I don't want to have kids.?

Question

I'm 18 years old.I have never liked kids.I don't think I will ever like them.I'm pretty sure this isn't just a phase as most of my relatives seem to think.I don't think I'll ever want to have any,and this is kind of starting to worry me for some reason.Maybe it's because my boyfriend (that I'm in love with) says that if we're still together later on in life and I don't want kids,it's not going to work out.That makes me sad.What to do?

Answer 1

I understand you completely... but your mind MAY change, but it may not?!

Don't have kids if you feel pressured to do it!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

well just like he needs to respect the fact that your dont want children you need to respect the fact that he may...

If you love him and he knows he wants kids why make him suffer just because your attached i would let him go and find a woman he can have a family with before you guys just end up split anyways or you end up giving in and having a child knowing you never wanted it!

Good luck

Answer 3

Well he is right : if you two want different things in life, it might not work out. If he feels like he wants to have kids, then it's a normal desire he'll have to pursue. I'm not saying you are abnormal for not wanting kids -it's your own choice. But I'd say... don't worry about it just yet. I thought I didn't want kids neither, when I was your age, and then something came along, called biological clock. And believe me, I changed my mind.

Not saying this will happen to you too for sure. But why not give it a try and see then what happens?

Answer 4

What's the question so you don't want kids even though you were a kid yourself once and you a missing out on a lot of joy.If your current relationship is going to fall apart over you not wanting kids and him  wanting them  than it is not fair to him that you stay with him.

Answer 5

Im not a big fan of children neither but I love my son with every ounce of my being. Its different when the childs yours.

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with that. It's your preference and ultimately your decision to have children. Unfortunately, if your current bf would like to have children in the future, it may put a major damper on the relationship. But, who's to say he won't change his mind in a few years. Don't worry about all of this now. It's a major life decision and you have plenty of time to ponder it.

My sister is 30 years old and has made it clear she doesn't want kids (they're just not for her) and her current boyfriend may want them. It doesn't interfere with their relationship currently though. Good luck!

Answer 7

Well you've told him, and if he keeps thinking you are going to change your mind, then that's his own problem. If you're still together later in life, and he start's complaining about not having kids, you can say you DID tell him that you didnt want them. If you don't want them, you don't want them. It may or may not change in the future, but you shouldnt have to settle for having them for anyone else.

Answer 8

you give him kids because u love him... and u will grow to love ur kids i guarentee u!  

Answer 9

My thought is that just because you don't want kids now, doesn't mean that you never will.  It's too early to tell.  Just make it clear to your boyfriend that at this point in life you don't know if you'll want children so he knows up front.  It may become an issue at some point in the future if you continue to not want kids and he still does.  But, cross that bridge when you come to it.  If it is a future issue, you may want to part ways.  If he does want kids, then he should have them.  On the same token, it would be wrong of you to have children just because people try to make you believe that you should.  You should be commended for recognizing that you may not want to be a parent.  We have two out of four kids that are childless by choice.  One is 36 and one is 28.  It's better to never have kids than to be pressured into having children that you never really wanted.  It would ultimately be the child that suffers.  A child that never asked to be born--innocent victim.  You have LOTS of time to deal with this.  In the meantime, enjoy life and do all the things you want to do.  That way if you do change your mind later, you won't feel as if you missed out on anything.  Whether you have kids or not doesn't mean anything one way or another about the kind of person you are.  It's all just personal preference and you should do what is best for YOU and no one else.  Some people just aren't cut out for parenting and bless those who recognize it and don't do it because of what other people think.  

Enjoy life to the fullest and take care of YOU.

Good luck

Answer 10

umm idk try umm SAYING YOU DON'T WANT KIDS...

Answer 11

Well you could one tell him how you feel about the subject of having kids in the future so he knows or Two wait it out and see where things go your still then let him know

Answer 12

Why don't you like kids?

Answer 13

I was the same at your age. Completely convinced that I didn't want any children. You don't have to plan your life out at 18, and there is a good possibility that you won't be with your current bf at 30. Keep your options open, don't argue over "what if's" and don't have kids if you don't want them.