I feel as though my mom just doesn't care anymore...

Question

my mother has been doing things indirectly thats really hurt me (emotionally). I'm so frustrated with her and tonight when I saw her (I don't live with her) I completely ignored her, I didn't even want to speak to her but its as if she didn't even notice. I'm pretty sure she has an idea of why I'm mad at her but she doesn't understand that me ignoring her is a sign that I want her to know somethings bothering me and that I want her to confront me about it so I can talk about it...

I'm 17 btw and we are usually very close in terms of "Mother and daughter"

I wanna be able to talk about whats bothering me, but I don't wanna be the one to bring it up cause I don't want to seem like im desperate for attention and trying to cause an argument or anything. I want HER to care enough to ask me about it but she hasn't yet and its been a few days I've been more distant with her.

Why is she acting like this? What should I do in this sort of situation?

Answer 1

Without coming across agressive with your mum, or showing how upset you are with her, try coming off as a caring and forgiving daughter who just wants to undertstand what is going on..

You sound pretty head strong and stubborn hun, you may have to put your wall down just to get the answers you seek.. If you were an attention seeker you would have thrown a big temper tantrum just to be heard whereas you are not doing that...

Hope you find your way hun..

Answer 2

Sounds like you two have a lot in common, look at this way, if you approach her and talk to her you'll have the satisfaction of knowing that your much more mature than she is, sorry but she's not a good mom if she's acting like her 17 year old daughter....no offense but you're young and immature and she's setting a bad example...SO PLEASE STOP THE GAMES, get over yourself and talk to her before everything gets blown out of proportion.  SHE DOESNT CARE because she's a bad mom whose trying to prove a point to her own 17 year old daughter....she's pathetic, I dont know what her problem is but stop behaving like her, grow up and talk to her.