I dont understand why I keep doing it?

Question

So after a week of not talking to the father of my baby, I decided to today. I dont know why I did. He keeps doing the same c**p. He told me that he doesnt want to fight with me anymore and that he wanted to start over. So he said he would come over tonight around 9. Then it went to 10. And now he isnt coming at all. He said he is tired and has a headache.--- Who cares? What about my headaches and how tired i am, right? Anyway, he said he will come over in the morning and that way we will have the entire day to spend together. I'm not stupid, i know he's going out tonight. So, who thinks i should just not pick up his call or who thinks I should pick up and tell him to act his age (35, but he partys like a 20 year old)? Obviously things between us just will not work.

And the baby was due on the 26th, so now its just getting ridiculous.

Answer 1

thats sucks, especially since you are so close to your due date and he goes out and parties? are you two broken up? is he seeing someone else? i would definitely evaluate the situation

And...Why arent you two living together and how old are you? is he just scared or is he seeing another woman? how long have you two been together? all of these ?'s matter

Answer 2

Forget him! Many many women are single moms and have done it with success. You do not need a man, even though he helped in the process. Do yourself a favor and don't answer his calls.

Answer 3

It might be hard emotionally for you but just try and get over him. Don't ignore his calls because that's pretty childish in my opinion but answer and tell him how you feel - that if he's going to go out at night & party then don't bother coming over to talk. But always remember your baby comes first now! - so think about that also

Answer 4

Bye bye baby daddy!  You don't need to be watching over him and a baby.  Tell him to grow up and call you when he's mature enough to act like a father.

Answer 5

leave him be. it is better to learn to be just you and the baby without the extra headaches. i did it with my oldest for many years until i met my husband now who is very helpful and loving. there is always someone else that can treat you better then that. he should be rubbing your back and washing your feet right now. congrats on the baby

Answer 6

Women marry men expecting them to change, and they don't.  Men marry women thinking they won't change, and they do.  Cut your losses and get away before he hurts you anymore.  Children need consistency.

Answer 7

WoW, I thought I was reading about me and my 10 yr. old daughters father. Same thing with me. I think that you should let him know that he needs to stop trying to control you and when you and him will spend time together, and let him know that your head aches are way more important beings that you were carrying and have his baby, then his. When he calls...just tell him that you're not feeling so good and that you and baby are just gonna hang out with out any company. Let him know that you will not play his games, you are a mommy now and you have to stand your ground and do whats best for you and baby. Either he'll get it or he ain't worth it. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Kick him to the curb. That's a terrible example for a child. BE strong!! xx