I feel like I’m trapped, need some comforting words?

Question

When my mom first asked me where did I want to live, I choose the property across from where they live. (Note: The reason I choose the land because at the time I was scared of moving far away) As my parents were in the process of buying me the land, I suddenly got uneasy, which I soon came to discover that I did wanted to move far away (let’s face it, living across from you’re parents doesn’t seem like too much freedom). Because I don’t want to be in my neighborhood when problems arise (or to overhear other people’s problems because I get extremely paranoid) & I don’t to look at the same scenery over and over. I like a PERMANENT change of scenery & not go vacations/travel all the time.

Now (because I didn’t open my scaredy mouth up sooner), my parents have bought the land & I feel like I’m gonna be “trapped” in the same neighborhood I grew up in forever. Sometimes when I go out I don’t be feeling like coming home, because I know I’m just coming back to the same place.

Answer 1

Dea Love star, You could sell the property and tell your parents that you are into real property investment.  This might impress them that you have your head screwed on.  You can invest the minds you make and live in different places from time to time.  First close to your parents and then a little further away each time you move.  

Later you may find a place that really is 'home' for you and settle down.  Alternatively you can find someone to love and move in with them.  Use the property to start your new life together.  I hope this Helps.

Answer 2

You sound a little trapped. Do you have a job? Maybe you need to start putting your money aside to buy your own property, even if your parents can buy one for you. While your saving up money for your own place, you can have fun shopping around, seeing what's available and picturing exactly what you want.

You can dream a little and think about what exactly you want. Your own place will be completely yours, without parental input.

You mentioned you didn't want to be in your neighborhood when problems arise? Are your parents fighting a lot? Is that why you moved out? Again having a hobby like house shopping could be convenient. You could just have fun with it, telling people your looking for ideas for your own house. Great excuse to take off for a bit whenever things are uncomfortable.

Answer 3

Listen, don´t beat yourself up so bad. First of all, they were great to you by just getting you a piece of land. You didn´t think at the time for the consequences, but instead of looking at all the negatives look at the positives. First of all, just because your parents live across the street doesn´t mean you can´t have privacy. You seem old enough so you have all the rights to be left alone when it´s appropriate. If you go away on a trip it is much easier to have your parents close to look after your home or pets, and in an emergency too!

Plus, they might need from you from time to time and it´s much better to just walk a few steps.

I understand that bringing dates or having parties is difficult with them looking over at you through the window, but you´ll just have to talk to them about that. They have to understand.

In a while you could start looking for another place and sell. Listen, as long as you´re honest you talk to them and tell them you´ve found a better place and you´re just looking for your best interest!  

Answer 4

I am confused, why are your parents buying you a house or property or whatever?  If you want freedom you need to stand on your own two feet and buy your own house or property or whatever where ever you want to live. You will always be trapped if you depend on others to do things for you, no matter which neighborhood you live in.  If you aren't able to pay for your own living arrangement right now that is ok.  Use this as a motivator and get yourself into school or some sort of career training program.  Live where you are until you can make changes to your life that you need to make.  It may also be more bearable to live someplace you are unhappy about if you know that it is only temporary.