I dont know were to sit at lunch.. Im really shy, and have few...?

Question

Freinds and they dont have my lunch. Schools starting soon and im really stressing the whole were do i sit thing. Im going into 10th. and last year i was the same way, and i wonderd the school... And they arnt letting kids do that this year.. like people will TRY to talk to me but i get too nervous and dont know what to say! Im like realy stressing. and it takes a long time for me to make friends....

Answer 1

Well, if people try to talk to you, then talk to them.  I know that being shy can be hard to overcome, and I'm not saying start being a total loudmouth or anything, but just try to relax a little.  Maybe you could even try starting up some conversations with a couple of poeple in the class right before lunch, and that way you will have a few new people to sit with.  Good luck!

Answer 2

It will help if you have a few "lines" ready.

Look for people who are in your new classes. That can help with conversations.

Think of what you are going to say: hi- you have first period English with Ms. so and so, right? Mind if I sit here?

It can really help to have some things ready to say so you know how to respond to different things. Think of conversation starters: Summer, teachers, mutual friends and think of answers to similar questions.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Don't worry. I knew some people who wanders around during lunch in high school, and they were really nice people. If you could, just sit next to the people who try to talk to you, and if they talk to you talk to them back. Make the convo going and be friendly(: such as leaving compliments or so. It's not that hard so keep your chin up and be confident(:

Answer 4

I'm really shy too and have almost the same problem as you do, everyone I know has the same lunch period as me, but no one has the same classes as me. Anyway you'll have to know at least one person there. If not choose a table where you know you'll probably be accepted shy or not. There's nothing wrong with having new friends. Who knows you might be best friends by the end of the school year.  

Answer 5

Hi Hon,

Do you have any idea of how many people feel Exactly like you do?

There are sooo many. You are not alone!

How about if you start your own table?

Maybe if you get to lunch early, you can get a table or get an end of a table. If you see another person looking around for some where to sit, met their eyes and wave them over to sit with you. They will be so grateful and you might up with some new friends too!

Or even before lunch, if you know of a new person, or a shyer person, ask them if they want to eat with you. Then you can met for lunch and not be alone. They will appreciate your act of kindness sooo much!

I wish you the very best of luck!

Answer 6

if people talk to you just start a conversation u cant be shy for the rest of youre life

Answer 7

Sit at the first available table.....if there's like one or two people there, sit there. Of course say do you care if I sit here? Then plop yourself down. I know you don't want to look like you're by yourself, but you are. Can you go outside and eat? That would probably be the best for you, sit under a tree....eat and then go to your next class. Don't skip lunch tho b/c of this. Gotta eat! If you do decide to sit at the first available table, if you feel like talking to those other people, do it.....if you sit there quiet they may look at you like you're new or something...and you don't want them talking and not including you....get in that conversation! You can do it. They are people just like you and they get just as nervous....they will understand. Good luck.