I don't want to make a family...[Christianity]?

Question

So Im a 15 year old girl,and my mums tellin me about marriage and kids.I keep telling her "Im only 15!" but than again she's talkin about my future.Anywayz the thing is I don't know if I want to get married but I know I DO NOT want kids.I am not the motherly type.I also want to become a commercial pilot and that is another problem that will prevent me from making my own family.I'v never had a boyfriend and I don't really plan on it anytime soon.I know you might be thinking "oh you'll change your mind,trust me"....um no.Some people say in the bible it says you 'should' make a family,but others say you 'have' to.What's your opinion and where in the Bible does it mention this?Thanks :]

Answer 1

its totally your own choice.

Answer 2

I know lots of Christians who don't have kids. Remember it is YOUR LIFE and you will make the decisions in the end. If your mom is really persistant and it bothers you, just tell her that you would want to marry someone with the same job you desire. It's truthful and a definite possibility, and your mother will be somewhat satisfied at least. As for the kids, I think that having kids is worse than not having them, saying that there are already so many orphaned children who need loving homes.

Answer 3

Sweetie, you don't have to do anything you don't want to.  Frankly there are a lot of people who should NEVER have become parents, and it's too bad they didn't know their own minds the way you do before they starting popping out kiddos.

That said, I believe the Bible verses you are thinking of about having children are probably in the Old Testament.  I do know for a fact that in the New Testament, Paul writes in some of his letters that is it better NOT to get married, because he felt it can get in the way of one's service to God.  Obviously, if you don't get married ... no kids ... one hopes! ;-)

FWIW, I didn't think I was the "motherly" type either.  Changed my mind as I began to reach late 20s and the old biological clock started ticking.  Never say never.

Answer 4

it's ok if you haven't had a boyfriend. and it's your life. not everyone wants kids, and it's ok. and you are 15, and you might change your mind, but you might not. you don't know your future, just wait for it to happen. if you get a boyfriend, good for you. if you get married, good for you. if you have kids, good for you again! but that could be when your 20, or 25, or 30. any age.

Answer 5

Ok, in the bible it doesn't say that you HAVE to make a family. And you're only 15, my mom allways said that she would NEVER have kids... look what hppened? and shes a fantastic mother. So just give yourself time, not everyone is fit to have kids, but your only 15! Give it some time, when you get in a relationship or are seriously considering marraige and all that, then u need to worry about the kid thing.

Answer 6

1 Corintians:7 says it's better to not get married at all. I don't know where it says you Should make a family, but it probably does somewhere; that's only natural. You have a family with your husband and other relatives. It says be fruitful and multiply, but that's not an order. No where does it say You have to. There is another place where Peter or Paul talks about it being better to be single, and he says He knows that's not for everyone. I forger where it is; but he wouldn't say that if you HAD to have children.

But, sorry, I have to say: You will probably change your mind when you are older.

Answer 7

I don't think anyone's opinion on the matter depends other than yours.

If you don't want cheldren, don't have them

You may or may not change your mind as you get older, but that is your choice.

It doesn't matter what your family says, what your friends say, or what the bible says.  You need to do what is right for yourself.

Answer 8

its ultimitaly your decision, the balls in your court now its your life

Answer 9

It's her job to tell you what she knows and her values.  You can still make your own decisions as an adult.  There are many Christians who are childless.

Answer 10

yahoo answers really isnt the best place to get life advice like this... most of these people are idiots in very bad places in their lives probably still rebelling against their parents in some shape or form.

You say you do not want kids however you will likely change your mind... you see you are still young and those motherly hormones just haven't been released yet they will.

make sure you do not speak against it audibly though or you will be speaking death over the unborn children...

as far as be fruitful and multiply this isn't a direct command to go and have tons of kids... it is just the suggestion by God to continue to populate the earth with children that have a part of you in them and a part of your future mate...

it is truly amazing thing to see your own children and how much they are like you and the love of your life.

I am sorry if ya parents are overly religious and try to push things on you... dont let that affect ya relationship with God and cause bitterness.

you may take many years of pain to see things right or may end up like most of these other peopel angry bitter relationship hopping and miserable.

if you desire any more counsel or prayer do email me at [e-mail]

Answer 11

I 'am so so so sorry  i toll loyally so sad and mine email to tell me more

but I'am not 15 or 16 or 17 ex high on

sorry

i'am  Christianity

I will trey my best too help

jest keep praying and reading the bible and believing .

Answer 12

One, your are too young to be needing to know what you want to do about a family.  Chill...if you don't want one when you grow up...that's fine...you may change your mind though.

But for now, don't worry about it.

Answer 13

I think you should use your own initiative, and not go by what other people tell you. If you don't want a family, don't have one. Of course you don't -have- to, because if you had to, wouldn't that make infertile women bad people?

Answer 14

In my opinion, God gave us free will to do what we feel is right... and sometimes, wrong. In the Bible it doesn't say anything about you HAVING to make a family, and you have that free will anyways. So do whatever you want :]

Answer 15

Well give yourself time to think about it, if you want kids or a husband. It is your decision yes or no.I am not sure where it say that in the Bible,but it is still your decision and God will forgive no mater what you do decide.

Answer 16

If there is a god, he won't shun you for not having babies. Don't worry about it, you're only 15. Don't even worry about this until you're out of college and have a career. Plenty of couples live happy lives without children, and don't think you should just because your parents want you to or your religion says you should. If you don't want children, but you bring them into the world, do you really think that would be the right thing to do? You don't need to worry about this for like another 15 years though, so don't worry. :)

Answer 17

Be prepared. you may not want one but Thats what every one said at one point.

Answer 18

that's bullcrap it's your life do what you want. you dont HAVE to do anything

Answer 19

"be fruitful and multiply"  it's in the beginning of the book.  It could only apply to noah's kids though.  Anyways, don't worry about it.  Even if you kept one biblical command you would miserably fail at keeping the other more important ones.

Answer 20

Tell your mom to F**K OFF!!!.... lol no.

Tell your mom that you really don't care what she wants for YOUR future. IT'S GOING TO BE YOUR LIFE! I say 'going to be' because right now they control it as far as you being healthy and all that. But once you are out... you can essentially do what you want and your mother SHOULD respect what you want. It's going to be your life no hers.

As for the bible....why does it matter..? The bible says that because in that TIME people needed to have families so there were people to continue in their families. Most children died of disease because they wasn't enough medicine (if any)  to cure them, so they need to have kids...and a lot of them. That and so they could brainwash their kids so there was more [insert religion here] running around.

Answer 21

well, i think i want to have kids but in ur case its wat u want not wat ur mom or dad wants. it is ur life. if u get that job running it might not be a good idea. if u dont want kids dont have them, anyway, why r they worried now, ur only 15 u have plenty of time to think about this.

Answer 22

if you dont want children then please dont have them. the world already has too many people in it and chances are you wont be a very good mother and the child is better off left un born.

Answer 23

Yeah, I am in college trying to become a career pilot right now.  Definitely get flying out of the way before you get married.

I can't really afford to have a girlfriend right now because flying sucks the money out of me.

Religion is not a factor in my choices.  However, you are right it takes a lot of dedication financially if you are going to become a pilot.  Especially with the way gas prices are.  

There's nothing wrong with not wanting kids...

Answer 24

Very true... Paul tells us in 1 Cor. that we should stay single, but if we can't control our "urges" and such then we should marry...

Your mom is probably wanting grandchildren and that is why she is pressuring you...

Just let her talk and live your life in the Will of GOD and if your mom is a Christian then she will eventually accept that too...

It is better to live in the Will of GOD than to live in the will of others.. you will be far more blessed if you do the former...

Good luck and GOD bless... just keep praying about it and praying for your mother and it will work out for the best.. :D