I feel invisible?

Question

To start off I don't think my life all that bad but I would like some advice on what to do. I feel invisible to girls. I don't necessarily mean in a dating sense but I can barely get a girl to say 2 words to me. The girls I do know like me, but most of my humor is what I consider a very "guy" style of humor.I am in a jr. high and am not particularly attractive but I'm not ugly.I am not popular but not a nerd. I just want to know a way to get noticed.

any help?

Answer 1

How To Use Humor To Attract Women

>If you've discovered the connection between

making women LAUGH and making women feel a

powerful ATTRACTION for you, then you'll also

enjoy THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyCom...

   One of the things that I discuss a lot is the

idea of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men

while NOT feeling it for others (even though the

men that women feel ATTRACTION for might not be

good choices for them because they're abusive,

etc.)

   If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach

goes something like this:

* ATTRACTION isn't something that is logically

chosen.

* ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to

certain cues and behaviors.

   One of the things I've isolated that seems to

cause women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men

is the idea that I call being "Cocky & Funny."

   This is simply using an arrogant style of humor

when you're dealing with attractive women that

leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION

for you.

   At the seminars I teach, I realized that

several of the guys were having trouble getting

the idea that a woman could feel an emotion like

ATTRACTION in response to something as seemingly

unrelated as making arrogant jokes (especially

about her) and making her laugh.

   I mean, how COULD this possibly work?

   I thought I'd take this newsletter and talk a

bit about why I think that something so illogical

could help you to create ATTRACTION, and some

specifics about how to do it.

FIRST THE "WHY"...

   Remember, women feel ATTRACTION for a very

different set of reasons than men do.

   Where men focus more on LOOKS, women focus more

on PERSONALITY, SELF ESTEEM, POWER, and several

other more "intangible" qualities.

   Women also love men who can make them laugh.

   And by watching a lot of guys who are VERY good

at attracting women, I've noticed a common

pattern.

   Most of these guys use a common way of

communicating with women that communicates the

above qualities WITHOUT ACTUALLY HAVING TO SAY

THAT THEY HAVE THEM.

   I call this way of communicating "Cocky &

Funny," and it's one of the cornerstones of

attracting women.

   I believe that when a man is Cocky & Funny, he

triggers a primal response inside of a woman that

creates an instant emotional ATTRACTION.

   This is because women come "pre-wired" with an

internal template of what comprises a desirable

mate, and a set of emotional trigger buttons that,

when pushed, create that powerful emotional

response called ATTRACTION that compels her to

mate with the man who triggers it.

   Most men have no idea that this mechanism

exists or how to trigger it, so they do

traditional "nice guy" things like buying dinners,

gifts, and flowers... and giving women

compliments... and calling them all the time

(which usually have the OPPOSITE of the desired

effect when used too much, and too early on).

   As I got to know more and more guys who were

REALLY GOOD with women, I started to see that they

weren't afraid to make fun of attractive women,

bust on them, and even challenge them... but it

was always done in a VERY FUNNY, even charming

way.

   At first I just assumed that it was the fact

that this pattern was just a technique that my

friends were using to make conversation.

   Only after really paying attention, trying out

this technique myself quite a bit, and LOOKING

CLOSELY AT THE ACTUAL RESPONSES I WAS GETTING did

I begin to realize the UNBELIEVABLY POWERFUL

EMOTIONAL RESPONSES that this one concept was

generating.

   And after working on it, testing it, refining

it, and studying the finer points about women,

men, and the whole "mating process" did I begin to

really understand how well this worked.

   By the way, if you want to understand more

about WHY this works so well, you should take a

minute and read this:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Attracti...

   Here's the basic formula:

1. Take an arrogant comment.

2. Add humor to make it funny.

3. Feel free to use this combination when poking

fun at the woman you're dealing with.

   Here's a simple example:

   Let's say you're walking down the street with a

woman and she says, "Wow, I really like those

shoes in the window" and you answer, "You would".

   Here's another one:

   Let's say you're talking to a woman who's

wearing a pair of shoes with four inch heels, and

you say, "So what, are you about four feet tall

without the shoes?"

   Get it?

   You're saying things that are FUNNY while at

the same time A BIT ARROGANT.

   An added bonus that these two examples

demonstrate is that neither one is quite clear.

   It's obvious that you're making fun of her, but

it's not exactly clear what you mean.

   When you communicate like this, you

communicate:

1. That you're confident.

2. That you're comfortable.

3. That you're intelligent.

4. That you're funny.

   ...which, of course, are all qualities that

lead to a woman feeling ATTRACTION.

   Of course, most men wouldn't even THINK about

saying things like this to a woman that they find

attractive because they fear REJECTION.

   Most men would also say that I must be CRAZY

for thinking that these kinds of comments would

trigger an EMOTIONAL response of ATTRACTION inside

of a woman.

   I can understand this because when I first saw

guys being Cocky & Funny with women, I PERSONALLY

couldn't believe that it was what was creating the

ATTRACTION.

   But the fact is that IT DOES CREATE ATTRACTION.

   And as illogical as it seems, if you learn how

to cultivate the skill of being Cocky & Funny,

you'll notice an AMAZING difference in the way

that women respond to you.

   You'll find that the more you refine and

perfect the technique, the more women will want to

talk to you, be around you, and feel the

uncontrollable urges associated with ATTRACTION.

   So here's the formula again: When you're in a

situation with a woman, say things that are both

Cocky & Funny.

   Let's say you're talking to a woman, and she

says, "Here, let me buy this round of drinks."

   You might respond by saying, "Look, don't think

that just because you buy me a drink that I'm

going to go home with you. I'm not that easy...."

   Or maybe she mentions that she just started

working as a waitress... and you say, "Well,

that's a deal breaker for me, because I need a

woman who makes enough to support the both of us

so I can pursue my life-long goal of being a house

husband."

   Are you with me?

   These are all FUNNY and at the same time

ARROGANT.

   One of the exercises that I recommend is to

take some time and come up with a whole bunch of

Cocky & Funny comments that YOU can use in the

most common "real world" situations you find

yourself meeting women in... and then mentally

rehearse them so you have them ready in your mind

to use.

   When you use this magical way of communicating

with women, you'll find that it often sparks an

INSTANT sexual tension, and sets up a perfect

interaction between you and the woman you're

talking to.

   It creates a wonderful, entertaining CHALLENGE

that women just LOVE to engage in...

   It not only sets you apart from other men, but

as I mentioned, it also triggers that wonderful

emotion called ATTRACTION at the same time.

   Double Bonus!

   Of course, this is one part of a much bigger

picture of how to use your personality to create

sexual tension and ATTRACTION from the VERY

BEGINNING of your interactions with women.

   And if you want to learn all of the secrets

that have taken me literally YEARS to figure out,

then I'd recommend that you check out my Advanced

Dating Techniques program.

   It's JAM PACKED with killer concepts,

techniques, and step by step tactics for

approaching women, starting conversations,

creating attraction, getting numbers, getting

dates, and taking things to a "physical" level...

all with very little risk of rejection.

   You can go check out some AWESOME video samples

of the program here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Advanced...

   And if you're reading this right now and you

haven't taken the time to download my online

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You can download it and be reading it within a few

minutes. Go get it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

   I'll talk to you soon.

      Your Friend,

      David D.

P.S. Take a minute and look at all of the

different programs I've created to teach you how

to meet women and get dates. You can see them all,

plus watch some great video clips here:

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Answer 2

I'm having a similar problem than you.  I can't get a girl to go out with me; no matter how hard it try.  The way a dude socializes and speaks to girls; depends on how he is capable of dating and asking girls out.  It tuff being rejected and accepting that, but you have to make girls feel comfortable around you.  If you have achieved that with knowing a certain girl for a long time; then you might have luck asking her out.  There are many reasons why a girl could rejected to dating a guy, and I know....I've been rejected more times then I can count.