I feel jealous of my 2 1/2-month-old baby?

Question

My 2 1/2-month-old baby boy, whom I breastfeed and take care of all day, seems to prefer his dad rather than me. He looks happier and more pleasant when he is with him and when he sees both of us I always come second to his attention. Is it normal? Will it change? What can I do to change it? I suffer from my jealousy...

Answer 1

I can relate to you. I have a 3 month old son and he does the exact same thing. My husband is a teacher so he's gone all morning and most afternoon. but when he gets home its like his favorite toy magically appeared. Truth is that scientists say kids have an attraction for complicated or certain facial features. He prolly finds your husbands face silly or interesting. Dont worry the bond between you and your son cannot be torn by him liking your husband more. You're the reason he's alive, no need to be jelous! :)  

Answer 2

I was going to ask a very similar question! My husband is know as 'fun daddy', because whenever he comes home my 6 month old son wants to be with him and I'm kind of left out! I assume it's because my son sees me all the time and I do the feeding, clothing etc (could be seen as boring, but essential!) things with him whereas by husband who goes out to work only sees him for a hour of so in the evening and therefore plays with him and baths him (concentrated fun!!). I play with my son as well but I find that the games his dad plays are more rough and tumble!  Try not to be jealous our sons will love us because we are their mums and we do all we can for them!

Answer 3

Your baby doesn't prefer your husband-  maybe he just likes the change of a new face when your husband gets home from work (maybe I am making an assumption here that isn't true but I am going to go with it!).  If this is really bothering you, make sure that you are not suffering from any post partum depression or anxiety, because that should be gone by this point.  Hang in there-

Answer 4

i think its normal.. most lil boys love their father.. it will change.. don't get discouraged...

Answer 5

My daughter went threw a faze of this. She would smile at other people and look at them heaps but not at me. I worked out that it was because she was with me all day. She saw my face all day and when she saw someone new it was exciting. Shes 3 months now and I get more smiles then anyone! shes also getting a bit shy of other people.

Your baby is probably just discovering peoples faces and hes facinated by them. Yours is not very exciting for him because he sees it all day.  Dont worry it will change. Next he will start recognizing people more and will know when he sees your face that your his mummy and the lady with the b***s. Then he will be excited to see you

Answer 6

you should play with him more and tell you husband about it

Answer 7

Babies are funny at that age. Its not that he doesn't like you. He could just prefer the way his face even looks. Maybe he has a beard or a moustache that he thinks looks interesting. I think my daughter likes looking at me because I have long hair. I know for sure she likes pulling it! Don't worry. Your baby will love you no matter what... just wait till he starts sitting up, crawling and walking:)

Answer 8

my son loves being with his dad too. i swear he never cries when he is being held by his daddy. and i think it is because his daddy's at work all day so my son loves the little bit of attention he gets from his daddy. he won't want to waste the precious time by crying and upsetting him.  babies are smarter than anyone can imagine!!! also, i think he can tell when he is with "the guys" (daddy, uncle, gfather). he acts different.

it's not going to change, probably until he hits the stranger anxiety mode at around 8 months i think? then he will cry for his mommy all the time.  I can't wait for that time!! i hate when my inlaws hog my baby all day holding him when we visit!! haha

so just know that your baby is just enjoying the time he has with his daddy and know that the two of them need to build a bond as well.  be happy that a wonderful loving family has already formed in your home =)