I don’t want to lose my girlfriend. Please help…?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been going on for about a year now and i am her first, things are sometimes great! All the time we tell each other we love each other and we would love children and to get married but we are a bit young. We love spending time together but when she gets with her best friend who has slept with alot of people she turns into this girl that says she wants to sleep with other men and that our s*x sucks. Why does she act like this with her friend and how do i solve this without hating her friend? I just dont understand why she changes so much around different people and then when we are on our own she sits there and says how much she loves me and all this. Please help because I am going to lose the love of my life to something stupid. I worry she is going to do something stupid in the heat of the moment and cheat, and then regret it after.

Answer 1

This is a tough situation and is not something that is easily fixed.

Unfortunately young people often feel pressure to be like their friends, especially someone who is their best friend. This contributes to the “grass is always greener” syndrome. What does that mean? It means human nature always tells us what we don’t have is better than what we do have. So if our girlfriend is tall we wish she was shorter, if she is short, we wish she is taller. In this case your girlfriend sees her best friend’s lifestyle and wishes she could live that lifestyle. If your girlfriend wasn’t in a relationship and her best friend was in a relationship she would be wanting to find a boyfriend just like her friend. See how this works? She sees something she can’t have and therefore wants it. This is simply human nature. What you have to do is ask her if that is something she really wants to do? or is it something she “thinks might be fun” because she sees her friend doing it.

The best thing to do is to let these comments go and only worry if she wants to take action. Maybe explaining “the grass is always greener” theory to her will help. If she understands why she is feeling this way maybe it will prevent her from “screwing up” and regretting it.

Answer 2

You can't deliever in bed and I am not surprised.  You don't sound like much of a man from here.

I say get a friend (a girl obviously) and practice having s*x with her so you can get better at doing it.  Otherwise, kiss your relationship goodbye!