I dont know what to do with my friend..HELP?

Question

Me and my former friend Abby were so tight, we were like sisters. Somewhere down the line we lost the friendship, everything started to fall apart and it looks like im the only one the feels the pain. Everytime we talk, [for example: today, was our friends birthday, she hurt me by giving me attitude..cussing at me..saying 'we arent friends, so why should i say hi? i dont think so'...it hurt me so bad...] Its killing me not knowing if we are ever going to be friends again. I miss her so much. but she doesnt seem to miss me. to be honest..Whiskey is becoming my best friend. I dont want to but its the only way that i can let the pain subside for at least an hour or an hour and a half. Smoking doesnt do anything anymore. Talking doesnt do anything but bring people to laugh at my situation. It seems like they think this is a joke when my heart is hurting like h**l..Crying isnt an option..we sat down and talked but it turned ugly, she just wouldnt admit that we need to do something about this. She thinks she perfect on the way shes dealing with this. Im hurting and i dont know why, i want to be over this, but i just cant. I cant let go of all the good memories. Why do i feel like this? Why cant i let go? What should I do?

Answer 1

It's best to try to forget the people who left you that were close to you. Memories are just too painful.

Answer 2

Hiya. I know how you feel. I got ditched my best friend and I still so badly want to be her friend again but I know she found this new best friend now. We were like sisters too. So just to let you know, this is coming from someone who has been, and is still is your position. I cried every ngiht and still cry.

However, I thought about it, and I thought I should stop trying to be her friend again. Theres no point. Even if we did become best friends again. It would be in the back of my mind that she always did that. I could never trust her again. I wouldn't be best friends with the old Charlotte, but the new one who ditched me.

I still don't really have a best friend now. Just loads of okay mates. But I think, you shouldn't really rely so much on people for your confidence.At the end of the day, people change. It's the harsh truth. remember that you can always trust yourself. Remember that YOU are something special on your own and you don't need anyone to tell you this.

In the mean time, try and socialise more and make new friends. This will help. I'm really sorry for everything. I understand completely! Hold your head up high and remember, you don't need this idiot. Instead of feeling upset feel angry. This helps too!

- Saskia