups, like 25 to 50 a day. That's not so many as to bulk you up, but enough to burn off any extra calories you may pick up from time to time and it may even help you trim out a bit.

BTW, don't worry about anyone accusing you of taking drugs as long as you AREN'T taking them! If they accuse you of it, and you are clean, offer yourself up for a drug test! That will put and end to that real quick!

Answer 11

doctors are horrible when it comes to weight control....as long as you think you are healthy and not over weight it shouldn't matter.just be careful you don't end up weighing three hundred pounds and all is good.

Answer 12

Speaking as someone who used to be made fun of because of their weight, let me tell you how very sorry I am for what you have to put up with.  People are insensitive and stupid.  

You probably still have your "baby fat."  You ride alot but your body probably have already adapted to that type of exercise.  It's ready for a change.  Depending on the type of person that you are: start high cardio workout which will burn calories and begin weight training which will put muscle on you and that in turn will burn fat.

If that's not your speed, simply start walking - brisk - to work up a sweat for 20 - 30 min a day.

Lay off the sweets.  That includes all the extra juice, candy, and gum.  Moderation is the key.  A candy bar once in a while won't hurt.

I suggest 3 normal sized meals a day (5 small meals if you can't take it) but do NOT snack in between.

Needless to say, fruits and veggies are a given.  Fruits have sugar (albeit good sugar) so you won't lose weight as quickly.  That's a good thing though because rapid weight loss can lead to excess skin.

All the best dude.

Answer 13

research has shown that high fructose corn syrup and corn syrup are the main fat storing inducers. so, stop eating stuff that has that in it. also, eat alot of protein and maybe not so many carbs. keep up the biking.

good luck!

Answer 14

I had a similar problem throughout early high-school.  During my summer before senior year, I gave up my foolish attempts at dieting and biking.  I decided to look at how hideous I was.  This caused me to realize that I would never be able to be with girls of beautiful nature.  In turn I lost my appetite.  This caused me to start loosing weight a bit.  Eventually I went and starved myself completely, to cope with hunger I would pound water and look in a mirror.  I also kept a steady regime of multi-vitamins and supplements to cope with lack of nutrients in your diet.  But on top of it all I ran  nearly every day.  I went from 250 to 128 from July to December.  Then I ate normally again and worked out on occasion, and had a boat load of s*x.  My weight steadied at 155.  I am 22 now and have been fine since then.

Answer 15

D: No your not fat I mean your just a bit bigger your height can do allot if you look mature well then it's natural to be a bit bigger I mean take me for example most girls in My class are 4'9 I'm 5'5 I weight about 30 pounds more then them ok Ya know I'm taller if your still short still don't take it out on yourself. I mean drink fluids and just stay healty

Answer 16

Ask for a different doctor. A doctor that is making fun of you should be brought up on charges. You may have a problem and it might have nothing to do with eating right or wrong. You need to be checked for thyroid issues..metabolic issues.....lots of blood work but worth it!!!

How tall are you?....Talk to a school nurse.They will be able to help you know the words to say to your doctor. Good luck...Stop beating self up..you are trying to do the right thing...Keep it up you will get somewhere.

Answer 17

You need to stand up for yourself and learn how to become more assertive. Going to the doctor's is a good idea but you need to tell him that it is not acceptable for him to poke fun at you otherwise you'll change your doctor.

Answer 18

First off how tall are you? 155lbs does not seem bad

Answer 19

Hey mystery man,



well my advice to you is to be happy with yourself.

           i think its all self esteem. if your unhappy with yourself and embarrased about going to the doctors because your scared they will say your overweight, then try to find other ways to diet. but if you feel your doing everything you can do; then you shouldnt worry about it.

i have been told that its not about how much you weigh, but about your body type. i mean if you are muscular than it shouldnt matter.

also; when trying to lose weight, its not the actuall weight that you loose, its also centimeters off your belly and other places.(saw that on operah (: ) If your doing everything you can do; then dont worry; just keep working at it. uhh anyways.. heres some tips iv learneed

not as much carbs at dinner. try to go for no carbs at dinner.

eat lots of veggies + fruit.

drink mostly water.

try skim milk if you can (i dont taste a diff.)

no chips , cookies, and other baked goods. (or on occasion)

dont just bike; do as many sports as you can, try running and swimming more. ( someone told me swimmings good cz you have a lot of resistance )

try to keep in mind your calories during the day. dont go over your limit

not so big meals; smaller meals are better.