I dont love my Parents!!!!!!!10 points?

Question

My parents have bought me up and i am now 20..my whole life i have been so hurt by them so much so that many times i have even thought about suicide...Recently i have realised that i don't love my parents...I don't hate them but i just dislike them...I have no love for them...I have realised that the most important people in my life are my brother ands sisters and close friends...I maybe do care a little about my parents but that's it...I'm scared coz people are suppose to love their parents but i feel nothing...Has this happened to anyone before?What did you do?What can i do?don't

Answer 1

You may have a reason to not have good feelings for your parents.  I did not see my Mom for many years because ever time I did she said hurtful things  to protect myself I just did not have any contact.now she is almost 80 and we are able to talk on the phone but I never ask for advise or share anything really important to me. Parents are humans and they have their faults. you may eventually learn what to talk to them about and what subjects to stay clear of.

Answer 2

it has happened to me but then when i think about it they do care for me and love me so then i reflected on all the values i have and it was them that taught me everything so i love my parent for everything they do. b4 it was constant war but not anymore

Answer 3

one day your parents will die, and you'll feel bad because like you said they did buy you up.... maybe you should just grow a pair and be nice to your parents and get the ef off of yahoo answers since you 20... go to college or something

Answer 4

You're 20 so leave them behind!

Answer 5

i dont love my parents either. it happens. we werent fortunate growing up. but it makes us love friends more. friends are our family.

personaly i like it that way. i dont need a blood family. especialy since i can have more family members with every friend i make

Answer 6

just let them go anyone who has hurt you to that point you wouldn't want around would you like if it was your ex you wouldn't keep going back.. you deserve better than that be happy for you not them.

Answer 7

Felt the same way about my parents. I never hated them, but I didn't like them all too much either. I disliked my mom the most since she up and left us 5 children when I was only 11. My father, faced with 5 young children, was very, very old-school strict - and I've felt the belt more than I care to remember.

I love my brothers and sisters though. It was when I was about 26 when I finally forgave my mother and began a warmer relationship with my father so your situation is absolutely not uncommon.

Don't feel bad. When you're ready, you'll learn to love them again but for now, just try not to think about them too much.

Oh, and people are NOT predisposed to loving their parents unconditionally unless they're really, really young and don't know better.

You're 20-years-young so you're a grown-up and you make your own choices. No one can nor should condemn you for them.

Answer 8

i'm almost the same way. i'm 19 and i dont talk to either one of my parents. and my brother and sister have been there more than my parents. i just deal with it i guess. its made me a stronger person. it makes me want to be a better parent when the time comes. if u ever want to talk to someone about it just email me.

Answer 9

well suicide is def. not the answer ....

i think its perfectly fine not to love your parents ..if they didn't treat you right or hurt you well .. that's understandable .

& not everyone is "supposed" to love their parents .. i have this really close cousin and she dislikes her mom and shes 18 and she dislikes her mom because shes lied & hurt and so many other things she doesn't have a relationship with her any more ... but that's just life sometimes ...

hope you find the answer your looking for =]]

Answer 10

More common than you think.

Answer 11

i know exactly wat you mean, i feel the same way towards my parents. i dont hate them but they dont trust me becuz of sumthing that was not me but i got blamed for it. i havent trusted them since and i just dont love them like ppl are suppossed to. i just live with it and humor them becuz they did raise us and get us wat we want but when they die you will feel the sadness but not loving them i dont know how to fix it becuz they make it way to hard to want to try.

between me and you, i say play along and just do wat u can to make life smooth between u and them.

Answer 12

I think the only people who are going to understand what you mean are the people who've experienced this feeling.

When I got pregnant, my parents wanted me to have an abortion, and we fell out over it big time, they didn't talk to me for several months, and I just couldn't understand why they wanted me to abort their grandchild. And at that time, I didn't feel any love for them. I cared about them but they hurt me so much when they said those words I just couldn't go anywhere near them.

It's obviously a different situation, but you're not alone.

Answer 13

I understand your situation, it does happen, parents do things that really hurt us on the inside, but they think they are doing the best by us.  I dont know what your parents have done to you to hurt you so bad but have you tried telling them how you feel - i know it might be hard but they should know how your feeling. Dont let anyone tell you your horrible or a bad person because of the situation your in - its just life.  Concentrate on yourself and work on not making the same mistakes as them.

Take care.

Answer 14

I think that is a very normal question!  I would distance myself from them and then evaluate how you feel.I found that I missed mine, but I still realized they had major faults and hurt me in many ways. My sister died from an overdose and her problems came from her childhood(I am not blaming them) I just think that if  let your parents make or break  you could potentially ruin your life. I know counseling may not be an option, but you could also look online for some counseling websites. Above all do not let this drive you crazy, try to figure out why you feel this way, do not ignore it, just do not let it ruin you. Rise above them and try to make the best decision for you! If that means taking a long break from them...do it and do not feel guilty! I wish you the best of luck:)

Answer 15

This is more common then you think. You are not just the only one many people don't like their parents.

Trust me you'll still love them deep down.

Answer 16

You don't have to like them, just because they are your parents does not give them the right to hurt you. Just forget about them and focus on the people in your life you matter to you and treat you as you should be treated: with respect.

Answer 17

Did you mean BOUGHT you up or BROUGHT you up?

If you meant BOUGHT, I don't get your question.

If you meant BROUGHT then read on.

Maybe you could try asking yourself why do you dislike them and how did they hurt you. They may have hurt you but, I'm sure that you have hurt them too. Ask yourself, is that all they matter that or is there something pulling you back( etc. past experiences). Try talking to them and iron things out or you could seek professional help.  

Answer 18

There is no law that says you must love your parents - remember this old saying 'you can chose your friends but you can't chose your family'.

Answer 19

Maybe your just going through a phase. Go to a counselor or psychiatrist. I think this is very serious!