I feel like Im not ready to be a mom?

Question

Does anyone else ever get this way. Im married and we wanted this baby from the start. DONT GET ME WRONG, I love her to peices and I cant wait to meet her but sometimes Im like, WOW this is a huge resposibility, will i be able to do this. It is my first child. Then I feel like I will have no clue how to take care of her or how to teach her. I feel like this is a normal step of anxiety and that it is normal sometimes to be like WOW im going to be a mom! I LOVE MY BABY GIRL but I feel sometimes like Im not good enough of a person to be a mommy to such a precious little baby. And I even feel bad thinking I might not be a good mommy. Have you ever felt this way.

AND PLEASE NO RUDE ANSWERS

Answer 1

Sounds very normal to me. It's new... it's different... it's life changing... who wouldn't be scared or nervous about it. I think even the most prepared parents are nervous about it. Whoever tells you to give your baby up for adoption is stupid. All I can tell you is to relax and enjoy the ride. It's going to be tough and you are going to NEED patience but in the end it's all worth it.

Answer 2

I was like that with my first.  Once I was able to hold my son though all of that went away.  I am like that again with my second one too.  But I know once I hold her all of that will change.  I think every pregnant woman goes through that.  It is a part of being a parent.  Best of luck and give her all of your love!!!

Answer 3

im with you im 22 happy and 36 weeks pregnant i just feel like i dont want to fail my baby boy as mother your never prepapred for this no one is people just do the best they can and adjust im excited though because your given a gift and it was given to you for a reason so best of luck and congrats

Answer 4

Yes, I have felt this way. One day I even spent the whole day crying and asking my husband if I was really good enough to handle this responsibility. Wondering if I could really handle the responsibility and how in the world am I going to handle waking up every couple of hours in the night? And will my love-life disappear, and will my husband still find me attractive etc.

I think it's normal, and could just be a thought process and hormones going on. A lot of women say they go through this then the baby comes along and they don't know why they were ever worried in the first place.

Answer 5

Your thoughts and feelings are very normal.  If they get too bad you might talk to a therapist.  Sometimes these feelings come from a lack of a great relationship with your parents.  Maybe your afraid you won't be a great mom.  But you will.  Just believe in your self.  It will all turn out ok.  

Answer 6

I would be more worried about the mentality of someone who is not afraid of the monumental task of motherhood.  As a mother, the best advise I can give you is to trust your own instincts not the advice of everyone in the entire world who will try to tell you how to parent your child.  

Answer 7

Everybody goes threw when they first have a child they thing they're not equipped for the job but keep doing the things to keep her alive and well and you will do great. Congratulations

Answer 8

It is normal to worry about being a good mom. I worry everyday, will we have enough money. What if this happens or if that happens? AND I am pregnant with my 2nd child. It is just instinct to feel this way. Dont worry yourself too much and when you feel worried talk to your spouse about it and I am sure that will make you feel alot better about it all. I am sure he is just as worried as you are about being a good dad.  

Answer 9

Its ok to feel the way you do everyone goes through it just some are afraid to say how they feel, its a good thing that you let out how you are feeling instead of holding it in, that will be good after the baby is born and help you with the depression part after, I felt that way when i had my daughter but i was alone and had no help, and i feel that way again with his one i love my kids and i would never want to change the fact that im 20 years old and going to have 2 kids, i would not be who i am today without them, you are a good person becuase if you were not you would hold your doubts in and take them out on your baby and others, If your worried about being a good mother most of the time you are a good mother, just dont over do it everything will be ok your just nervous talk to over with your husband so he can know how you feel also he might be feeling the same way and holding it in and it will help both of you, Just let everything fall as it should and it will be ok good luck and god bless

Answer 10

Oh, yeah. Definitely. As much as my husband and I wanted to have this baby and as much as we already love her, I'm scared to death that I'm not going to be a good mommy. I think it's just because she's our first. I'm really excited to meet her, but at the same time, I am worried sick about not taking care of her like she needs. I guess we'll just settle in and get more comfortable with it after a few months. I bet all new moms felt like this at some point. Don't worry, you're not alone! You'll be a great mommy! Good luck with everything and congrats on your precious baby girl :)

Answer 11

Its okay sweetie , just calm down what u are experiencing is quite natural every mother's worst fear: being a good mom! And even though i dont know u i think ur motherly instincts will kick in fine, EVERY woman is not perfect @ anything she does it might take a while to get used to it but u will so just relax and take a deep breath and enjoy being pregnant with ur 1st child because once its all over u can never get  it back , congrats to u and ur husband!

Answer 12

honestly it isnt as bad as ppl say it is . and we all feel this day to day even after they grow older. You need to remember this you are tired being you are prego your body is working hard . Hang in the dear you will be wonderful

Answer 13

Sounds normal to me.  This is the biggest thing a woman can do in her life.  You're nervous and there is nothing wrong with that!  You'll be a great mom, I would think a pregnant woman who has no fears at all is either oblivious or in denial!  Good luck!

Answer 14

I know how you feel.  I am due at the beginning of December with my first but I feel like, I can't do this or I am not ready for this. I also worry about if I am going to be a good mother, and what if she comes home at 16 and tells me she's pregnant, or what if she gets into drugs.  It is common among first time moms. The what ifs can be a terrible thing. try not to let them get you down.