I feel depressed without much to be depressed about... help?

Question

ok i have one friend, but she isnt really that much of a friend. she aways starts rumors about me, makes fun of me, and is a ***** but shes my only friend and i dont want to lose her.

the only boyfriends i've had were over the internet. i've had two. i'm 14

im not gorgeous but im not ugly either.

im always fighting with my brother about everything. once it go so bad i ended up in the hostpital because he pushed me down the stairs.

and the "popular" girls of my school hate me and want to all fight me. i have no idea why.

last year i didnt do good in school at all. i failed math science and social studies and i was trying hard.

i dont have that much to be depressed about but i am. i try looking at the good side f things but i always end up looking at the down. i went to a camp and i made aot of friends there but then i on,y got sadder since i will never see them again.

can someone please explain to me why i am feeling this way at such a young age.

i have felt so bad that once i was going to try to overdose but i thought things through before it and decided not.

Can someone hep me?

Thankkyou

-Lilianna

Answer 1

I think you should ask your mom to take you to the therapist. It isn't your fault you're depressed, it just has to do with low seretonin in the brain. A therapist will either prescribe anti-depressants or talk to you and help you solve your problems.

Just be nice to your brother. Don't fight with him. And if you want to make more friends just try smiling and saying hi more often. Try to be a more positive, approachable person. You have to be a friend to make a friend. Good luck!

Answer 2

Ok, sweetie, first of all, your "friend" does NOT sound very friendly at all. You don't need friends who will treat you badly, ever. I can't say definitely, but she very well could be the reason for your lack of other friends in the first place.  

I know it sounds lame, but try to not worry about the boys. It's not important how many bf's you've had, what matters is how good the relationship is in the first place.  You could have had 100 boy friends, but once you break up, it's over and there's nothing left of it. Just be careful on the internet, people are often not as they seem to be, please never give out personal info!  Besides, I've had many friends who went all through high school dateless, but they were the first ones to get married after wards, and over 10 yrs later are still happily married!

You've already admitted that you're not ugly, so it's a safe bet the "popular" girls see your beauty and think of you as a 'threat' to them. They wouldn't want to be your friend bc they wouldn't want you to take away their crushes or bfs.

You've got a lot on your mind, that can make it very hard to do well in school. Don't be afraid to talk to the school counselor about anything, or even your favorite teacher. Do you have an adult that you trust and feel comfortable talking to? You'll be surprised how much it can help!

You are obviously very smart, especially since you've decided against over dosing.

And, what about the friends you've met at camp? -Did you get anyone's number or anything, so you could keep in contact with them? If not, head back next year and make sure you do!  

Answer 3

HEY GIRL! I KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH BEEN THEIR MY SELF WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE, I THOUGHT IT WAS THE END OF THE WORLD, BUT IT WASN'T. YOUR SO CALLED FRIEND LOOSE HER ASAP!!! YOU WILL FEEL SO MUCH BETTER ONCE YOU DO, SHE IS JUST BRINGING YOU BAD AND NEGATIVE VIBES AND THAT'S NOT GOOD! DON'T WORRY TO MUCH BOUT EVERY THING, EVERY THING WILL BE ALL RIGHT! MAYBE FIND A LOCAL CHURCH AND GO, THEY HAVE TO HAVE A YOUNG GROUP, AND THEY DO LOTS OF FUN THINGS, I WAS IN ONE WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE, AND IT WAS THE BEST THING I EVER DID! SO CHIN UP!

P.S I'LL BE YOUR FRIEND!!

Answer 4

Okay, you definitely need to get some therapy if you had thoughts of suicide. There's nothing wrong with getting help, most people do it. So don't be shy or embarrassed. It will help you a lot.

You say you don't have anything to be depressed about, but you listed a lot of things to be sad about. You deserve a lot better. I'm sure there are a lot of nicer girls at your school that you could be friends with. You just need to find them. Stop caring about the popular girls, they aren't that special. You will realize that as you get older.

But for now, have you tried joining any clubs or activities to meet new friends? If you can become friends with some nice girls, that will help you a lot. Plus, getting an activity you like to do will also add to your happiness. And if you don't have any hobbies, keep trying till you find one. It's amazing what it does to add more joy in your life.

Maybe even think of what you what to become someday. Or think of someone you admire. And learn about that person and find out how you could become that too. Giving yourself something to look forward to in your future will do a lot to help you become more happy. Good luck. And remember, none of this is permanent. Someday you'll look back on this time in your life and it will be just a blip in your life.  

Answer 5

ok they r jelious.ur brother is a douche.its TRUE that guys only go 4 the girls that theyy r CERTAIn they can get.maybe u just intimadate them w/ ur looks.....u never kno!!!!!!!!!!!!!GOOD LUCK W/ LIFE!!!  

Answer 6

YOu deserve so much better.  With a friend like her you don't need enemies.  Get your school social worker to help you.  If your brother is not getting help for his anger issues then you need to keep away from him.

Of course you aren't doing well in school you have to much stuff mucking up your brain.  Tell your parents and the school nurse that you've had suicidal thoughts and get help now.  You have a whole life ahead of you and why not make it the best you can.  If you can get tutoring during the summer to help you catch up it would help.  Some places have enrichment activities.  Try the library.

Always, always ask for what you need.  You don't need to be bored or depressed get out there and be part of life.  

Again I'm going to recommend 4-H as a way to meet people that will hopefully be quality people.  Your 'friend' isn't dump her now.  She is reinforcing your poor self image.  She probably recognizes what a great person you would be given half a chance and she doesn't want to compete with that,

Be all you can be and don't look back.