I dont want to have children ever but my husband wants a baby so bad?

Question

help me.

Answer 1

Didnt you discuss these things before you got married?

Answer 2

that seems kind of selfish on your part, you can not expect him to want to stay with you if you NEVER want to have kids. this should have been talked about in detail BEFORE you said your i do's. this is very important to him, either make a personal sacrifice and have a kid or let him go so he can find some one he CAN start a family with.

Answer 3

It might be a deal breaker for him. Ask him to picture himself twenty years from no without kids, would he resent you?

If you don't want children , you shouldn't have any until and if you are ready. But it's not fair for either of you to stay in a relationship if one you has to compromise your happiness.

Maybe you can work out through marriage counseling.

It has couples who opt not to have kids and have a happy marriage, but others their marriage crumbles when one wants and the other does not.

When I was a teen, I really never wanted to have my own biological children,because I was afraid of childbirth and because I knew I could love a child like my own even if the child was related by blood to me. Then I married my husband and I wanted a child. I got pregnant after ten months of marriage and it has been difficult but wonderful.

Maybe you should do a time frame. Wait a few years and see what happens. Maybe you'll change your mind, maybe your husband will. Make a compromise to see what happens in fours years.

Good luck:)

Answer 4

This is the kind of thing that usually gets discussed before a couple gets married, since it is kind of a big, yet personal, issue.

Or did one of you change your mind about it after you were married?

Answer 5

You are going to have to come to terms with having a baby or you are going to have to let him go.  This is a basic need and want for most people (not all of course) and it isn't fair to make him go through life without fulfilling his dream of becoming a father.  I don't believe that you should have a baby either just to fulfill his dream because babies need someone who REALLY want them and can feel if you are not caring as much as you should.  It is very detrimental to their mental well-being.  It's different when there is an accident, usually you find that you might not have wanted it, but you didn't know what you wanted till you got it.  But if you really don't want children, those feelings will not change.

Answer 6

hmm hard one...I would say have one myself, once the baby gets here you will be happy you did...

or dont have one and then it ruins everything...

you decide  wuts best....

Answer 7

This could be a deal breaker.  This is really one of those MAJOR things that people discuss before marriage.

Answer 8

I doubt that anyone can really help you.  You and your husband just will have to decide if this is a "deal breaker".  If he really wants kids and you really don't, then you may not be right for each other.

Answer 9

that should have been solved before you got married.

Answer 10

If you never want children, you're a good woman and you deserve better. Get a divorce and find the right man for you.

I'm childfree and I would love to marry a childfree woman.

Answer 11

i don't think anyone here knows how to help you.

tell him, "no, you don't want any kids, ever" then he will know where to take it from there.

Answer 12

Get divorced. You don't deserve him and he deserves better.

Answer 13

This was not discussed before the wedding?

Did one of you have a change of heart?

Do either of you love the other enough to change your mind?

If not seems like there is only solution: Marry someone else who has the same view about children.

Answer 14

Why did you get married then?  I would suggest filing for divorce so that he can move on to find a partner who shares his values and goals. You can then do the same.

Answer 15

adopt a baby if you don't want to have one yourself...

Answer 16

This is, unfortunately, something you should have discussed before you got married. It isn't the sort of thing that can be compromised on.