I dunno wat to do?

Question

so most of you know i'm almost 17 and 16 weeks pregnant with my bf baby.

my bf has been acting really weird lately and send me pictures of wedding rings and ask which one i like better.

and hes also been talking about getting married.

i'm afraid he might ask me tomorrow cause he's planed a special night with just the to of us ine the city, but i dunno if i should say yes cause i dont want it to seem like we have to cause were having a baby together. what should i do i really love him.

Answer 1

Hi aj, I'm 26 and my bf is 28.  We are having our baby around 12/17.  Its not that were not ready to be married, becuase we basically already are, but we don't feel that we need to be married to have our child and love each other.  Tell him how you feel maybe before he pops the big question.  My bf and I most likely won't ever get married and were both ok with that.  We have been together for almost 6 years!  Love doesn't have to = Marriage.  Who cares what other people think.  This is your life and your happiness that is on the line.

:)

Answer 2

You're having a baby together and you love him! That's all you need to say yes!!

Who cares if other people think the reason you are getting married is the baby?!

You two know you love each other and want a life together so go for it!

And CONGRATS :o)

Answer 3

Honey you answered your own question!  Read your last four words.  That's it!  If you really love him and think he'll be a good man to you and your baby then who cares what other people think?  It's not their life.   Good luck to all three of you.

Answer 4

That is entirely your choice sweetie, you are having his child but you are also young, and you have gotta think it through hard, if you want to spend the rest of your life with him then go for it, and i'm sure he wont be askin you just because you're having a baby, i'm sure he loves you and wants to spend his life with you otherwise he wouldnt ask, he probably just wants to make it official as you are going to be the mother of his baby, if you ask me it sounds like you have quite a catch there, not many young men want to settle and have kids, and get married at that age, its really sweet.  But as i say its your choice and dont do anything out of guilt because it will never ever work and you'll make yourself unhappy, just go with your heart and be honest with yourself, good look sweetie x x

Answer 5

If you're saying you don't know, it means you're not ready for marriage.  And that's no big deal.  I don't know how old you are, but you can simply wait, see how things work out and if after the baby is born and you feel you still love your bf, then you can get married.  Don't feel pressured b/c you're having his baby.  It's your life.

Answer 6

Aj You have to go with your gut instincts. You truly have a load

to carry. I think you can sort it out. But talk to someone, the

church, teacher, parents. Bless both of your hearts.

Answer 7

Marry him, silly.  It's the best thing for all three of you.

Answer 8

vvell just do vvhat YOU vvant to do. If you love him and vvant to get married then say yes, dont vvorry about vvhat other people think. But if you are not sure if you vvant to get married then just tell him that you love him but everything is happening so fast and you dont vvant to rush anything. You shouldnt feel pressured to get married and he should understand hovv you feel. Basically you just have to do vvhat you feel in your heart. Its your life and you have to choose the vvay you vvant to live the rest of it, and dont let others try to tell you hovv to live your life. Good Luck! :)

Answer 9

You said "I really love him". If that's truly how you feel, why are you asking us what to do? You already know sweetie. So you're pregnant. Big deal! Getting engaged can still be about love. My suggestion, wait till after you have the baby to set the date. Then you can decide what to do from there. I must say that I have a great respect for you BF. He's standing by you like a real man instead of running away like a little boy. Congrats hun!

Answer 10

you know i think you know what to do read the last few words you wrote.

Answer 11

if you realy love him whats to say no to ??? live for today as you may regret tomorrow. you may be happly marrid ever after it may all end in a month. you wont know untill you try live life with no regrets you love him??? well you may be young and scared but marrage dosnt mean you are trapped if it all goes pear shaped. you can still have a life. do what you want and live life to the full congrats on the baby x

Answer 12

That is kinda sweet, you know what follow your heart. Tell him, that you love him and that you want him to know that you will support him in whatever he decides and you will love him either way. Tell him that he should only do what he wants to and not for reasons of guilt fear or outside pressure. No need to rush into decision that might cause strain on the relationship.

Answer 13

Would you marry him, if you were not pregnant?  If so say yes!!!!  If not, then tell him no!  

Good Luck Hunny!

Answer 14

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Are you happy with him? He obviously loves you and by the sounds of it you love him too. If you're afraid you're too young, dont be. I'm 16 and i get the feeling that my boyfriend pland to propose to me either on my 17th or 18th birthday. If you dont take this chance you may regret it. And it doesn't have to be about the baby but it will certainly be better for the kid.

Answer 15

Sweety, if you really love him the way you said you do then you have nothing to worry about. He isnt thinking of nothing else but you and the baby. Some other young fathers don't want nothing to do with their child so you are lucky girl.

But im not telling you to marry this guy right away. You can be engaged and see how the engagement works. Its true, you dont have to marry him because you are pregnant, but if you feel like he is going to be a good husband to you and father to your child then why not.

Don't let other people ignorant opinions change your mind. The best advice one can give you is FOLLOW YOUR HEART. Take care and congrats on the baby and soon to be engagement!!! =)