I dont know why but im unhappy?

Question

right ill tell you the short story of everything. i met this guy on holiday and i fell in love with him and, well he broke my heart and i just wouldnt get over it for 3 years. i over it now totaly. and iv been happy for months because im over him. but iv got this thing right .. i love america. everytime iv been iv just didnt wanna go home and iv recently just come back from florida and iv just been so down since i came back. i come home most of the time (in england) drunk and my mom and dad get really upiset when i do come in drunk and they dont trust me anymore because of it and i nearly got pregnant last year. im just not happy. when my family was in florida they was all so happy and everything was so perfect but now we have got back theres more arguments and i can tell my mums unhappy and so am i. i just dont know why, can anyone give me adive or anythingg? thanks x

Answer 1

You may very well love America, but you have to remember that being on vacation, is not the same as living in any country full time. When your there full time and get use to it, it could be the same hum drum place you felt home was, the same problems would come around in time and you would just be another one of the crowd. A lot of it is up to you. Make sure you don't end up pregnant, it could blow your plans apart, drinking solves nothing, not there or in America.

   But if that's the way you feel, you'll be of age soon enough, i know it seems a long way off when your there, but once your of age and look back, it seems sooo short a time.

   So dream and make plans, there's nothing stoping you from immigrating once your 18.  

Answer 2

Natalie, you sound depressed and down on yourself.  It sounds as if you have not given yourself enough to be happy about. Also, you do not give a lot of information.  Was the holiday where you met this guy 3 years ago in America?  Who did you visit in Florida?  About how old are you?  Do you go to school or work?  What I can tell is (1) You've never gotten over the feeling of being broken-hearted (2) The guy 3 years ago was not the first time you felt abandoned (3)  You are impulsive and let your emotions - not even your heart or your mind - make decisions for you (4) You have a problem with alcohol (5) You have issues with relationships in general.  Try to get professional, clinical help, Luv.  While you are waiting, write and re-write the list of things you want to have accomplished in 5 years and start doing them.  Be careful who you share yourself with physically and emotionally, because (6) you are a sensitive soul, and alcohol and hanging with the wrong people (7) will not get you where you want to be. Always use birth control.  Get a volunteer post or a job that's close to what you want to do.  There's a lot of "homework" and "to do" in this answer, but here's one last thing:  Once a day, take a candle and a timer (clock, watch, cell phone, anything that will notify you when 5 minutes are up).  Turn off the other lights after you've lit the candle and look at yourself in the mirror for 5 minutes.  If you think of anything, bring your attention back to the mirror.  After 5 minutes, write at least 1 positive, wonderful thing about you, Natalie.  Nice eyes, pretty good concentration, I finished this homework, anything.  Use this exercise at least 5 times or until you come up with 10 good things about yourself.  Don't worry that you do it every day, but in a week try to get at least 3 times in.  When you have a list of 10 good things about yourself, pick the first one and see how you use this good thing in your every day life for the whole day.  Add to your list whenever you identify another good thing, and notice a different one for a whole day.  I send you love, luck and healing while you seek a professional to help you get your life back to HAPPY!