I dont feel like doing this anymore?

Question

um for the past 8 years i actually have been doing something, and i only need 2 more years to finish it. and anyway ive been doing this bcos my dad wants me to and even now he's like so proud of me bcos im doing this :[ but at this point i just feel like i cant do this anymore..

but.. you know..in the other side i thought ive been doing this for 8 years and its only 2 more years to go..and i know this is what they (my dad and some other people) always want..and i know if i quit, they will be very very upset? :[

but in the other side im soo tired of this and i dont feel like doing this anymore :[ sometimes i feel like ive been doing this just for the sake of making them happy? :[

what do you think i should do?and please tell me why? just dont easily say "if you dont want it then just dont do it" or something like that.. i mean please consider that i actually have been doing this for 8 years and my dad paid for it etc etc :[ thankyou so much anyway !

Answer 1

if you really don't want to continue with 'it', maybe it would be best to take a small break from it - just 2/3 weeks. That way, you'll be able to see what its like without having that routine in your life. If you've been doing it regularly for 8 years, your parents shouldn't mind you taking a bit of a break. Then you can go back to it again afterwards if you find yourself missing it, and if you don't, then your parents will have had some time to come to terms with the fact that you might not enjoy it any more.

Your dad may have paid for it for eight years, but he might be pleased to stop paying out, if you want to stop.

Answer 2

It would be a shame to let 8 years work turn into nothing.  Perhaps there is some way to find new motivation to finish?  Email me some time with more details, and I'll see what I can come up with to help you complete it.

Answer 3

growing up parents like to say, with pride: oh she's such a X, Y, Z - so talented!  Always has been from we stuck a (guitar, tennis racquet, insert whatever here) in her hand!

But you know, it's ok to grow out of things too.  It might shock your paretns and they not get it immediately - but you can help them understand that you don't feel the same way about it anymore and you're not losing motivation for life or anything, you just aren't into it as much and don't find it rewarding and would like to stop doing it.  Life is compromise - so this is one of your first compromises in life, where you sit together and discuss it.  It's part of growing up and being responsible for yourself - don't be scared.  And don't be afraid to tell him you understand it's a big deal to him, so you've thought about it a lot before speaking with him but you're sure this is what you want.

Answer 4

take a vacation or do something new for a while chances are you are going to miss whatever you are doing

Answer 5

ok are you sure your not just having a bad day? do you really wana give this up? think about it you dont have long left and think of the money you will make after you succeed this mission.

And if you did drop out now... you would have to start something new all over again!!!!!!!

Answer 6

It would be sooooo much easier to answer the question if we knew what "it" was that you didnt want to do anymore.

Answer 7

well than just stop

or if its worth it in the long run than just finish it

Kara<3

Answer 8

It might be easier to know what 'it' is, but either way, maybe a taking a break could be helpful. It doesn't mean you are quitting, just explore other interests, too.

Answer 9

10 years is a long time to study anything and I think it's pretty admirable that you've kept it up for this long already, when you're obviously no that interested in whatever it is.

What you need to do, before you sit your dad down and tell him how you feel, is work out your own feelings. How did you feel when you started this? When did your interest start to wane? Can you say exactly what it is that made you lose interest? Do you feel as if you've gained anything from what you've learned so far or has it been a complete waste of your time.

It will be very disappointing for your Dad that his daughter is giving up learning which he obviously considers to be very valuable skills or lessons. Maybe it's something he always wished he could learn or had the chance to study when he was child, and that regret will make him feel very bitter.

It's important you explain that you've given this your best shot and that you've kept it up for as long as you can but that you've reached a point where you feel you're not benefitting from this at all anymore.