I feel like I can't ever please my parents..

Question

My dad constantly puts me down and it makes me feel terrible. I feel like I can never do anything right, and he's always yelling at me for something. Most of the time he does this, I feel like crying and sometimes I end up crying. I'm a human and make mistakes, and he can't seem to understand that.. I feel like if he continues to do this i'll break down. Tips..?

Answer 1

maybe sometime when he isnt mad at you, try and sit down and talk to him. tell him that when he insults you it hurts your feelings, and you think he doesnt love you anymore. maybe that way he can understand what he is doing to you. if you do this, and he understands the results of his behaviour, and then he still does it, then you just have to hang in there until you are old enough to move out.

Answer 2

pray, and continue.. make God ur priority in life, and give ur achievements to Him, He will appreciate ur works... pray for ur father to realize what he is doing... by the way, do u have Jesus in ur heart already? if not u can let him In by prayer: just ask Jesus to come to your heart and ask Him to always lead you from now on...

dedicate all ur ambitions to our  God, and it will succeed... don't worry and commit ur father to God, He will talk to ur father in such a surprising way u will not expect.... u can mail me also, good day...

Answer 3

talk to him about it or talk to your mom about it maybe she could talk to him too

or you could just try to figure out why he acts like this it could be stress

Answer 4

First off, you are not alone. Many, many people experience these same feelings.

I suggest you talk to your dad about how you feel.  Maybe he doesn't realize how destructive his words are. If this doesn't work, maybe it's best to talk to a school counselor - he/she will be able to help you deal with your feelings. Chances are, your dad's just trying to do what's best for you, but he's not doing it in a way for you to understand it.

Answer 5

Have you ever heard the saying you can pick your friends but can't pick your family. It's true. You are really hurt and this is a very sensitive situation. Your father sounds like he has some issues and stress in his life. In return he is being hard on you and it's really driving your relationship with him into the ground. Growing up I was verbally and physically abused by my mother so I understand emotional abuse. It tears you down as a person in all aspect and lowers your self-esteem. Sometimes we have to cry to let out that frustration and anger. The first step to your problem is getting some counseling for yourself and invite him. He might be defiant to the idea so go for yourself. Try to initiate conversation with him at times when he's calm by explaining to how you feel. Also try to turn a negative conversation into a positive. For example tell him you love him and you really adhead his advice. But you don't like to argue or fight because it's mentally breaking you down. Depending on your age you do have choices. If you 18+ maybe move out. If under 18 you need to talk to another close family member or an adult who specializes in this field. This is a very serious situation and I don't want you to do anything that will harm yourself emotionally or even physically. If things turn really bad there are people that care and can aid you with support and please don't shy away from the idea of needing help. Also don't be hard on yourself or put thoughts in your head as it's your fault. It's not you it's him. Don't let your father make you feel less than a person. I know it's easier said than done but I promise you will get through this with help. Maybe one day when your much older he will apologize and you will be forgiving toward him. I have the greatest relationship with my mom now. I really pray you will to with your father.