I dont ever want to be married - what do think of that?

Question

i was planning on it, but one argument is strong enough to send me pessimistic.

im not a L*****n - be mature people, i cant handle unnecessary stress from idiot relationship people. In fact, i feel they're wasting my life. i dislike them and i get bored. i do associate the idea of being with a partner with something like marriage but it just doesn’t interest me.

i just feel i don’t really 'need' one and i think i can accomplish more out of my life without the burden and stress of a partner.

i even very much feel and know i can be happy without one, ... Very happy.

i just never feel id like to console with another half, talk, or discuss anything in fact i hate being bothered. id find it delightful if i can rid of him, haha.

-btw im 23 yrs old and good looking, incase you were wondering.

- other than that, i really have a few important things id like to do with my life that I am passionate about, id like to continuously learn,

Answer 1

This is actually more common than you think.

Answer 2

i  would love to get married and have a family with 3 little girls and a angel of a wife. but i am getting a vasetime so no kids. and as for the wife, well all the women i meet make me wish prostitution was legal.

Answer 3

If yo do not want to get married, don't get married.  I am not quite sure why you are asking this question and them proceeding to answer it yourself.

Answer 4

Umm, If you not happy with your partner, move on and tell them. Better for both of you in the long run!

If your just against marriage in general, then OK, about 60% of the population would agree with you.

It's become too much about legal stuff than actual love!

Answer 5

Don't take this the wrong way but you seem to be a bit self absorbed with yourself.  I'm not sure there is a person out there who would measure up to your standards.

I say that to say this.  A lot of my friends SAID the EXACT same thing some 20 years ago.  They didn't want their party time metered by some spouse.  Guess what?

THEY ARE ALL MARRIED NOW.

Answer 6

It can be done and very happily so.

I finally realized it after 2 marriages, and Ive never been happier.  

I do have a relationship but he likes his own life & space, and I like mine.  We enjoy going places together.. then we go home.    

I have a lot to do without being someone's maid, as well.

It used to be the woman did the house /family stuff, and the man worked.   Now the woman works and still does the other stuff too.  

Men do pitch in more than they did..still its unequal.

Answer 7

Maybe it's just that you haven't met the right person. Maybe you're not at a point where you want a full-on "partner".

Everyone is different, and I certainly don't think it's a bad thing that you don't want to get married when you're only 23. As for the future and what might happen.... who knows? Maybe you'll reach a point where you feel you've accomplished enough as an individual and would like to share your life with someone, maybe Mr Right will come along and sweep you off your feet. Maybe you'll never be married and live happily, singly after.

You should never "need" a partner, and no-one should be a stress or burden to you. A true partner is someone you WANT to spend your life with... all I'm saying is, don't close the door on marriage and relationships completely. Who knows who you'll meet in the future?

Answer 8

Me neither... whoop.

Answer 9

My advice? Not that you seem to be asking for it......

Figure out what you really enjoy doing - for a career, and for hobbies!!

Then, do those things!

And, in pursuit of that career and those hobbies, you will meet a guy or several guys that enjoy what you enjoy. You'll develop friendships, and.....?

Who knows, maybe in 5 or 10 years, you'll change your mind. Or maybe not, and you'll just have lots of friends.

I wouldn't worry about it.

I take it that your family is always asking you when you're going to get married. Right?

Answer 10

I would translate that to mean that you have no desire to be encumbered in your quest in life by obligations to anyone. Perhaps you will some day know some one with exactly the same convictions and you will find that you and that person can share what is left as you pursue your dreams.  Just someone to confide in and share views might be nice.  If not, you can go it alone like many do and enjoy life your way.  I am sixty-seven and would not like to spend the autumn of my life alone but, "To Each His Own"

Answer 11

It's up to you. I would just make sure you have a good career as some women just put up with jerks because they can't look after themselves. I bet one day you will meet somebody and change your mind. When you're not looking is the best time to meet somebody suitable. Not all men turn into Homer Simpson once they're married and if you're an intelligent woman you're more likely to meet a nice man who respects you for being independent.

Answer 12

Its loving and sharing that makes life worth living.

Bet you,ll change your mind so fast when your Prince charming come calling.

Answer 13

Yes, all the relations start so great isn't it... my advise is not a yes or a no but to be cautious and in case of going there not to put to much illusion, is going to be hard, long and many times you would want to be alone which is not possible and still you will have to carry on, paying bills and blah, blah, blah...

So it depends with who and how, but in every case, a lot of luck is needed and patience required.