I dont understand...?

Question

So in the middle of June I broke up w/ my bf b/c i found out that he cheated on me. Since then I have had a handful of guys show interest in me but one of them I saw as being potential boyfriend material for me (and on top of that 4 other people told me how he liked me). So for the past month and a half I have been hanging out w/ this new guy (who is also best friends w/ one of my best friends [ and i found out that ironically she had a cruch on him at some point]) and it has been a lot of fun between hanging out, goin to dance clubs, camping together and spending a total of 2 nights sleeping w/ each other (no s*x). And on top of the fun we have w/ each other we also have a variety of things in common and show interest in things that each other do. So all in all I would say we are a good match....everything that I would want in a guy...but I dont find myself as "head over heels" as I used to be...every so often I get the "butterflys in ur stomach feeling" (in a good way) and I always smile when I think about something he said or did....but I dont find my heart racing...like the way I do if I look at a picture of me and my ex...I find myself sometimes saying my ex's name in my mind rather than this new guy. Its weird b/c I look forward to hanging out w/ this new guy and talking to him, yet I dont have that giddy feeling all of the time anymore but I know he is a good match for me. However I do not look forward to talkin to my ex or seeing him, but when I think of him my heart starts to beat a little faster (and I dont think its from anger or anything like that) and still kinda think we are a agood match together too. Does anyone want to explain this to me??

Answer 1

I think that you didn't give yourself enough time to get over your ex completely. Even though you may always carry some feelings for him, I think that you need a period of being with yourself. You need to go out with your girlfriends and laugh & have a good time, forgetting about  getting serious with guys. Only fun dates with guys. After some time of hanging out , you can start seeing other guys seriously. In the meantime, I don't think going out with this new match is a good idea because he is best friends with your friend. That is sooo upcoming drama that it isn't funny. Do yourself a favor & stay away from that.  Find a "new guy" that not too many girlsfriends know but guys say he's cool. You will have less worries. Good luck.  

Answer 2

You’ll be ok. Just keep going with it and eventually you’ll forget about ur ex. U might still love him or you just got so used to being with him, that’s it’s hard to forget all the good moments you had together…that’s how break-ups usually go. But after some time, the new guy is gonna take over and you’ll forget all about ur ex.  

Answer 3

i had this problem when i first started dating my now husband. i didnt think that i would ever really fall in love with him and then one day it just hit me. its hard to explain, if you give it time you will eventually start to really love him. you have to become emotionally attached to him first and by spending more and more time with him, it will happen. trust me. you will find yourself not thinking about your ex as much and replacing those thoughts with you new guy.  

Answer 4

Time-- give yourself time.

My boyfriend I have been with for a year & he had a terrible ending with his ex filled with lies & things like that.

it takes time you'll get over it don't blame yourself. if you really care about your ex, you can't get over him as fast as you'd like to.

Answer 5

IT is couple of things:

REBOUND

The NEW GUY

And missing the memories of the past

Becareful and take it slow