I feel hopeless. What do I do? I hate not knowing hwo me and my bf are going to work out. If he will cheat?

Question

Will I ever move out of my parents house?

Will I ever have enough money too?

Will he want to get married?

Why do I not have as much aas other people my age do?

What if my parents die?

What if I have kids?

I feel so hopeless sometimes. I am so sad. I love being around my boyfreind, but I think he thinks I am too clingy.

I know he needs his space. I just feel alone. What if I am alone forever?

I am so angry now that my brother left me here to take care of parents and he lives far away. I feel so bad for feeling like that. I have always been happy for him, but now it's starting to change.

I hate the way my life is.

Answer 1

sometimes its hard when you feel like life wont stop throwing you curve balls. and the saying is very true, when it rains it pours. I think that your best bet right now would be to talk to someone who is completely removed from your sitation, such as a doctor or therapist. Many people associate theapits with insane people, but this is not true. Many people turn to them as a way to express their feelings without any judgement.

You will eventually move out of your parents house, and it is very commendable to help them out when they are in need. As far as your boyfriend, some men just take longer to reach the maturity of wanting marriage. you should not force him into anything or he may end up resetning you like you are currently resenting your brother. You do want to make sure that he has his "man time" or else he may feel to smoothered and that is never good.

Good luck with everything! It will be ok and in the end make you stronger.  

Answer 2

Yes...you will move out eventually, but only when the timing is right.

Yes...you will have enough money to support yourself...as long as you set your career goals and go for them...don't allow yourself to slide, work toward it.

He might want to marry you, he might not.  In the end if it was meant to be it will...if not you'll be thankful for the guy you do end up with.

Trust me, there is ALWAYS someone worse of than you...you are rich in comparison to people living in third world countries....count your blessings.

If you parents die you'll be devestated, for a time...you will heal, keep them in your heart and move forward, thankful for having them as parents.

Again, count your blessings, if you have kids you'll have one the greatest free gifts life hands us.  Take the responsibility seriously and dont forget to enjoy them.

Don't hate...always look at the glass half full....things could be much worse.  You're probably tired right now...look around for the positives...they're always there.  Start seeing yourself as the special person you are...this could solve your problems...especially the one with your b/f.