I feel depressed and i need support

Question

I know this is not the best place to get advice, and maybe some people will discourage me.But I feel like I have no one to turn to or get support from. I feel so alone and depressed. I was dating this guy for 3 months, and recently we had s*x. I regret it and wish I could turn back the hands of time, but there is no point in thinking "what if" or "shoulda woulda coulda". It was my first time, I'm 21 years old if anyone asks. Anyways after we had s*x, he stopped calling and texting. He kept telling me he was busy. But finally he told me the truth, that s*x was all he wanted from me, he is not emotionally attached to me, he was only attracted to me. He got what he wanted and is 'done' with me. I came online hoping someone can tell me some words of inspiration because I cant turn to my friends and family, they are very religious and conservative and I am too embarrassed and ashamed to turn to them. I was hoping someone can relate to me. I feel so hopeless.

Answer 1

That really sucks.

Unfortunately, a LOT of guys are just looking to get some, especially if they're around your age.

I know it hurts, but if he's that shallow then good riddance.  

Answer 2

Sometimes other people can be total A holes. I can totally relate to what you are saying. Acept my first time wasn't even with someone I was in a relationship with. And lets just say it wasnt exactly my idea. But you just have to remember that you are an amazing person and they missed out on a really great girl. What I do is it may sound a little vain but it works I look at myself in the mirror and tell myself that I am beautiful no matter what another person says, And that I am worth more then what others may say. That I am special and I am talented. I am beautiful and so are you. And no other being on this earth can take that away from us. good luck and remember that he missed out on a beautiful girl. :D  

Answer 3

first off, i am so sorry that happened to you, i know you must be feeling awful right now. there are so many things in my life that i wish i could take back, but i can't.  if you are religious, believe that everything happens for a reason. take what happened and learn from it. that boy is obviously a jerk, and is not worth your time. i would ignore him. know that a mistake is only a mistake if you don't learn from it. best of luck and God bless.  

Answer 4

im am sorry i can not related. However there is this guy i have been IMing from Y/A and his is in a similar situation if you like i could introduce you two, and you guys could talk you might feel better.

Answer 5

I am sorry to hear about your situation, that has happened to me and I guess I dealt with it a little better because of alot of other reasons that I will explain if you ever want to im me. Either way, unfortunately thats what men usually want. Its sad but true, there are two ways to deal with it, you can either date someone and wait a long time to have s*x, or have s*x asap before you have feelings to see if thats all he wanted, i am only suggesting this if you are comfortable with your sexuality and want to do it for pleasure. if you want/need to talk to someone im me anytime.  

Answer 6

There is nothing you can do about it.  consider it's your first biggest mistake, learn from it and move on. you should put your hope on better things in life than on a guy just wants to get laid.

Answer 7

I lived with the burdan of having supported my highschool girlfriends abortion for the longest time with no one to talk to.  My parents i thought were out of the question but i finally one day told them and they were totally supportive.  turns out they both had been through the same thing.   I guess what i am saying you should be able to turn to your mom, dad or both of them.  they may be dissapointed but will probably surprise you

Answer 8

tell him that hes a (any word u can think of)

YOURE OK, there are just alot of jerks out there and all you need to do is relax.  go out with some friends and have a good ole time out, and the next time ure out with a guy, no s*x until after marriage, or elseit might happen again.

BEST OF LUCK

Answer 9

Ideally, a persons "first time" is something that should be looked back at with great fondness.  Of course, we don't live in an ideal world.  From what I can tell, most people regret their first time (at some level at least).  I certainly wish my first wasn't with the girl it was, or that I was as inept as I was.  Best thing you can do is chalk it up to a learning experience and try not to make the same mistakes.  This may seem a callused and unemotional way to look at it, but you're right, there's nothing you can do to change it.  As long as you didn't catch any diseases or become pregnant, the impact on the rest of your life should be negligible.  A good thing that came from this is now you know what kind of man to avoid.  

Answer 10

I guess the best advice is to accept what happened and learn from it. What else can you do.It sounds like you must have been religious and conservative too or you probably wouldn't have waited until you were 21. Maybe church is where you should be looking for your comfort.  It's always a good place to clear your conscience. I'm sorry for you having to go through this alone.  

Answer 11

i know how you feel. i was depressed for a while and felt like i had no one to turn to. but my situation was different. anyways you need to know you are special and that people need you, people love you, and someone will always be there for you no matter what. even if you cant see that they do right now. do not let this keep you from living your life. you need to learn to let go and move on. i know its hard and its difficult to just put it behind because you feel all these emotions and for some reason you cant stop thinking about it, but you must try. please dont live your life in regret and dispare over one thing that happened. i gave up some of my life to it, yet i learned from my mistake. it was a mistake you made that will make you stronger later on.

if you really do need someone to talk to and have no one to turn to i can try to help. im always here to listen. no matter who it is or for what purpose.

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Answer 12

all men want s*x its the way we are some will stick with ya and some jus want to try a new girl every nite. jus forget about it and move on mabe you will find a guy that will stick with ya.