I feel bad for my parents. my sister and her husband wants to kick them out of the house

Question

they can't afford to get their own place for now. both of my parents has just started working and we're financially tied right now. i would want them to stay with me but my dad has already told me he's comfortable with where he is right now, which is at my sister's.he has his own room and everything. my husband and i live in a small apartment, and not much room for my dad to go around. i am tired of hearing the same complaints from my sister. i told her that once we get a house in 2 mos. time, i will take them from her. i am sick of her whining all the time, so is her husband. everything to them is a nuisance, esp. my parents. all i'm asking right now is a little patience until we get a house. i never thought my sister would turn out like this. every financial problem they have, they blame it on me or my parents, when i never asked her any money. it was hard living with them. my husband and i used to stay with them for a couple of months (we pay rent) until we could afford to move out. they did the same think: complain about everything! my parents are trying their best: they clean, cook, ect. but it never satisfies my sister.

she's a real drama queen. she's quick to offer help but when the going gets tough, she will just drop you like a hot potato. both her and her husband are fault finders. i feel bad 'coz she doesn't seem to show any sympathy towards our parents. all she ever does is complain, complain, complain!

i dread picking up the phone whenever she calls, because it's all the same. what can i do, as much as i want to help my parents, we are financially tied right now. that's why i am really pushing to get a house so my parents can stay with me in the meantime until they can afford to get their own place.

i don't know how to talk to my sister so she can understand.pls. help.

Answer 1

I'd say that your heart is in the right place here.  

No one should have a lifestyle with so much everyday stress, it's not good for your parents, your sister, or you.

I think that you are doing the best you can, and it's really good of you to be helping out your parents, but until you can actually get a suitable house for all of you to live in your sister is just going to have to do her part.

You've probably already tried to reason with her right?

Well, sometimes you just have to say that enough is enough.

Draw the line somewhere, tell her that she needs to deal with it, or complain to someone else.  You are doing as much as you can.

You could also play the guilt card, your parents raised you two, they have cared for you and guided you through your life, helping them out now is the least that you can do.

They changed your diapers for goodness sake!  They didn't gain any money from you, you didn't have jobs then.

Your sister doesn't have to do anything close to what they did.

Just do what you can, things always work out in the end.

Good luck.  

Answer 2

if she calls don't pick up..assuming you have call display...she sure sounds like a high maintenance brat...maybe they could stay with a friend or at a small motel til your house is ready...motels are usually pretty reasonable by the week...you are a good daughter...as for your sister..don't worry what goes around comes around..someday when she is down and out someone will rub her face in it...good luck

Answer 3

Awww...sorry to hear that. You sister is an a**.  Why is she acting s inconsiderate knowing you situation and your parents condition. She should be a bit more understanding. Just let her know that you're looking for a house and in about two more months you'll going to be taking your parents in. She's not going to kick them out if she was she would have been done it. Pay her no mind. If more problems come, I know you don't have that much space but just let them come and stay with you til ou get your house just so you don't have to hear your sisters mouth. Sorry. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Ok well I can't say i blame you sister cause my sister use to live with me on multiple occasions and she is older than me and I couldn't stand it... The way I look at it is I have my own life with my own family now and yes you still are my family but your parents should be old enough and wise that they shouldn't be in this situation AT ALL...anywayz.... In 2 months there  in no reason as to why your parents should be able to get their own place seeing as they both are working..... and you cant really say much as to how it is for your sis cause your parents are not living with you they are living with her...

So I would say look at it from your sisters point of view your parents are stepping in on her life right now and unless your parents are un able to work then she shouldn't have to take care of them yet.....