I dont beleive in regrets or second chances. soo?

Question

ok, if you have read any of my previous questions, you would know that, i was struggling with my friends". so after all the thoughts of the pros and cons for each decision. i decided to not take thier c**p any more. now im quite lonely, but i still support my decision. i have talked to my older friends who have witnessed my 'ex-friends c**p towards me, and they agree to not talk to them. so where do i go from here. i do have a best friend, actually quite a few, but they are all older than me, and the middle school and high school are not together, so i will never see them. school is starting soon, and my old friends are the type of people that will turn EVERYBODY against you.

please, any help

im quite scared.

(these are previous questions about my friends, some of the fights were too personal to put on the web, so they are just the small fights.)

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ags6Kv.gzALiMztamGLK5dXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080507120531AAjvnxS

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ap9n17PazuloPl_pTvZRDCzty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080422181602AAxa8sX

Answer 1

Sorry but I think you're over-estimating people's interest in you.

(Sort your spelling out too).

Answer 2

If you are afared to make friends inside scool why not make them outside? Join an activity with your church or libary.

Answer 3

stay strong and hold out not ever one will let others influence them it will work out just don't hide or show them they are getting to you

Answer 4

I read your 2 previous questions and it sounds quite interesting :)

1) i would like a make a comment: If your friend was L*****n, that does not make her a bad person. Does it? What if she was the friend that you could trust your feelings and secrets and you force yourself to lose her because suddenly you find out she was L*****n. ^_^

2) She is not L*****n because it sounds like she is interested in a guy. Maybe she is kind of shy when talkning about love etc...You should not pressure her with that, just give her suport and let her know that. (It is always good to be ther for people because you never know if you are the ray of hope that can change their lives)

3) About the one that she was yelling at you because you were talking or just touched her, what you have to do is try not to toucher anymore (lol cause some people are too sensible and get angry about anything) and if you are talking to someone and she yells (or anyone else yells at you) tell them to mind their own business (Personally, i think that the professor should be the one to tell you to stay quiet, not other student) Singing is another thing; that is not too pleasant lol. imagine someone singing behind you with a horrible voice (not that you sing horrible) but it does bother people. That i understand.

My final advice is that i think you miss them and you are trying to suppress that feeling. (I base my opininon on what you said. "now im quite lonely" "so where do i go from here"...) What i don't understand clearly is what have they done to you so bad that you don't want to talk to them anymore because i read the other 2 questions and it does not sound so serious. I understand your friend being mad at you when you tried to be sarcastic to her. (Maybe she is very sensible and you don't know it because people hide certain things about them; you can just get clues about how they feel and so on; then get to some conclusions with a lot of thinking so you won't make a mistake)

Tell each one of them that you want to talk to him/her alone about something serious and that means a lot to you. Let them know that you fell sorry about every bad thing that you have done to them (or that at least they think was wrong) and that you are there to help them etc...

(Why don't your friends help you do that. I think it is wrong for them to tell you not to approach to them and do something to save the friendship that once existed) (Personally,i think it is immature. No offense)

If you get to talk to them (and they didn't care) or spend all your resources, then move on. You can't be for frienship.

They want to trun peple against you, so what? Be yourself, people need to accept you the way you are and not take their own description about you because someone else told them.

I know school can drive any young person crazy, but unfortunately that's a way for you to learn how to handle certain situations and people as well. After you are out of it, (school) you will find more mature people to hang out with,share, etc...and you will laugh at those hard times lol.

I wish you good luck and hope I have helped.  ^-^

Answer 5

Try to make new friends this year.

Please answer my question:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 6

at this age, people change so much it's hard to find true friends who will stick it out with you. i was friends in 8th grade with amazing people who are now drug addicts, partiers, and people who have very few morals. i've lived most of my life searching for friends who will be my friend truly and who will stick with me. 9-10 grade i became friends with 2 people who were too busy being consumed with drama and themselves to care for me at all. i transferred to a different HS in 11th grade and made friends with a lot of seniors. after they graduated, i had no1. so i became friends with my little sister's friends. they all looked up to me and loved me like i was their older sister. it was amazing having so many people look up to and respect me. about 2-3 months into school i met one of the girls' sisters who was my age. we hit it off and i went to homecoming with a group of her friends and her. although they (the four of them) aren't perfect people, they love me and i love them. we graduated as best friends- sure we have our troubled spots but i think as long as i always have someone who needs me or who i can talk to.. i think i'll be alright; we're going into our second year of college and we're at 4 colleges between the 5 of us. that was hard, but we still talk and get together when we all can. look for people who share your morals. everything else can come after that.

Answer 7

try to be friends with them again or speak to them about your problems and the things that annoys u.not speakin to each other wont help anything

Answer 8

It's good that you got rid of the c**p friends.  I used to get a new best friend every year and forget about them the next year.  It wasn't until 8th grade when I got REAL friends that are still my friends even though we don't share classes.  Just go to school and be really friendly and you'll find REAL friends your age that'll stick by you no matter what.

Answer 9

when i was younger it was the same way.

i kno what you mean.

i was in the "popular" crowd and if you got in a fight with one of them they would all hate you

im sorry just good luck.

maybe trying finding new friends instead of them

they will stop after a while.

you just have to ignore them

if they realize your not falling for their tricks they'll stop.

Answer 10

sounds like you've been through tons of c**p.

hun, its obvious u've gotta try and make new friends,

sure making friends isn't easy, talk to some of you best friends, and this year, try and make new friends in your class, then by oct-nov you'll be really good friends with the friends u made.

u and me are about the same age, and at our age, our friends get mad at us over the STUPIDEST things, and then thats how u lose a friendship,

honn just try and make new friends, honestly, its the best!!

Good Luck♥

Answer 11

learn to love it... when people talk about, the only reason they talk is because you're affecting them. that's pretty cool, right? to affect someone? you're bothering this person so much that they want to talk about lil ol YOU.... congrats! you've made a difference in someones life!

haha that probably sounds dumb, but it's the way i see it.

Answer 12

when u make friends use more discrimination.learn to choose friends wisely.also keep some space/boundaries in all ur relationships.learn to be happy from within.as u learn to be whole from within u will attract the right kind of friends for u.go to work on urslf first.

Answer 13

I have been in your position, exactly the same in fact. And it is the most horrible thing you could experience at that age isnt it?

My friends were being complete b*****s to me, and i couldnt take it, but accepted it, and questioned myself, but i have friends out side of school, they live like 20 miles away from me, they are older, i see them 2/3 times a week, and i lived for those moments. But when i came out of school, i would sometimes ring one of them up in tears and tell them what my 'friends' have done that day, so allthought they wer'nt right next to me, they were practically, coz they knew what i was going thru. And I decided not to take it anymore and stand up for myself, and that was one of the best things i could ever of done in my life.

My advice is stand up for youself, put yourself higher than them, they are not worth your stress, tears, or anything, show them your not scared of them (hide it if you are), and branch out, i had to, try and find at least one person, and stick by them, but even if you don't, please just remember your friends outside of school, they will never leave you, they cherish you obviously.

Please stand up for yourself, nobody deserves to be treated this way. It really helps knowing your not the only one ok? Msg me if you ever need to. I've been there, and it's not easy, but my friends helped me through it. Best of luck hun, your in my thoughts :) x

Answer 14

When you get older, you'll look back and think about how stupid the conflicts / friends were.

Find people who like to do the things you do. I dunno, what do you enjoy? Surfing, riding bikes, shopping, etc. Get people you can do that stuff with and build a friendship from that.

Find people who'll prioritize YOU over other, petty things. Instead of getting involved in drama, put your real friends at the front of your concerns (behind your family, of course). When stuff goes down, back your friends up and appreciate it when they back you up.

Real friends don't turn people against you, and if you're a real friend, you'll treat them with the same respect.

It took me a while to learn this, but it happened in college. My first year I had a bunch of shallow friends who were always backstabbing or bad-talking one another. I got swept up in it for a while and was always worried about the gossip and drama. Then it all blew over, I left them behind, and ended up much happier with a few really good friends I could trust and depend on.

Answer 15

well...idk...you can try to make new friends before they turn them against you...or try not to show it's affecting you...or try to get the old friends back...i mean i know you don't want to, but if you're so scared they will turn people against you, maybe you can work things out...or you can just live with it...but it's not easy to live like that...at least you have friends, even if you don't see them at school...