I feel insulted, and I feel bad now?

Question

I was at a football game yesterday, and I saw my friend that lived in the neighborhood Derek. We were all talking ( me, Derek, my best friend, and my ex bf that I am trying to get back) So Derek says things for attention and so that he seems like the higher better person. So he said to me, (MY NAME HERE) you seem to get fatter every time I see you. So then he grabbed my arm and started jiggling it. I am petite, but I have some meat on me!

I feel SOO insulted and now, I am starting to believe him. Because I gained 4 pounds over the summer. And my ex bf even said, he's telling the truth. I am kind of sensitive about my appearance. What should I do?

Answer 1

You should have said that he gets more stupid/ugly every time you see him

Answer 2

first of all..

tell derek to go fall in a ditch somewhere.

and as for your ex, did he dump you? If he did then he doesnt like you, and didnt hav a problem sayign anything. If you dumped him, hes upset and mad cause he cant handle rejection.

Thats what it comes down tooo. And four pounds isnt anything, believe me i gained more over the summer.

Answer 3

Tell your freind derek that u dont gain weight on purpose and you cant control how your body is... and tell him wat he said really hurt ur feelings

Answer 4

u should have come back at him with an insult that would embarass himlike he embarassed u.....and dont worry about gaining weight....ur probably just growing....and not everyone has to be as skinny as a rail their whole life....im really skinny and my friends r always jealous that they rnt as skiny as i am....and i dont do anything to be skinny....i just have a really fast matabolism.....i dont eat healthy at all.....so dont worry about it....just egnore him if he ever does it again....or u could smack him that would work to(lol)....he sounds like a real jerk

Answer 5

Lose some weight,and they will have nothing to say...but do it For Your Self not them. Just 10 pounds can make a big difference...it will make you feel better about yourself....

Answer 6

First of all, thank your lucky stars that you are no longer with your exboyfriend.  In most cases when people insult others it is too try and make them feel better about themselves.  You sound like a caring and sensitive person.  Time for you to acquire some new friends and move on.  All the best to you and be happy.

Answer 7

1) Start eating healthier

2) Exercise more

3) Get a new hairstyle

4) Buy some new trendy clothes

5) Don't ever talk or date any of these rude boys again.

6) If they tell you how hot you look, say, "Thanks, now I can get a better boyfriend than any of you!"

Answer 8

Four pounds? Don't sweat it, that's nothing. And he's just kidding, he's only teasing you. Next time he does that, joke back and say, "Yeah, I have to lose some weight. Maybe you should too, you're the size of a whale."

It's just playful teasing, it's actually fun. You needn't be so sensitive.

Answer 9

Don't pay any attention to his comments!

Sounds like he's picking on your insecurities.

Maybe he likes you?

Answer 10

Yeah, I agree with the poster who said that he probably likes you.

Maybe he's just showing off for his buddies?

If you still like/are friends with this guy, I'm sure you'll be able to work it out. Who knows? He might be your new special someone.

If you don't want to be, I'm sure you've got plenty of come-back lines at your disposal (the one "you look uglier every time I see you" that another poster suggested would get the job done)

Answer 11

Some people makes joke to be funny--and to be liked. But hurtful jokes have no place for anyone.

On the other hand, it helps to be witty, you should have grabbed one of his man b***s and say, "What size is your bar?"

Stay off the scale. Now that he has damaged your ego, your self-esteem is going to be low for a while. Do some exercises to keep the stress down, and don't go on any crazy diets (they don't work anyway). Look at yourself less in the mirror, too.

I also suggest that you drop Derek as a friend. And if he is so clueless, and still think it was just a "joke", tell him to go f himself.

Answer 12

Ugh.. that guy is just what is called a "Jerk" and a "Bully" and he does it to get in your head you probably are just growing taller and if you do think you are gaining weight just try being more active but its most likely from you growing taller or from you gaining muscle and if your a guy and going through puberty you don't even have to work out and you get stronger its simply the testosterone doing its part

Answer 13

eat sushi and talapia with fat free spay butter broied in over with tons of lemon pepper!!!!

Answer 14

I think that is mean.maybe he fancys you and was trying to put your ex off so he can have you! Its better to have a bit of meat than be skin and bone hun!

Answer 15

lol its fine he is a a*****e and isn't a very good gentlemen is he? now plz do yourself a favor and forget about it! dwelling on the past is only going to stress you out.