I feel anxiety when I am around my closest friends...help! What can I do about it?

Question

I fear that one bad time together will cause them to withdraw from me completely. I hate it! I started writing notes of things to say and constantly checking my diary for reminders in order to remember things to do or say, and now I can't live without doing it for fear of clamming up completely. It's ruining my life and I need an answer or a solution. Please help...can this be normal?

Answer 1

Get thee a new attitude.. Try this one and shed the old parts of the old beliefs that don't work!

Life does not always seem FAIR!

Hi!  I am a Forgive Affirmed Spirit and this is what I profess and try to act like.

Forgive Affirmed Spirit is the belief in a way of life that is a method of grief resolution and functional communication processing involving active listenning, sympathy, empathy and affirmation of shock, denial, anger, guilt, depression, loneliness and hope...a kind of ego-equilibrium seeking methodology.

A Greater Works of communication and action, a way to learn to love your enemies "Advocating mortal life, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you AS IF YOU WERE THEM!"  



And nobody is perfect!  NOBODY!  We are all judgeable, hopefully in a graceful discerning way!   We are all doing our best every moment!

Humans judge everything  as we are a part of it.  Without difference, we have nothing to live for, nothing to witness.  Sin is difference, the relative seriousness with regards to law and survival of other beings, is punishable by the courts. The best way to judge is with as much graceful discernment as one can muster in a given moment!

Life is the question(uncertainty) asked by the exhaling infinitely compacted imagination invention, or no thing, which is completely certain of everything, completely omniscient or all knowing.

When I die, I believe I will be in a new state, aware of all that is and yet divided into the nature of dust that I am in, whereupon my dust shall fall.  My being will remain an infinite part of an infinite being and infinite knowledge without my material human being status of now. So there will be a change.



But my soul, my passions and discompassions, will move on to infinite places of comfort and challenge.  Able to return to this state of uncertainty and free choice illusion for another ride when it is called effectively to do so.

So that the children of God, the creations of God, .. are actually part in parcel of that God or Creation Energy!

This  life is a roller coaster ride. Enjoy your passion within it and whatever gathering of two or more in Forgive Affirmed Spirit to make it better can garner.

Healing be unto you and yours and me and mine in

Forgive Affirmed Spirit

Answer 2

You need help matey. Go see the doc but don't take medication for it for god's sake. Exercise can sort it out.

Answer 3

Ok i have an idea stop completly dont write notes think to yourself "so what if they withdraw from me" Just dont care "Let it slide" If u fear what will happen ,the fear will rule your life if u accept the fact that u might become an outcast then you will have no fear of it.

Answer 4

The first two answers are good advice.

Add this: Tell your friends about what you wrote here, or show it to them in writing. They are your friends and will probably tell you to stop worrying.

Answer 5

You need new friends who don't make you feel the weaker member in the group. You need people around you that can relate to you. You obviously feel massively pressured to be like them, well your not like them but it doesn't make you socially handicapped, it means you need to learn to feel comfortable in yourself. By the way, if they do drop you as a friend they aren't worth worrying about. Is there anyone in the group that you feel you could trust to talk to, i'll bet they'll be relieved and honored that you feel you can speak to them about stuff. Have you been to the doctors about your anxiety because it is obviously affecting your daily life and causing you problems, so they would be happy to help you.