I feel discriminated against for being a virgin?

Question

I know people are gonna say "a lot of people are virgins... not everyone has s*x". Well let me just start out by saying, yes, i'm gonna go ahead and say all of my friends are not virgins. They always joke saying "Yeah I still have my v card. I never get kills, I hate s*x" and stuff like that. It makes it very awkward for me , especially cause the guy I'm seeing says it too so it makes me feel like he'll hate the fact I'm a virgin. I just turned 17 and that seems like it's extremely weird for someone to be a virgin. It kinda sucks...

Answer 1

so what

none of my friends are virgins and i am i take that as an honor

most ppl lose their virgintity to fit in and because they think itll make them cool but thats not the case

and if you feel someone your with will have a problem with you being a virgin you should leave them

s*x isnt everything

Answer 2

I'm wondering why does someone need to "advertise" their status like that? Seems to me that's something highly personal, and no one else's business.

Next time someone tries to bust your chops, just simply say "my private life is not for public consumption", and then change the subject...or walk away.  It's that simple.

Answer 3

It's your body baby, do as you feel fit.

Answer 4

If you don't want to be a virgin then have protected s*x, if you do want to continue being a virgin then stand up for what you believe in. And if the guy has a problem with that then he's not worth having.

Answer 5

let me just say that it's refreshing to see young people feel so strong in who they are not to be pressured into doing  "what everybody else is doing." If being a virgin is what you want then by all means continue being a virgin. only people with strong enough convictions can resist temptation and peer pressure. don't mind your friends. they are just teasing you. that's all.  

Answer 6

Unhealthy sexual relationships are far more damaging to a person then retaining that V-card! It sounds as though your friend enjoy to advertise their lack of virginity in order to appear mature and connected with one another. Ironically what they're doing has the opposite effect - it makes them seen immature and scattered.

I first had s*x at 15 and I wish I would have waited. They can say what they want, but you're not going to regret having strength at this age - the problem with that V-card is you really don't know what you've got until it's gone. Intimate relations are not about anyone besides yourself and that one other person. Make very sure they are worth your trust - and this guy you are seeing, if it's a problem for him that you don't feel ready to have s*x then maybe he should sleep with someone who considers s*x to be more of a throw-away experience then you do - that would be very much his loss. Imagine being that girl too, who only has a boyfriend because she'll give it up fast - that's nothing to be proud of.

Well done, stay strong and make sure that s*x is somethinmg you do when you want.

Answer 7

They are just weak-minded and weak-willed. Anyone can lay down and spread their legs to the world. Guess what ? You are not a w***e. After they say " Hey , she is still a virgin!" say:

" Uh... so what is your point? Exactly. You dont have one so SHUT IT"

or

"Big deal you had s*x. What do you want a friggin medal?"

or

"News flash: Anyone can give in to pressure to have s*x. It takes a REAL WOMAN to wait".

Answer 8

Obviously your BF likes you the way you are. If he didn't he probably would not be with you.

But I would discuss the fact that his comments bother you.  You should also tell your friends to cut it out as well.  They probably don't realize how much this hurts your feelings & Im sure if they knew they'd stop.

If not, then you need some new friends.

Answer 9

At the age of 17 when you're still in school maybe it matters more.. because a factor is the group of friends you hang out with. When I was in high school, we didn't talk about s*x.. s*x wasn't even a conversation of topic in my little 'clique.'

However, s*x has become more of an issue for the younger generation, and I'm only 23 years old and saying this.

I'm 23 years old and still a virgin by choice.. men have left me because I wasn't willing to have s*x with them.. sometimes I felt they only wanted to get with me because they knew I was a virgin, so then I stopped telling the men I was seeing that I was a virgin, but then I felt like I was a faker because they may assume that I have had experience with something I don't have experience in.

personally, I have realistic expectations.  I know I might not be with the man I lose my virginity to for the rest of my life.. I'm not waiting for marraige or a lifelong committment, I'm waiting for a man who can wait and make me feel comfortable.

Only one of my friends is a virgin along with me and she's not even someone I really hang out with.

Imagine sitting at a restaurant having your friends talk about 'candies and balloons,' while you laugh along haha...

I don't think virgins should be held up in a pedastil though.. but yeah I dont think people should make fun of you for being a virgin at the same time.

Being a virgin does not make up the sum of who you are as a person.  You don't make decisions in life based on the fact that you're a virgin.

They should have fun hanging out with you regardless of what you do or don't do sexually.. why is it any of their business?

Last night my friends took me to a friggin p**n store for the first time in my life.. and I was laughing along and having fun with them.

Just don't let them bug you about being a virgin..

It doesn't take alot of skill to lose your virginity.

We're females in North America 2008.

It doesnt take much to find a guy willing to have s*x with us, but we're not looking for a walking p***s as much as we don't want to be walking vaginas

Answer 10

dont do it. ur just getting pressured. u will regret it when u get pregant when u r not ready to have a baby or get an std. hey at least u r  a virgin. doesnt make u look S****y