I dont want to let my marine go to iraq wat should i do ??

Question

I JUSS DONT WANT TO LOSE HIM HE IS MY LIFE IM SO SCARED 4 HIM WAT IM I GOIN TO DO WITH OUT HIM!!! I WANT HIM TO A WALL 4RM THERE ALREADY!!!!

Answer 1

Just be there to support him and send him prepaid telephone cards so you can talk.  I'm sure he'll come back just fine.

Answer 2

First and foremost do not let him know this.  He is going to feel guilt anyway for leaving you.  If you apply more pressure he will not be able to concentrate on his job, which is dangerous enough , and that could get him hurt or worse.  You are now a military wife and be prepared he wont always be home.  You may want to think of joining the support groups they have for the wives.  If you do anything else, I hate to say this, all you are going to do is start to hate him and you will be miserable.

Answer 3

First you need to step back and realize this is a fact of life for your husband.  Second many of us have gone to Iraq and Afghanistan and have come back just fine - odds are your husband will do the same.  What he needs now is your support.  You need to join a family readiness group or other support group to help you through the deployment.

Answer 4

For God's sake woman, you are a Marine Wife; get a hold of yourself.  

Plus, this is not the forum to discuss this issue.  Marines never go anywhere alone, so if he's going, other Marines from his unit are going too.  Contact the Ombudsman or one of the other spouses in the unit and talk to them about this.  You are not the first person to go through this - you are not alone.

Whatever you do, don't show him how worried you are - it will only make it harder for him to focus on the battlefield.

Answer 5

Buck it up Soldier, this is what it's about.

Answer 6

He is under contract and he has to go, the best you can do is support him everyday and pray. I've known many people that have gone to Iraq, and all came home safely. It's not as dangerous there as it use to be.

Answer 7

join the key wives network from your husbands command, you will have support of the other wives from his unit

Answer 8

To answer your question, there is mothing you can do.  Thats his job.  his duty, rather.  Do you complain like this when payday comes around.  Probably not.  He knew what he was getting himself into and so did you when you said I do.  I understand the love you have for him, but you need to be able to live without him,  He wont always be around

Answer 9

You knew he was a Marine when you married him

He needs you to be supportive. Do not have him go AWOL, unless you want to lose him to prison

Answer 10

I understand completely how you feel. My husband is there right now. But this is who they are and you just have to have faith that he will return to you safe and sound. Do not do anything that will stress him out even more than he is and don't try to get him to do something that will make him hate himself and resent you. Unfortunately, this is one of those times when you can't open up completely...you just have to take on the burden of the worry. Try to find a friend while he is gone...someone who is also going through this or who has gone through it before. YOu will need a shoulder to lean on. But he will be fine and make it back. Email me should you ever need to talk.

Answer 11

I'll give you the same advice my "veteran army wife" sister gave to me.  I called her hysterical 2 days before my husband left for Iraq and said "I can't do this"  everyone says "You're so strong I dont know how you do it" and I was not feeling strong, and she said to me.  Yes you can and you will.  I said how do you do it?  her answer?  "You just DO!"  It was that simply.  

You'll miss him, he'll miss you, but you will get through it, and the reunion...ahh there is nothing like it.  Its completely worth the wait.

Also as he is walking away from you, I found the best thing to tell yourself is "BE PROUD NOT SAD"  It changed my outlook on the whole situation.  Also it helps to talk to your soldier/marine about what you are feeling.  I was so cried out and talked to death by the time he left that I didn't hardly cry the actual day he left.

You are in my prayers.  Its a tough job but someone has to do it.

My favorite prayer that helped me get through tough times was this:

Dear Lord,

Give me the greatness of heart to see the difference between duty and his love for me. Give me understanding that I may know, when duty calls him he must go. Give me a task to do each day, to fill the time when he's away. And Lord, when he's in a foreign land, keep him safe in your loving hand. And Lord, when duty is in the field, please protect him and be his shield. And Lord, when deployment is so long, please stay with me and keep me strong. Amen."

Good Luck to you!

You are stronger than you think!

Answer 12

you cant do a thing, sorry

Answer 13

Well first off it is not the best thing to ask on the internet because you are going to get a lot of mixed reactions and some of what you read might upset you more. Second, he isn't your marine he is the United States of America's marine he is your man (husband?). Third, find a better place on the web to talk about this stuff. Are you near a post? You can search for websites that have military families who will be there to listen to you when you need to vent, laugh, and cry. Being a military family is hard it just is don't ever listen to anyone tell you different. People can say you knew what you where getting into but until they get on that plane it doesn't really hit home. Just live each day and try to make it a happy time before he goes so you have good memories not sad ones. Don't spend you last precious time being sad because you will have plenty of time when he leaves for that. Do fun happy things that will make you closer as a couple and give you both something to look forward to when he comes back home to you. Think about what you can do for his RR. Ask him what he needs to take with him. Start being on his team and help him with what needs to be done. Show you support him. Take some romantic pictures of you guys together and sneak them into his pack. Start planning that first box of goodies you are going to send him. There are lots of positive things you can do to make this an easier time on both of you.

By the way my husband is a marine and a soldier he has been deployed for two and half years out of four years.My son is in the delayed entry program for the marines - he leaves in October. My step-brother is a marine reservist and will be leaving for Iraq in January.  

Answer 14

I don't completely understand what your short hand means, but if you are really married to a Marine then you'll have to learn to deal with it. Go talk to a counselor on the base, they'll help you out.