I feel like I want to burst and cry. Need advice please...

Question

Tomorrow I start a new job, but recently I've been in a major depressive episode. I have a reccomendation from my doc to see a psychiatrist, but need to make a couple of checks to get it underway. All I can think about is losing my girl a year ago, and how I don't have anyone to talk to about this. Today is the worst I've ever felt. Even a bit suicidal. But I can't let this fall through. What can I do?

Answer 1

Hey, i once had depression and took medicine as well and guess what, that medicine make me worse cos it makes me dizzy and sleepy. My life then was really meaningless!

I managed to get it out of my life by getting out of the house, preoccupied with lots of things including exercise, talked it out with close friends and my mum who was scared out of her wits upon hearing me having depression and she was really saddened.

How could i break my loved ones' heart? That is my motivation and my focus and i eventually succeeded getting out of the depressed life.

You are starting new job soon. So focus on this and your loved ones. Time will heal your wound. Be faithful

Answer 2

I guess the best thing is such situations is always to start afresh.

Give yourself a fresh start. You have a new job your way and you surely should now s***w that up.

Just try being happy that you are getting a new start. I know it is not very easy but you should try forgetting the past.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear what happened in your past. I had a failed relationship before, and I'm learning to let go of the past and move on. It helps to listen to positive messages. I recommend this sermon "God is in control"  to you as I believe it will help you whether you are a believer in Christ or not.

http://m.youtube.com/details?v=VwNqRmlBZ...

Remember, God loves you and He knows exactly how you feel.

Answer 4

If you are 21, I would recommend a Jack Daniels whiskey on the rocks, with a chaser handy, coke straight up. But only one or two glasses to calm your nerves. Not getting blasted the day before work. Or even red wine, two glasses. If you are under 21 you might instead try a couple cups of decaffeinated coffee instead, though I'm not sure it is as effective.

Answer 5

Hey, you should relax tonight.  Read your favorite book or do what you like to do.  Get a good breakfast and just think about how your going to get the job.  There's hope for everyone.

Answer 6

What do you mean about losing your girl? Who was she how did you lose her.

Please post that info and I may be able to give some advice.

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Thanks for adding the info. First of all no one is perfect.

If you have been together less than 3 years living in the same house, then you really don't know each other as well as you think.

Take that from a woman who has been married 25 years to the first husband, who thought I was perfect. And married 8 years to another man who thought i was perfect.

Get me pissed off and the perfect goes right out of the window.

But , with each one I learned , and I learned even more when I was alone. Living on my own, I learned to just be happy with me. That way I was better to live with. You must love you for who you are.

Go to your new job with a new out look , and take what you have learned about yourself and apply it to your life.

In the end all will turn out fine. But you have to work your own plan.

Don't give into negative c**p. You will just get what you always have.

And see if you can get an antidepressant, it will help you feel like a new man. Baby steps, as long as you keep moving forward.

Answer 7

the good thing about depression is that when you will be busy, and around otheres, it gets you out of yourself, and it helps, try the job for just one day if you cant handle it then leave, youre not in jail, good luck

i am on meds which really really helps

Answer 8

Well, it looks li you're a guy. IF that is the case, just do what women do..go sit in a quiet room all alone and let it go man. There's nothing wrong with a guy who cries. There is absolutely no reason to hold back. So, just cry!

Answer 9

The first thing you need to do is decide whether or not you are going to allow people like your ex make you feel the way you do. Once you've decided you've had enough, you can begin to help yourself. Are you honestly going to kill yourself over something you could not control? I doubt it. She's made her decision, and all you can do is live with it. Sure, it hurts, but you NEVER loose something without getting something of greater or equal value in return. Think about that. I've been there myself, and honestly I'm still struggling. I have problems with anxiety and depression. I've spent the last 2 years living in a hole, stuggling to find my way out. I finally decided that I have no choice but to take control over my own life. Yes, it hurts, digging deep into the wounds, but it's necessary. Stand up, look at yourself in the mirror, and make a choice. Are you going to stand up for yourself or not? Don't be afraid to leap, you feel much better once you do. Challenge yourself, and remember that you will never get anywhere standing still. Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

Try to remember you eyeballs are on the front of your head- not the back.  That's so you have to look forward, and it takes effort to look back.   You also tend to stumble and fall if you try always looking over your shoulder while trying to walk forward.  So swivel your head around and focus what's in front of you.  Sorry you lost the girl, but that is past history.  Until you can get to speak with a psychiatrist, you need to force your focus on moving forwards and keep your focus on the positives the future holds.  You will gain nothing from looking backwards, except a more reason to dig the hole.   Tomorrow marks the beginning of that future, and a good reason to avoid falling into a deeper pit today.  Focus on whats in front, and keep it that way.  If you really feel suicidal, then make a call to the hotline.  Call or go see any spiritual advisor you like.  There are plenty of people willing to lend an ear and help you get through the hard spots.  Suicide is never a good solution, because you are worth more than you realize.  There are people who care, and you just need to reach out to them right now.  Good luck, and remember- look forward, not back.

Answer 11

Not sure what you mean by losing your girl, it takes time for everyone, try to let go and get on with your life. You need to think about what you can do for and with others not about yourself and how you think you should feel bad. Suicide is a selfish way, you are only thinking of how you feel, turn it around and look to help others and how they feel. Learn from what happen and let it make you stronger.

Answer 12

If you can get to sleep fairly soon, a good night's sleep would help you cope. If you can't sleep right away, is there someone you can talk to who usually has a calming affect on you? Only call a person who has a calming and stabilizing effect on you because you want your new job to go the best possible. You may need to let a lot out when you see the doctor, but now is not the time. You can hold it together. As  you said yourself it is important. Take care of yourself. And it wouldn't hurt to say a prayer.

By the way, give yourself credit for being able to get the job. You're doing something right. Hang in there.

Answer 13

Since this is your first day, you dont want to take a risk- check with the chemist if they have any over-the-counter(if thats the phrase i want) drugs that they can give you without a prescription. just explain that you need something soothing. i dont know if any such drugs are available, but you can give it a try. just till you get to see the therapist, NOT as a permanent solution.

i would go to a place of worship if i were you to feel calmer.try reading the Bible or any other religious book you have faith in. also, do you know any breathing techniques? if yes do those.

best of luck and God bless.