I dont know what to do. please help me!?

Question

i love my grandpa so much and yesterday his heart stopped. they brought him back but hes in a coma and they dont think he will ever recover any brain function. i can't stop crying. i feel so guilty because i was supposed to go to my grandparents house last week and spend time with them but i was too busy. i was going to go tomorrow... i shouldnt have been too busy and i feel horrible because i didnt get to talk to him. the guilt of this is killing me. i miss him so much. i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Know what? A person in coma can still hear and understand. I as a student nurse speak to my comatose patients. Hearing is the last sense to vanish. Ever notice someone in coma crying out tears? That's true.

My point is, the key to your guilt is asking for apology. If you feel it's your fault, cry to him. Speak to him, vent out everything. You can't just forget about your guilt. Make up for it by spending more time with him this time. Play music, tell him stories about your day. Build his faith and pray with him. Faith is the strongest driving force, we know that. Still encourage him.

After letting it all out, leave no room for regrets. Enjoy your time with your grandpa.  

Answer 2

first of all you don't know this is going to happen, because no one can predict the future..

you didn't canceled out on your grandparents you just delayed it a day because your busy with something else ( I'm sure your grandfather would understand)

and try to be happy, your grandfather would want that. also keep positive and pray ALOT. because god always gives help to the ones who ask for it.

Sorry to hear how difficult your life is at the moment, hope things brighten up. amin.  

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa.  I was very very close to mine as well, and like your grandpa had heart issues.  You must know that no one could ever know this was going to happen now.  If we knew when the things like this happened, then we would be living life in a grieving anticipation for the worst.  Our loved ones always leave us way too soon, but what you must remember is your love does not stop, nor does theirs just because you can't see or talk to them.  They will always know that you continue to love them as the day is long.  When you miss him, just close your eyes and open up that photo album in your heart.  Take your time, and go through your cherished memories.    

Answer 4

that is NOT your fault. don't ever think that. instead of being sad all the time think about what he would want you to do if he was ok. he wouldn't want you crying, he would want you to be happy and live your life to its fullest!!! I'm so sorry this is happening to you. My sympathy goes out to you and your family.  

Answer 5

Yeah, guilt is a difficult emotion to overcome. But just remember that this was going to happen sooner or later. His his condition was and is out of your or anyone else's control. Death is part of life. Nothing is your fault, and not one thing can be changed now, except your way of remembering this awful event as death is. I know I lost my sweet grandmother too. You never forget about them and how great people they were, the only thing you can do is keep him in your heart, but you gotta let go of your guilt and stop thinking what if...