I dont' like small talk. Does this mean I'm shy, insecure?

Question

When people do small talk, I tend to not participate so I look like the quiet guy when really I just don't think I need to say anything. But it feels awkward so sometimes I want to say something but can't think of anything.

Answer 1

No, I'm the same way

Just try to start some conversations, and keep an open mind

Don't worry so much about what to say

even if you don't say anything its okay to just be there

Answer 2

no it just means that your are not a very social person, and that you just care about the things you like and not about others.

Answer 3

Nobody likes small talk! people pretend to to gain likability, repor and polite points. But i'm sure most people recognize it as fake. Instead of small talk, make conversation about some radical ideas but in a very non-confrontational way! It will surprise and enlighten people! =)

Answer 4

no...i dont think so.

im the same way.. and as a girl i should love to talk haha.

but yeahh i think its just because we have better things to think or talk about and we get bored with conversations that arent interesting.

Answer 5

Small talk is a learned skill, so watch what others do and learn from them. It is very awkward when someone is quiet in a group, because it makes you think that they don't want to be there, don't like you or think there better then everyone else. You don't have to say a lot. Just speak up once in awhile. Good luck.

Answer 6

lack a little confidence, not too big of a problem. Just try to speak and let it come naturally, dont think about it too much, sit  up straght and walk straight. Only when u are comfortable u will improve ur social skills.

good luck bro.  

Answer 7

I don't think it means your shy, I think that your the type of person who likes to get close to people before you completly open up to them.  

Answer 8

You're not shy, maybe you're just more substantial than other people.  One thing that might be fun to do:  see if you can guess what's BEHIND what the person is talking about, and get talking about that.  Like if someone's talking about, oh, I don't know, a pet cat, maybe you can start talking about how cats get to do what they want, and they're free and don't social obligations or rules, and you can parallel that to people and see if the person you're talking to resonates with being free and un-self-conscious.  (Just as an example.)

Answer 9

I think most people don't like small talk... the way I see it, is if I'm not going to have a real conversation with a person, I don't want to talk to them anyway.

So no, it doesn't mean you're shy

Answer 10

It doesn't mean that you're shy/insecure, it just means that you're bad with small talk.

I used to be the same way...even though still whenever I try smalltalk, I fail miserably. Whenever people nearby me were small talking, I would walk away/pretend I didn't hear them/just stand there and listen.

Really the only way to get better at smalltalk is to do it more often, so even though it might be awkward, the more times you participate in it, the easier it gets, and the less awkward it'll be. Just start to participate in it(: