I dont want to lie...?

Question

so yeah one of my good guyfriends realised he didnt really feel that way about his girlfriend anymore (tho he never really did), and he's planning on breaking up with her (its only been a few weeks). he felt he should do it in person, so told her he needed to talk to her. then i got an email from her saying that she was worried something was up, and since i was his friend did i know what it was. i felt bad so i didnt reply, and asked him when he planned on breaking up with her he said when she got back from somewhere (?) which is saturday. but now ive logged into msn and shes online. i think if i go online she will try and ask me whats up and i dont want to lie to her, or tell her. should i block her? she might also realise ive been online since i got her email. i dunno what to do :/

Answer 1

Not easy for you! I would not block her that would make things worse.

If he is out of town, tell her she needs to talk to him when he gets back.

If she keeps it up, tell her that it is between her and him and play dumb. Use excuse to stop chatting.  

And tell him he has to do it sooner then later.

You do not lie, and do not let down your friend.  

Answer 2

"If you have a question about your relationship, you need to ask him," should be your response. No lying in that.

Answer 3

Hmm thats a tough one..

Since your more his friend I think you should go online, if she asks you just say look, this is between you and him i have nothing to do with this and I think you should really be talking to him and not me.

If she keeps asking just say ooh sorry gotta go now bye! and just block her unill he tells her.. Piece of cake :D

Good Luck! x

Answer 4

Tell her the truth. That way she will break up with him first. What kind of guy goes and tells his girlfriend's friend, before telling his girlfriend. He doesn't deserve her and in my opinion he's acting like a girl himself.  F him for being such a wimp! Tell her everything he said. You should've sent him away and told him that this is something that he should be telling her and not you.  He's not even a man, so I don't deem it mandatory taking his side!

Answer 5

Don't  block her or you'll be sending the wrong impression.  Also, you shouldn't say much because the guy may or may not go through with his plans.

When she asks, just say that the guy seems to feel down or has a concern about something and that he wants to talk to her about.  Say that "Sorry, I don't have any other specifics."  This way you're doing your female friend a favor by dropping a hint that, yes, something is wrong, but you're not betraying the confidence of your other friend.  (Sometimes, people will use a "middle man" in a situation like this to help prepare a third party for a tough blow.)

It's important that don't betray your guy friend's confidence and don't give away any details.  It's not your place to do so.  (Besides, there is the outside chance that they make work out the problem.)  Just try to remain neutral so you can keep both of them as friends.  They really should work out their own problems together; it's what's best for all concerned.

Answer 6

So tell the truth.

Answer 7

i think you could give just a little hint like it's something important but if they keep telling you to tell them don't say anything just say that's all i could say and talk your guy friend out of it and send me from your e-mail address at [e-mail] and i'll tell you exactly what to do just to be extra secure un less your guy friends girl friend checks out the answers and gets mad if she saw your question;)

Answer 8

Well, if you tell her you have no idea, it technically is the truth.  You may know he intends on breaking up with her, but if he really will go through with it, who knows.  I know pleanty of people who said that they were going to breakup with a person, and then they didn't end up doing it-at least not at that time.  So really you have no idea, what will happen.  He is the only one who can control the outcome.  So telling her you do not know is not a lie, nor is it your place.  Don't avoid her, because she will know that you suspect something, and if she comes right out & asks if he has said anything...tell her that you respect the confidences of your friends & wont talk about his conversations with her...just as you would not talk to him about things said between you  & her.  If she presses, just tell her that to talk to him, and that you cannot be sure of anything.

Be glad that you have such an honest streak, and that you value being honest to your friends.  It is not all that common.  

Answer 9

pretend you don't know anything. it's nothing to do with you so leave it to your friend to do the breaking up. play dumb.

Answer 10

You can't tell her the truth as you were told in confidence and it will only be worse for her in the end.

You can't avoid her as its obvious, see you need to just bend the truth and say you're not sure.

You can always say that you thought he seemed rather down when you last spoke to him or similar which will hopefully buy you some time on things.

Answer 11

If you tell her then you will be letting the guy down.  I would go online and prepare her for the breakup without telling her by speculating e.g. "Maybe he wants to break up with you?".  That's probably the kindest thing you can do.  

Answer 12

Tell the truth lol