I dumped my one true love, what do I do?

Question

Uh, I feel so stupid right now, I dumped this girl that I really like and now I feel like the dumbest person in the world. She's already dating somebody else, but I just want her to know how I feel.

Now everytime I see her my stomach feels like somebody just crushed it with a huge hammer. It's official, I love her, but why?

I felt sertain that I was doing the right thing when I broke up with her. This has been for about a month now and even my grades are slipping I miss her so much.

WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

Answer 1

You dumped her, so deal with it. I'm not trying to be mean, but I doubt if she will want to hear anything from you.  She has anew guy and good for her. Just move on and realize you made a big mistake.

Answer 2

To late, you should think before you act.

Answer 3

well girls get new bf to deal and to make you jealous and to make you realize how bad you messed up and it worked... if you say anything, just write her in a letter 'I miss you" and sign it with your initials, and  put it in her locker or have some random person give it to her, And take it from there.. if its not to late and she still likes you then she will come back..  

Answer 4

I'll tell you from experience... because the same thing happened to me.

   I dumped my girlfriend for a model. She begged to get back with me for more two months, and waited for me in her porch every night hoping that I would go back. She said I was her dream since middle school and that I was making her very sad. A couple months later I realized how dumb I was. I really loved that girl but I gave in to the attraction I felt towards the second one's body.

   The girl I loved has a boyfriend now, and she will never ever get back with me, she says...

...This happened  three years ago, and I was never able to love another girl.... However, after much meditation I realized that love is just a game and just as anything in life, you must rationalize the situation in order to play efffectively (or in this case --survive--). If you keep on going with the same intent in mind you are going to turn yourself into a miserable person untill you either notice what's happening or you forget about it.

  .....Most people try to forget about it... But, my advice is that instead of forgeting about it you treat love as if it were chess...

1.. You see, your true objective in life is other than loving her.. It is finding happines, and all your actions inescapably aim at it.

2... Loving her is just another micro-conflict that forms the bigger conflict which is living.

3... In love, just like in everything else.. the economic principles of scarcity, supply and demand apply. Therefore, in order to get someone to love you you must provide them a scarce product and make it differentiated. If you keep going after her, it would be like an increase in supply, which in turn will lower your price ---that is "your value" from her perspective.. And as long as she finds other options she thinks are more valuable, and availiable... she will prefer them over you.

4.. Consequently, if you want to achive success in your endeavour you must forget about her and focus on what is really important in human relationships...  INCREASE YOUR STATUS.  

----Right now your status might be artificially low because of what she may think about you. If you dumped her, you must come up with a strategy to make your previous actions unimportant. Perhaps being nice and honest about your feelings will help the most her... However, try not to give excuses since you are the man... and she unconsciously expects you to take command. She honestly doesn't care that you screwed up in the past... The problems is that she doesn't feel safe.. And WOMEN WANT SAFETY. If you want to win, you should provide safety.

    --You must also increase your status through achievements.. example... making lots of money, being well liked by everyone, dating other women she considers more attractive or successful than herself (this will increase your value to her),  being famous, and becoming more attractive phisically.

    The good thing is that she has already been your girlfriend... that means she considers you in her league...

If you are with other girls your chances of getting back with her are much bigger. She will listen to you more.. Ask anyone.

... try loving somebody else.. study her reaction... Humans are posesive by nature, so she's definitely going to react to it.

p.s.  It is ok to lie to get what you want.... after all... If you were 100% honest about everything you'd be crucified.