I dont know what to do...?

Question

okay so my husbands birthday is coming up and he is planning on having a party. he is inviting all of his friends and some of his family to come and honestly i do not want to go. i mean i want to be there for my husband but i know that everyone is going to get drunk. im not against drinking its just that i feel that some people act like complete idiots when they drink. i really do not want to put myself in that kind of a situation. i know that i will be really uncomfortable and get really nervous. i would rather just have fun instead of having people puking or acting like fools. am i being selfish? or do i have reasoning for not going? ohh and please give me REAL answers nothing like "get wasted yourself" im not into that. i might have a few drinks but i dont get drunk. i think thats stupid.

Answer 1

i am sorry but either don't go, think of an excuse, and celebrate with him later (at a place where there is no drinking)

or you can just deal with it  

Answer 2

Have you talked to him about it?

I've never had that problem but my sister did.

She talked to me about it a few times before she talked to him.

He might be understanding and shorten the party time so you don't have to be there but you can still spend time together on his birthday.

Answer 3

Have the party somewhere, like a bowling alley or something. You're right to be nervous and not wanting to go, but I think you should be there for your husband.  

Answer 4

I would probably go for the support of your husband.  Wouldn't he do the same thing for you?  Does he normally do things for you that he doesn't necessary want to do?  Maybe talk to your husband and ask him if you could have a alcohol free party or if you could possibly let your guest know that if they start to get too wild that you along with your husband will be kicking them out.  I guess the best thing to do really is talk talk talk to your husband and let him know how uncomfortable the entire situation makes you.  

Answer 5

my mom is against drinking too. I suggest that you tell your husband, ask him if he really wants you there, or go, and if people start getting crazy, tell your husband you're uncomfortable, and leave, or ask him if he's ok if you leave. Maybe you could ask him to make sure people don't get too drunk or make them leave if they get drunk.

Answer 6

You should be there for your husband but I understand your situation. Where is he planning on having this party? If it is at your house then you can make sure there is a lot of food around. Call some of the people that are invited and ask them to bring food and have a pot luck. The more food there is the less chance of people getting totally wasted. Someone else suggested having it in a public place. That way you can control the time spent with everyone and if they have to pay for their drinking they might not want to get too drunk. Try to control as much as you can without being a B----! And good for you for keeping yourself under control. Remind your husband that you feel uncomfortable when people are acting like idiots and ask him to keep it as low key as possible. People will look to him as to how to act.