I feel guilty... what should i do? HELP!?

Question

okay so heres the scoop. I used to be well very permiscuse when i was younger, and i am not very proud of it. It seems whenever i get really drunk that side comes out of me so i don't usually do that anymore. I found a wonderful boyfriend and we have been together for almost 2 years and we have a beautiful son together. I love him with all my heart and have never cheated on him or even thought about it. So me and him went to his home town a week ago and drank with his friend and his friends boss. My boyfriend passed out early and we all decided to go swimming in the pool and the hot tub. Now i never see anything wrong with flirting, just don't touch right? Well, my bf's friends boss, started to feel me up in the hot tub, and i was so drunk that i let him for a couple minutes!!!! Thank god i snapped out of it like 5 minutes later and realized what i was doing, he tried to come over to me and grab me but i pushed him away and said no, i love my boyfriend im sorry i can't do this! And than i left and went to bed. But ever since i have felt so guilty about it. I mean i though about telling my bf, but he's a really jealous guy, with a bad temper! He means well, but one little thing can make him really mad really easy, and i guess i just didn't want to fight with him and jeopordize our relationship. Am i wrong for not telling him? i don't know what to do , i mean its just eating away at me. Please help?!

Answer 1

You did the right thing so you shouldn't feel guilty. Yes, you should tell your boyfriend mainly so he can know what sort of friends he has. Why would he want a friend that is going to hit on his girlfriend and the mother of his child.  

Answer 2

I would just tell him that this guy made a pass at you and emphasize that you turned him down. Tell him you  feel that because you always want him  to be honest with you,  you had to tell him even though it would probably upset him.  I would think this would make him trust you more not less, for being honest.  Good Luck

Answer 3

TELL HIM!!!!  The truth will set you free.

Answer 4

If you know you have a problem with promiscuity when drinking, and really want to have a good, lasting and faithful relationship with your boyfriend, then you stay sober, or at least sober enough NOT to use drinking as an excuse for bad behavior. That is something you can, and should, be in control of.  

Answer 5

what your BF doesnt know wont hurt him. Sounds like the bf's friends boss wanted to take advantage of you. He should get his butt kicked but leave that alone. Just pretend it never happened. Only you know what your BF would do if you told him but chances are he will not be happy and start a fight. Also. you were drunk and you will be blamed for bringing it on. It will be a disaster if you told him. he trusted you enough to pass out and leave you with other men. Leave it that way. If he finds out that you were that easily influenced he will never trust you even if you said no (after 5 lobg minutes).

Answer 6

tell him and he will call you so many names you'll wonder why you didn't get busy with the other guy. Forget about it.

Answer 7

I don't see this as a cheating situation, you did stop it. BUT, you need to start being open and honest in this relationship, if you cant handle the liquor , don't drink.