I feel like I am a very stupid uninteresting person lately. How can I become more interesting & outgoing?

Question

I feel like I am a very stupid uninteresting person lately. How can I become more interesting & outgoing? I really liked this divorced guy and we went on several dates but I got really shy and couldn't think of anything to talk about. I felt so uninteresting and undesirable after that didn't work out. This feeling has stayed with me. What can I do to be more more interesting & outgoing?

Answer 1

Just go to him and say hi then ask him out.You can't loose.

Answer 2

Read the newspaper and stay up on current events.  What does he like to do? Learn more about what he likes so you can talk about it with him.

Answer 3

Try reading.

  Simply reading books (not fiction) will give you stuff to talk about but so many people don't do it these days. Remember that this problem is most likely in your head (i know...sounds cliché).

Answer 4

Change your focus.

I find that many women are focused on finding a Man.  That focus lead to a void in other parts of their lives.  Your focus should be on your career, your hobbies, world events, exercise and sports, religion or whatever interest you.  Be good (and/or knowledgeable) about something.

Then the thing that interest you will most likely lead you to meeting guys will similar interest.  After that, the conversation are easy.

For example, I'm interested in the Christian faith, Volleyball, and Computers.  If I found a Christian female Engineer that plays volleyball, we could talk for weeks non-stop.

Answer 5

Get some weird interests.  I often feel like you do but when I can talk one-on-one with someone about my weird hobbies it gets pretty interesting.  I play guitar, I travel to asia for business about 6 times a year, and I tend to break the law fairly frequently... petty stuff like trespassing, or jumping the stage at a concert.  i also get speeding tickets and occasionally I drink beer in the car.  

all those things lead to some interesting conversation.  i don't usually tell people that i drink in the car 'cause they generally frown on that.

i'm 40 so my wife is not happy about my behavior... but hey it beats doing drugs for excitement.  have you seen "american beauty"?  I am just like kevin spacey in that movie... professional and bored.  Maybe it's a new phrase "Generation P&B" ??  

Answer 6

join a club that gets you to speak out more, or just be around more friends/people..it'll get you out of your shell.

Answer 7

Read the newspaper.  90% of social conversation is based on what's in the paper (just pulled that figure out my hoo hoo).  But it's true, the newspaper has weather (who doesn't like talking about the weather), sports (big hit with the guys), politics, crime and gossip.  A daily dose of the paper will get you in the loop.

Answer 8

Start drinking!

Answer 9

do what he like

or ty to find what common interests you have