I dont kno what to do with my husband...?

Question

Okay this is a very hard subject for me because I never had this problem before. Okay well my husband and me kinda stopped having s*x after we got married. Its almost like he doesnt want to do it. Or he doesnt like to do it. He always tells me your the best I ever had blah blah blah! I try everything. I mean kissing him. He just gives me little pecks and turns back to watching TV. He makes me feel unappericated. So Umm question how can I get him to understand what I want? I really need help..its bad..

Answer 1

my husband and i had this conversation last night.. his answer was this...  there are alot of different reasons why certain men aren't in to s*x as much, even if they are relatively young,but that doesn't mean that something is wrong with them,or that they don't love who they are with..basically he says that life gets crazy and that as you get older and more bound down with the reality of life s*x stops being the most important thing.. he also says that a simple suggestion of my wanting s*x, or a kiss alone are not enough action on my part to initiate s*x,,he says that it is just as much my fault as it is his because he always initiates it.. i do the same as you, i kiss him, and tell him i want s*x,,but i guess he wants me to initiate it by getting him going, turning him on,, set the mood,,wear s**y clothes,not just kiss him, but touch him and well get it going..i don't know,, i'm gonna test him on what he said tonight and see if he was just making excuses or if what he said is legit.. but maybe your hubby is the same...try it and see.... good luck./.

Answer 2

I am hoping on conversation helped shed a little light on your situation. I wish you the best of luck!

-Buzzy

Answer 3

There is no way but to just come out with it! Communication is key to a good marriage...

Answer 4

Put on something seductive, turn on some music that is a bit stripperish, turn off the TV, and put on your own little show.  You are not going to get your candle light Berry White love making session at first.  It sounds like you are going to have to be a bit more blunt that a peck on the cheek.

Answer 5

think maybe he is really g*y? you know, i think it goes a something little like this....have you ever noticed how people are when they want something, lets say s*x for instance? a chic and a dude meet for the first time and he is really wanting her if you know what i mean? he is really good to her maybe even better then he is used to being personality wise, puts on a mask if you will! well, she just thinks everything is cool, and a perfect gentleman! so, a couple months later she gives in and fuks this dude....well, then he seems to become the real a*****e he is cause he got what he wanted and there is no more prize to be won as far as he is concerned!  well, same thing in your case i would guess except its marriage! first-off, your gonna think there is something wrong with you...am i right? well dont!  like i said your hubbie just probably realized he is g*y after he got married and now he is just tripping cause he dont know how to tell you! so dont wonder in your head to long being to hard on yourself! k, holding yourself in high-esteem and confident he's probably g*y, dont change! its not your fault for the way he is acting a fool and you know this! well, intamency is probably important to you especially when you are made love too, feeling desired, wanted, and most of all appreciated! all you do for this dude and he might just as well be telling you "no thanks, id rather jerk off, or sleep with your brother"....well, id say its over before it has begun....whatever you do, dont kiss his ***! back-off a bit, get off his leg! i dont think communicating that your horny to him will do any good! he knows he's lacking in getting you-off, making you feel like the women you are! dont cheat whatever you do...pretend it dont bother you...go about your bussiness like you just got your guts stirred for four hours by mathew mcconehey! be evasive, and happy!go out with your girlie friends, yet still be his best friend! talk about whats on your surface, and nothing in depth....and when he wants to bump uglies, just give him twice as much as he gives you, then complain your head hurts! so, its my impression that you are no longer that interesting to him, boring to say the least! the sound of your voice probably just irritates him while he watches" will and grace " so, you got to make yourself interesting to him again! just do crazy ****, like invite your girlfriend over and pay more attention to her then him....almost flirtatious with her get him to feel what you have felt, its the only way we really get the hint!! i have been in this situation before so i can relate, kinda was being a jerk after i got married but she was quick to put me in check! she was most relieved though to find out that i was not g*y, and it was not her fault! i just felt the challenge was over, nothing left to conquere! well, since i am a man, her a woman i was wrong...seeing the passion in her eyes when she looks at me gives me a reason to persue, and appreciate her everyday!  memories, thanx! sorry to have bored you, i know i yak alot, maybe this might be some help, maybe not!  peace out, and good luck chic...

Answer 6

My guess is, he's afraid of getting you pregnant too soon.  

Answer 7

Talk to him!

Not everyone goes through that honeymoon phase where they can't stay out of the bedroom.  My husband and I definitely aren't and we just got married 3 weeks ago.  But, both of our schedule's have been really hectic and we've been extremely tired.  Maybe that's the case with your husband too.  You won't find out until you talk to him and see what's going on.  Tell him how you feel.

Answer 8

go to the courthouse.

get papers to file for divorce.

fill them out.

get nekkid.

grab the remote and the papers.

stand between him and the tv.

turn it off.

tell him that he has a choice. you or the remote.

if he chooses the remote divorce him.

Answer 9

Who better to talk to then your husband? That's the best thing you can do. If you don't, you keep it to yourself and that could cause you more problems anyways.

We've all heard it a thousand times before, communication is the most important thing!

Good luck and have a great day.

Answer 10

Have you asked him why he doesn't like s*x?  There has to be a reason, and you can't really expect to solve the problem if you don't know why.  Some men just have lower s*x drives than women.  It does happen.  I've got a neighbor who doesn't like s*x more than maybe once a week, and he feels his wife harasses him for s*x all the time.  So you may just be dealing with a case of mismatched s*x drives.  On the other hand, if he's on anti-depressants, those can completely take away his s*x drive.  Other medications can do that, as well.  Or maybe he's got self-esteem issues and s*x makes him feel inadequate, I don't know.  You've got to talk to him to find out.  And when you do, make sure he understands how important s*x is to you.

Answer 11

I just took a look at your other questions and I saw one about TTC. That is more than likely where the problem lies. While it is great that you two want to have a child, it should be fun, he may feel like he is put on the spot trying to have a baby. There is a lot of pressure on the guy when you are TTC, and sad to say sometimes it seems more like a job, and people tend to forget that the reason they are TTC is because they love each other and want to create a life together. Best thing to do is don't mention to him that you are fertile, you keep track, but don't tell him. Also, be spontaneous, try different positions, times, and places within your house. Good Luck!

Answer 12

I didn't need much time for this problem, as the problem is clear if in your husband's shoes. He needs a major distraction and you must create the scenario to entice him to want the action. A TV show wouldn't do it for me if you seduced me without much hesitation. I am, after all, human, male and a woman stirs me up I am gone. He just needs the right stimulus to excite him and get that tv show to click off. (if he cares to to hit the power button) Think about you lack of dress and the mood to change his pecks to advancement of the tongue and hand movement. Let the rest of the course take that moment to a nice pleasant arousing high.........