I dont understand what they are trying to do please help me?

Question

im a typical 16 year oldi love drinking, goin out with my mates etc etc.HOWEVER i also spend some time with a lady i met about 6 years ago.she is 50 this year,and is disabled,so i help her out with day to day things at weekends and whenever i can get over.she is like an extra mum to me, and supports me a lot.NOW FOR THE FAMILY.i have 2 sisters,katie is 16 and chelsea is 9.these 2 cant stand me.chelsea bites me and rings up people telling them i tried to hit her while im looking after her.katie has stabbed me twice and again just generally hates me.when i speak to my mum and dad about these problems i get in trouble for lieing.THEY NEVER BELIEVE ME!katie is my dads favourite and chelsea my mum's, so i dont have much chance.because of this,wen i met my older friend,i had no trust in adults.she has given me more trust in them,and now i do speak to my parents,not much,but more than i used to.now,my sisters like attention,and will go 2 any lenghts to get it. last year katie accused one of my best friends of rape.he was found not guilty, but the point was he had never been round my house!or met my sister.i didnt not support my sisiter throughg her court case.am i wrong for this?my sisters both get on very well with my grandparents too.my grandparents think im a thief, on drugs and a violent person.it upsets me to know this as i know deep down its not true, but again, speaking to them gets me nowhere.my older friend, listens to my problems and helps me out as much as possible,and loves me like im her daughter.my grandparents lie to both me and to my older friend, to try and get us 2 to stop talking to each other and stop seeing each other.luckily our relationship is water-tight at the momoent. but im really worried they will suceed soon.please help me i really dont understand what has and is happening!what are they trying to do? am i wrong? i have loads of friends my age too, we are always out drinkin, clubbing and shopping. I just dont understand why they all dislike me soo much, i am trying to do what is right by helping anna, (50), i thought people would be pleased but they just throw it all back at me. im 18 and just starting college. i dont know how much more of this i can handle though. any suggestions please help me

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Answer 1

i thought u were 16

Answer 2

why are you and your sister the same age?

Answer 3

i completely understand, i have a disabled sister who i have always cared for along with my very messed up family, then a year and half ago my mum kicked me out coz her new boyfriend hated me! so i moved in with my dad who is never here, so i just look after myself now. i have thrown myself into college and got myself a very good part time job where i can afford to look after myself and pay my way so nobody questions me. i am also doing well at college so thati can really make something of myself and then be happy.

i think that you show look into flat sharing, it is cheaper and will probable help to be away fromyour family for a while, my eventualy missed me and asked me back, i told them where to go, so that might help and you could aways go back after a while. now for you older lady that you care for, first YOU ARE BOLLDY AMAZING! so dont let anyone tell you different, it take someone very special to look after someone, but i would not suggest moving in with her, you dont want to be a live in care, trust me this will just wear you down as much as you love her, it will! if she loves you then trust her not to listen to your family.

i think some space betwen you and your family will be best, but dont be afriad to go back because you only get one set of parents, so you should always be the bigger person and say sorry and try with them (although this is alot easier when you dont live with them)

hope this helps, if you need some one to talk to then you can always try and get in touch

good luck !!! x*x

Answer 4

Jesus Christ, your family is seriously messed up dude.

First you say you're 16, then you say you're 18. If you're 18 and going to college then get a student loan and move the **** out, move into a flat with some of your mates and you dont need to put up with your family ever again.

Answer 5

It all sounds a bit fraught at home where you seem to be the odd one out.  It's really good that you have an older friend in whom you can confide. Everyone needs someone like that who won't judge you and will help you - just as you help her.  Anna is a mentor to you and it obviously does you both good to see each-other and talk and it's great that you help her out in practical ways too.  Your mutual gratitude for these little kindnesses fuels your friendship.  Sadly, your grandparents might be a bit jealous that you spend such happy times with her but not with them.  They probably can't understand why you are so much happier with an 'outsider' than with your blood relations so are probably a bit miffed about it.  Don't worry about it.  Just be nice and pleasant to them whenever you see them and don't get into arguments with them.  You shouldn't drop your friend because of your grandparents' jealousy or your sisters' sniping.  You are 16 and old enough to know what you want out of life.  When you go to college you'll be able to step back and view this whole situation at a distance and you won't be so het up over it.  For the time being, I suggest you don't talk about your friendship with Anna with any of your family.  Your older sister is just stirring the pot to gain attention from your parents and your little sister is just joining in the 'fun' because it obviously winds you up.  You should stop worrying about everyone hating you.  It's not true because you are obviously likeable - nice Anna wouldn't like you if you were really so hateful would she.  Try and be very laid back about your home situation.  Soon you will be able to move out and share a flat with friends perhaps - but I think that once you are at college, most of these family relationship problems will fade away.  Good luck

Answer 6

go move in with the older lady, they are mature and can be very loving. just give her respect, and don't come home drunk, buzz out, steal from her. dont do any of those. o i love mature womens.