I feel like I'm failing at life. I'm seventeen?

Question

I hate myself and my life right now.

I'm seventeen, I'll be 18 in april

I don't have my license, I'm scared to even take the test.

I've never had a job, nobody wants to hire me.

I probably wont graduate on time, I suck at school. I have ADHD.

I've never been in a relationship thats lasted more than a month.

I feel depressed, and I think I'm bipolar

I cry almost everyday.

I try my hardest, but that never seems to work, I feel like a failure.

Do you think I'm a failure?

And how can I make my situation better?

Answer 1

Honey, those things do not make you a failure!! You are VERY young and will go through so many different stages and feelings in your life. But to focus on right now- why don't you try talking to a school counsellor or trusted adult family member about your feelings? you probably feel stuck in a bit of a rut and like you don't have sense of direction but that will change I promise!I It is quite normal. I didn't even learn to drive till I was mid twenties! I had a string of TERRIBLE relationships through my life, I couldn't find the right job, I was lonely, I sucked at school and had no direction.

But you know what?- One day, I realised that only I can change those things, and I made a list of everything I wanted to become and change and slowly made it my mission to do whatever it took to acheive every one of those things and I ticked them off as I went. I now am married to a wonderful man, due to give birth to my first child next weekend! I went back to school in my early 20's and worked to get a better score to go to college. I then spoke to a career advisor and worked out what degree interested me and worked hard for 4 years and got a Degree in Communications! 2 weeks before my graduation ceremony I met my future husband (he even came to the ceremony). I had also found a friend to teach me how to drive and I got my license after some effort.

My husband and I used our skills to get good jobs and eventually bought a house together and we each own a car.

I am someone who waited a while to get my act together and acheive al this but you are still so young!- you can start NOW. Even the biggest journey begins with a first step. You CAN do it. I KNOW you can sweety, and I want you to know it too. Start your list today, then choose your 1st thing to tick off and go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

well i looked at your list of things and they were all negive you shouldnt hate your self so try making a list of all the wounderful things about your self and maybe try to patchings up with your family beacuse it sounds like you could really use a good souport group and no matter what your family should always be there for you - good luck and my best of wishes

Answer 3

I am SO sorry.  you should get anti depressants or something.  Also try to look into self esteem classes.  I do not think you are a failure.  Anyone can be a failure if they don't try.    

Answer 4

You need to get some medican

i am bipolar ad wel  you sound like i do when i dont take my meds

when you get your meds it feels like your normal

maybe the first step you should take is take your driving test my cosian is 25 and still never took the test and her sister and brother drive her everywere so take life on step at a time  

Answer 5

hey there hun, first of all, don't be so hard on yourself.

Your still only young and have alot to learn in life.

Have you considered talking to your local doctor for some help? Or speak to a councellor? It sounds weird I know but they can help :)

Sadly when it comes to employment, companies want those that have experience. If u have not enough or too much - dont bother. Some companies are willing to train if the person suits the position. Dont give up, there is a job out there that has your name on it and you will find it, you just have to keep looking. When someone closes a door, another one opens.

If your having trouble at school, maybe get a tuitor or ask your teacher/s to help you.

Don't be so scared at getting your license. Its one of the most incredible responsibilities anyone can get. Dont be scared to drive when you take your test, be confident but not over confident if that makes sense.

Just try and relax and make the best of things that you can.

As for the dating thing, I can't really say much... If its not ment to be then its not ment to be. Keep your chin up hun :)

Answer 6

No matter who you are, you always have it better than someone. Remember that what's happening right now doesn't last your whole life, things change. I'm 17 too and I don't have a job or a license and I've never even been in a relationship, but that's okay, it won't be like that forever.

Answer 7

you're not failing if you don't try. the licenses test isn't as hard as you think...  how about all of them idiots out their driving having barely completed 6th grade? go find somebody to talk to? try to connect with people.. don't hide away in a shell.. you'd be surprised at how many people your age are going through the same thing & can relate to you. & with a little enthusiasm you'll probably get a job in no time. you're just pessimistic [ i am too ]. i don't think you're a failure... you've just given up. & if you've failed anything, its yourself.  get outta the house, live freely, enjoy life, & shop [always cheers me up]. cheer up   :P  

Answer 8

Just always remember one thing: There is always somebody who has it worse.

Im serious.

Your life may sound bad right now but think about theh kids who are starving and have no homes. It might sound really cheesy, but im totally serious.

There are kids who cant even afford Adderall and have no other solution.

There are kids who are being abused or raped.

There are children who have family, no parents.

Some kids have NOTHING so ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS be thankful what what you have, even if it's a little bit.

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Don't be so hard on yourself. No one should consider themselves a failure at 17.  Your problems aren't unusual, but it sounds as if you may have more of them at the same time than the average 17-year-old.  

Start with one thing you want to change and work on that.  I would think the possibility of depression or being bipolar is your biggest concern.  See a doctor and find out if you have a real illness or if you may just be feeling some of the normal teenage blues.  Either way, the doctor can help.

The other important thing you should do is to see your school counselor about what it will take to graduate on time.  A lot can be done between now and next June. Find out if your plan for coping with your ADHD needs to be modified. Talk about what you will do after you graduate - having a goal may help keep you motivated.  

Don't worry about the other things too much  Having a driver's license or a job or a steady relationship are nice, but you can live without them for a year or two yet.  Focus on YOU - figuring out who you are and what you want to become.  Once you know that, the rest will fall into place.

Everyone has failures.  Everyone has tried things that didn't work.  They are all just opportunities to learn something and move on.  Don't give up on yourself.  This will pass.

Answer 10

You're only a failure if you want to look at things from the negative perspective, any one anywhere can be said to be a failure if they start naming all the things they have yet to achieve etc. Maybe it's time to be thankful for the things and qualities you already posses, only YOU can make your situation better. Think of it this way, you're still very young so you have plenty of time to meet someone, finish school etc, as for your family being mad, put it this way, at least you still have a family that cares enough to be mad at you!. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because it doesn't solve anything. As for the medication you are taking, maybe you should ask your doctor to let you try a different one, and if money is the issue, getting involved in outside activities like volunteering in charity causes etc, might help you feel better,help you meet people etc., P.S. don't worry too much no one's perfect in this world, we're all struggling!

Answer 11

I think a good first step would be to just set an appointment with a school counselor and talk to a professional about how you feel about yourself.

Answer 12

Hello,

At your age, I felt similar.  So many do, because they're not experienced in feeling the good and the bad with everything at your age.

Also, it souds like you might suffer from clinical depression.  Once you get that treated, it can be like a whole new world out there.  Talk with your parents about it, and if they don't listen, go to your school counselor.  Do it quickly, so that way, you will be able to graduate.  You are not a failure!  You're human.

Answer 13

wow I'm in the same situation I'm thinking about just ending it i have no friends failing the 10th grade and no future life sucks so u wanna kill me then u kill u?