I feel like I am becoming my grandma, please help me?

Question

My grandma has severe depression and she is mentally ill. She is in prison right now for stealing $40,000. Everyone in my family talks bad about her and about how weird and messed up she is. I have had bad anxiety for about 6 years. This last year it has gotten really bad. I am starting to wonder if I am becoming like her. My family compares me to her all the time about things I do or say. How can I make sure I don't become like her? Is it possible for me to become like her?

My worst fear is becoming like her. Even before she stole the money. It is not that I am afraid of. I am afraid of the way she acted. She was really mentaly ill. She tryed to comite suicde about 5 times. The thing about stealing is something I know I will never do.

Answer 1

First, what your family says to you is wrong and they owe you an apology.

If you ever start feeling depressed, stop it immediately before it gets a chance to progress, there is a lot they can do for depression now. It's amazing..

Answer 2

Well, since you know all of the wrong choices that she made, just dont make the same mistakes.

Answer 3

There's an old addage that says, "Sooner or later, your mother's hands will be coming out of your sleeves."  But the fact is, that even though you honestly may face similar things- you will never be exactly your Grandma, and you will never do exactly what she did.  You're going to make it!

Answer 4

You won't become like her because you already know what the problem is.  You have seen it in her...so you know you can get help to keep any problems at bay.  I'd get medical help for the anxiety, if you're not already. And if you start to feel depresed, get help for that.  Just keep an eye on any problems and get help for them before they become big ones.  I wouldn't worry -  just take the best care of yourself you can and things will turn out fine!

Answer 5

A mental disease is something that you are born with. Something in life then triggers it so you start to feel Deppresion or bi polar.  They may be saying that you have the same personality, but chances are is you won't become exactly like her. If you have deppresion and you know that for a fact, take some pills that a doctor would subscribe. Your grandma couldn't have been all bad. You probably won't be going to prison in the future because not that many do. Just make sure you don't have a mental disease and keep being you.

Answer 6

ask your family to quit comparing you and making those kind of comments.   tell them your fears.  you are not becoming her.  let go of this fear.  free yourself.  set your intention to be the best you, you can be.   talk to someone at mental help about this, also,if you can get there.  i used to hear the same kind of stuff, but it was  my father.  i heard it so much, i thought i was becoming him.  but, it was all because the family talked so bad about him and made remarks about me being so much like him.  now, that i am older, i see these things.

i think you are very wise in recognizing the problem before it gets too much out of hand.  you are a very valuable person.  blessings to you!!!

Answer 7

I am a Psychology student with one semester left until I receive my Bachelor's Degree. Not being a licensed doctor, I will give my best opinion based on the scenario provided:

Just because you suffer from anxiety does not mean you will inherit other mental disorders such as depression (mania/bi-polar), or become a sociopath (which sounds like your Grandmother may suffer from).

I've had anxiety for years and any time another family member gets mentally ill or does anything "not of the norm" I am immediately compared to that person. Its not fair.

You have a good head on your shoulders and that alone will help you not to become like her. I grew up with an alcoholic for a father and witnessing his behavior on a day to day basis was enough to discourage me from ever drinking liquor.

I think you will be fine. Consult a Physician if you ever feel the need.  

Answer 8

ooh thats a bad lady how did did yo how di d she steal alot all that money. im sasd too now i miss my grandma she dead now and is is is i..whats that wrdord? degrating