I dont feel like me and my boyfriend arnt bonding as much as when we met what should i do?

Question

hey im in a relationship and lately i have been feeling that me and my guy are not bonding as much when we got together. In the beggining of the relationship he called me all the time we talked before we went to bed. Later in the relationship he started roughhousing with me and he always assumes that he accidently hits me and blames it on his adhd. Also when i talk to him on internet he sometimes tricks me to thing he has an anxiaty attack even though later on i find out that he was lieing just to not talk to me. then he gets mad at me when im trying to share my feelings and he trys to comfert me but then he walks out and always says "im done" and when i see hes mad or sad i ask him whats wrong and he ignores me he never tells his feelings to me. The last thing i have to say is it normal for a guy to look at a girls *** and **** while im around and not around, then telling me that he saw bigger **** then mine and dreams about it?

last thing i love him to death and he loves me but how can i tell if he truely means it???

Answer 1

Honey, you need to break away. Yes you love him but the way you describd him. He doesnt love you. Hugging you one moment then leaving in a huff the nxt is not love. Stop trying to hold on. Its ok to call it quits. You wil be fine.

Answer 2

First of all my brother had adhd and that is no excuse for anything ....its clear to me that someone maybe his parents let him get away with using that as a excuse and if he continues to use it then tell him to get on some medication to control himself...

      Do you like being hurt like this ???/ I mean really he tells you he dreams about other girls big **** ..... You have every right talking about your feelings and if he loves you the way you claim then the least he could do is hear what you have to say. He sounds selfish !  Answer us this why is his word the be all and end all of your conversations when a real relationship is about both people involved.... Don't let him treat you that way either get a backbone and stand up to him or leave him... Honey you have to think about yourself and how you feel tooo because it sounds like he doesn't care.. You don't want to be with a man that knocks yourself esteem down at such a young age....your better than that ...so what i suggest to you is try again to tell him about your feeling and how you don't like his little games and if that doesn't work dump him you never know he might even come back to you a better person and if not well your better off without him....

Answer 3

Like dixondug said he is going to treat you worse and worse... I'm sorry but people don't change, not unless they really want to and most people don't. I don't know do you want to be treated like c**p? Some girls like it...

But if you have to ask this question on a message board, I think the answer is clear... you should dump him.

But that's not anyone's decision to make but your own... just ask yourself.

Is he who you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with? (keeping in mind he won't change and will only get worse... )

If not... what are you doing with him?

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Do what you think you should do and see if he'll do what you think he'll do.

Answer 5

Its simple,

The guy is cheating on you. Like i have been saying in other answers, the guy is acting immature to you and soon enough you will tell that he is cheating on you when you open your eyes. gal go on to him make him say whats up just go direct and tell him what you feel and ask him whats up with him. If he trully loves you, then he will tell you why he is low and over reacting. Need help am here to help.

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Answer 6

I agree with "Dixonbug!" It's time that you face "Mr. Reality." Honey, you know that all relationships start off good! In the beginning you are treated like a queen, but as soon as you give up the coodie and as soon as he realizes that he is in control of the situation, if he is NOT serious (and he's not otherwise you would have never posted this question) you will get the "side" treatment. You're worth more than a little of nothing. You deserve to be treated like royalty b/c we serve a God who is Royal. When you meet a man that is kingdom minded, he will demonstrate it not just in the beginning, but throughout the relationship. At this point, you have a decision to make: the longer you stay in this thing, the deeper you will fall and the harder it will be to release him. Contrarily, if you begin to heal now (yes it will hurt, but you can get over him) the better off you will be. If he wants you he will prove himself. He is not interested in pursuing anything further with you, at this time, and I don't know if he will ever be. If he truly loves you, why would he tell you "he's having an anxiety attack just b/c he doesn't want to talk to you!" If this is how you interpret being loved, then honey, you have still NOT experienced love! You may love him, but he loves what you give him; not YOU. Girl, keep it moving....Somebody out there wants YOU & ONLY YOU!

Answer 7

He is started to see how much control he has over you, not a good sign.  The more control he has, the more he is going to treat you like c**p.

Answer 8

The whole looking at butts and breast that is a normal thing for guys.  I know it makes you a little jealous but that's in a guys nature.  Him telling you that she is better than you is just him trying to get under your skin cause he sees it bothers you.  Well you have a decision to make he sounds like he needs an ultimatum either he talks to you and when you need to or you leave.  As much as you love him he ain't the only fish in the see and he needs an reality check.  Because he is taking advantage of you and you need to deflate his swollen head because he is taking you for granted.  You need to stand up for yourself and if he doesn't listen then you got to put your foot down.  Believe me or your self-esteem will suffer.  You got to be strong and start being the strong women you are and let him know you not gone take his **** any more.  If he loves you he will shape up and if he doesn't well leave him.  You would rather be happy with no boyfriend than miserable with one.  

Answer 9

HONEY,,SOUNDS LIKE HE WANTS OUT O F THE RELATIONDHIP,,BUT IS A COWARD TO TELL U ,,,, N HE WOULD RATHER HURT U N OTHER WAYS ,,HOPEING U WILL BREAK UP WITH HIM,,IF U WANT TO NO FOR SURE IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU,,U TELL HIM THAT  U THINK HIM N U NEED TO START SEEING OTHER PEOPLE,,IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU,,HE WILL TELL YOU HE REALLY LOVES YOU N DOESNT WANT TO BREAK UP,,BUT IF HE DOESNT HE WILL PROB JUST SAY FINE,,NOW WHEN YOU R WITH ANY GUY IF THEY REALLY LOVE JUST YOU! THEY ARE GOING TO BE LOOKING AT YOU,,,,NOT CKING OUT EVERY GIRL THEY SEE,,THATS BEING DIS RESPECTFULL,,,TO YOU,,,THERE I S A GUY OUT THERE THAT WILL LOVE ONLY YOU N RESPECT YOU IF U GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE TO FIND HIM,,,DONT STAY WITH SOMEONE WHO HURTS YOU IN ANYWAY,,U WILL B HAPPIER TO,,,GOOD LUCK,,,PEACE