I dont no whether to elave university or not!?

Question

i have finished my first year of uni and im due to begin my second in september only thing is im dreading it. i really dont want to go back - uni is supposed to be the best years of ur life bit im hating it. i have a house with 2 other girls though so dont feel i can leave them hanging ... any advice ?? please?!?! thankyou!

Answer 1

I hated uni as well, and I was a mess.  However, it is worth sticking out as you may never get the opportunity to go back if you leave now.  I thought about quitting, but poured my energy into my degree instead - I reasoned that it was only a couple more years out of a hopefully long lifetime.  If I hadn't done that, I wouldn't have my 1st, some amazing friends, my husband or the ability to do my Masters!  Look at the big picture!

Answer 2

Forget 1st year at university and go back to school to learn how to use the English language correctly.

You may by then have matured enough to be realistically able to make your own life choices without embarrassing yourself further.

Answer 3

Don't rush to make a decision - I dropped out of my degree at the end of the first year and really regret doing so. I started a different degree and now have only one year left so things have worked out ok but I still think I made a big mistake.

I left because I was very unhappy, I had been unhappy at school and really looked forward to Uni but then ended up feeling more alone and disappointed.

I now realise that I was just trying to escape from my problems by quitting my course, whereas really all I needed to do was sort my head out a bit and make an effort to do stuff and enjoy myself.

I think it depends on why you are unhappy - if it is the course itself they you could switch to a different one that you would rather do (I know lots of people who did this and it made them much happier).

If it is not the subject but the University then you could try and transfer to a different University but this is difficult to organise.

I think you should talk to some people that you trust - your parents, friends a tutor at college and get their advice.

I ignored what all my friends and family were telling me, convinced that I knew best but now with hind-sight wish I had listened.

Try to write down your thoughts so you can figure out exactly why you are dreading Uni and whether you can resolve these problems in a another way.

Take time to make your decision so you know it is the right one as there is no going back.

Also think about what you want to do after Uni as not all jobs need a degree.

Don't worry too much about your friends as they would understand and you could help them find someone different to take you room if need be.

Good luck I hope you figure out what to do.

Answer 4

Maybe you should give it a little more time. You've only been there a year. The first year of Uni isn't always that good anyway, many people i've spoken to enjoyed their second year lots more.

Answer 5

I agree with the person 2 above me, for me the first year was awful and nothing related to my course at all.

If I were you, I would do some serious research into the modules available to you in your second and third years - contact your tutor and tell them how you're feeling, they're there to help you and give you this sort of advice.

If you do decide that University isn't worth your while, then don't be held back by the fact you're leaving housemates in the lurch, because that's really not an issue. These days with places like Gumtree and Facebook, it's so easy to advertise a spare room, and there will always be people looking.

In conclusion, don't feel like you have to stay - think hard so you don't end up wasting valuable time and money doing something you don't enjoy.

Answer 6

Loads of students feel like this in the summer vacation.

Keep yourself busy and stop brooding over what might never be. University will be the best days of your life. Believe me once you are out in the big bad world you'll wish you were in university.

Life is tough and you need to be able to cope on many levels. If the house or your housemates are bugging you tell them. If you are havingproblemss on your course see your lecturer or student counsellor. Things are not supposed to be agony and h**l at university. Maybe something can be done to help you.

Some students on the other hand, are not academically inclined. You may need to change courses and do something different. Speak up and speak out now before it becomes to late. There is still time to change courses. Speak to the student advisor quick as possible.

Answer 7

I dropped out in my third year.

This year I'm well on my way to grossing 150k.

Don't do uni unless you want to, because you don't really have to.

Answer 8

Dont make your decision based on a house that your going to have! Its ure choice at the end of the day, but think about it go on uni for another 2 years, hating it! and getting into more and more debt! Or go into a job, Probly hate it lol but get paid for it! lol ! I had to make the decision of wether to go to uni or not last year after sixth form and chose not to, not im on £24,000 a year and nto loving it but its good money! Plus you dont have presure of dissertations or exams to look forward to lol! My best mate is in the same boat as u and he wants to quit and i am telling him the same thing and also trying to get him a job with me!!