I dont want to seem lame...?

Question

Ok so today me and my friends were walking to the bus and when we got to the bus stop some other kids were there and they were talking about vaginas and sh;t. Then they kids i was with started talking about weed and like were they got it from and stuff. Im 100% clean. I dont smoke or drink or do drugs. I like my brain cells thank you very much. But then about 5min before we got on the bus, they pulled out cigarettes and were smoking them. My "best" friend even took a puff of one. She was like, you need to try it. It calms you whole body down.

I would never smoke. And mind you, we just started 8th grade. Then they were asking me for gum and i said no even though i had like a full pack, and they sprayed themselves on the bus. The whole thing made me pretty uncomforatble, but i didnt want walk away so i just held my breath. Im not sure if i smell like smoke or not. And they would never listen if i said stop. I just need to know how to act next time. And my mom would flip so telling her isnt an option right now.

Answer 1

join them or find new friends. its that time of your life where kids start trying new things. if you don't like it you aren't going to change your friends minds and you really need to go make some new friends ;)

Answer 2

Put these things called loads into their cigarettes when they aren't looking. It will also be really funny. Seriously, I just find new friends, or leave when they are smoking. I can't take second hand smoke too well and I used to smoke.

Answer 3

just stay true to yourself and who you are.  If they start drinking or smoking, it's time to walk away.

Answer 4

These kids are NOT your friends.  True friends never demand you do something that goes against your wishes.

I am proud of you for standing up for your beliefs and having some higher goals in life.  Stay just the way you are.  I would begin to look for different friends in the 8th grade.  These kids are trying to lower your standards.

You need to search out the smart, clean kids in the classroom.

And if you need to do some venting, go see a school counselor or teacher that you know and trust.  I feel for you, and know it isn't easy to do this alone.

Answer 5

its easy.. u dont have to walk away or fall into peer presure... just accept your friends for who they are and they will accept you and they might even start to act more like you

PS

dont lecture them or say that its bad, just let it happen

Answer 6

i know its hard but you just need to surround yourself with better people. you dont need to be around people that try and get you to do things you dont want to do.

people that mind dont matter and people that matter dont mind.

Answer 7

Oh my god don't take the cig! It'll kill ya! What kind of fricken school do you go to????

Answer 8

Stand your ground! It's a horrible thing to do, bad breath, bad teeth, smell on your clothes! Trust me, you don't want to go there. And if there your friends, and you put your foot down and say no. They will either respect you for that and not offer it to you again, or maybe stop doing it themselves, or they won't. If they don't, there not the kinda friends you want.  

Answer 9

If you don't wanna do it with them & they don't pressure you to, then don't make a big deal about them smoking and they shouldn't care. like just don't be like - omg i cant believe youre smoking . if you just say. idc if you do it but i don't wanna & just please dont pressure me. then they probably wont care and theyll just like you for who you are. that's how i am. and that's how all my friends are.

so ?

Answer 10

i was a lot like you when i was your age, I told the counselor about my friends who drank and smoked. but then by the end of high school I smoked weed too and now I drink all the time. I guess you just have to grow up. But make new friends right now if what these people do bothers you. because you can't chance them and you just look like a prude for telling them to stop. so hang out with other clean kids you will probs be a lot happier. Trust me, you don't smell like smoke still. Next time don't judge the other kids, but don't feel bad for not acting like the do.  

Answer 11

Really just act like you dont care, because honestly you shouldnt,its their life,let them mess it up.I have tons of friends that smoke weed but I dont.Just make sure to hold on to your values,DO NOT let them convince you to do it if you dont want to,if they ask just say im cool,if they bother,then get really irritable and be like I already said no.Dont get mad,just get irritated,if you sound like you dont care about what they ask or tell you to do, then theyll leave you alone.Pretty soon you will be cool with them smoking,though I understand how uncomfortable it is the first time.